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Is this MIL's finest hour?

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namechangeorimfucked · 18/06/2015 11:54

I've had to name change because my family members know my name on here and if they knew what she was doing all hell would break loose..

MIL is currently on her way to the hospital to visit a relative (her niece). Niece has just this morning welcomed her first baby after a very traumatic labour that has lasted days. A failed induction and many hours later, she has had an EMCS and both are apparently doing well. MIL knows about all this because her SIL has been giving her updates as she receives them from her DD and her partner. She has relayed said details to me and DH.

MIL gets on ok with her SIL but does not like her niece, she has been very judgmental all through her pg, both behind her back and to her face. As a result of this, niece and MIL fell out at a family gathering about 3 months ago.

MIL received a message from her SIL saying that the baby is here but they do not want visitors til visiting time tonight. Despite being told this, MIL is going to the hospital to see the baby... Her SIL is not even attempting to go yet and its her GC.

Niece lives in another county, MIL is on her way there now, NHS staff badge around her neck, to pop in and see the baby. She accused the niece and of being 'silly' and once she gets there she will be happy to have a visitor. She also said that she has to go now because she is busy later in the week and 'can't be expected to wait for them'

The Niece's DP is on facebook now letting everyone know things are ok. Do me and DH tell him she is coming?

We explained to her that she will not be let in if they don't want to see her and she said she 'knows her way around' and is 'practically staff'. She is expecting to see the baby before her own SIL...this is going to cause a shitstorm so big it will consume us all.

OP posts:
namechangefortoday543 · 18/06/2015 15:47

Glad to hear she isn't a HCP .
I would def go to Pals and state your concerns that she may be looking at your medical records though.

LittlePeasMummy1 · 18/06/2015 15:48

I have narc+++ MIL and so very much looking forward to hearing that this one has been taken down a peg or three...

diddl · 18/06/2015 15:50

Wonder if she has been told that they don't want to see her.

She's going to have trouble getting her head around that!

UpSeeDaisies · 18/06/2015 15:50

I'm on it purple and now taxi-ing while sneakily on MN. May be time to go sob. This will be a long flight!!!

TurnipCake · 18/06/2015 15:50

ifyourehoppy

Yes, when I had a departmental induction, we were told of a case where a disgruntled ex-boyfriend had accessed his ex-girlfriend's records and had accessed results of STI screening etc. He was sacked and police were involved.

ipswichwitch · 18/06/2015 15:51

You can get into serious trouble for looking at friends/relatives records on the hospital network, or in fact anyone's records if you have no justifiable reason to do so. It is possible to track who logged in to whose records and when. Make it perfectly clear to anyone who will listen that anyone found to have informed your MIL of anything to do with your care will be subject to a formal complaint.

An nhs badge means naff all in terms of trying to gain access, as my boss found out when she used gets to swipe into the main ward area leading to Scbu (where I was with new born DS1), to visit us after his difficult birth. She got frogmarched back out by the nurse and made to use the intercom!

CSIJanner · 18/06/2015 15:51

My MIL was wanting of sit outside when mine was born. We lied about the dates so ex booked a holiday from work, booked flights 2weeks after the alleged due date and then claimed poverty so had to stay in our house to be waited on whilst I leaked and was in pain from an EMCS. Never ever again.

Hope fhe niece is okay OP? As she's the niece, does this mean DH's uncle is MiL's brother? What does he makes of this?

misskatamari · 18/06/2015 15:53

Blinking heck she sounds hard work. I really hope the nieces partner stood up to her!

redshoeblueshoe · 18/06/2015 15:58

CSI its OP's Mil

McKayz · 18/06/2015 15:59

I'm on tenterhooks. I want to know what happened!

Sleepybunny · 18/06/2015 15:59

Shameless place marking

PuntasticUsername · 18/06/2015 15:59

COME ON OP

dollius · 18/06/2015 15:59

Refresh, refresh, refresh. Gah!

zzzzz · 18/06/2015 16:00

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ProcrastinatingPat · 18/06/2015 16:00

I too am shamelessly place marking. I actually am shocked to hear about your MIL. I thought MN had out shocked me.

EvilTendency1 · 18/06/2015 16:01

I'm hitting refresh constantly !

needs to get a life

SallyMcgally · 18/06/2015 16:03

Place marking

ProcrastinatingPat · 18/06/2015 16:03

Flip me, this is gonna be an epic update.

Rubberduck2 · 18/06/2015 16:03

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wannabestressfree · 18/06/2015 16:04

Me too...... :)

Gibble1 · 18/06/2015 16:04

My mother rang a "friend" who worked in the emergency department on the desk. Somehow, this woman was able to access the information such as what I had had. Mother then rang my sister and other family members to announce DD's birth before DH had even had a chance to leave the delivery suite. Bitch. My sister told me this and we made sure she was not allowed any information when I had DS.

fastdaytears · 18/06/2015 16:04

Was your MIL calling from police custody?

lapetitesiren · 18/06/2015 16:04

Sadly over invested and waiting for an update.

Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 18/06/2015 16:05

My thumb is nearly worn out from refreshing!

A good come uppence is worth the wait!

LastOneDancing · 18/06/2015 16:05

Grin @ fastday