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not to let dd go for a jog round local country park by herself in the evenings?

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CocktailQueen · 02/06/2015 11:46

We live ten mins walk from a country park. You have to go along canal to get to it. DD is 11 and wants to go for a run by herself in the evenings along the canal, round country park then home.

AIBU not to let her?

If she had a phone, would that make it any different? She walks to school by herself but that seems different to me - more people around. Country park can be v quiet. Big deep lake too.

DH more inclined to let her go.

Can't think what I'm worried about - abduction? falling into lake? loose dogs in country park (often a problem)? It just feels wrong.

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sadwidow28 · 04/06/2015 22:25

Ivykaty said:

You have found five attacks out ofa population of thirty five million......now go and look at how many people died in cars last year and will that stop people getting in a car tomorrow morning?

No, you have had 5 examples of SERIOUS attacks/murders within the last 14 months. Do you need more examples before you become convinced that 'risk assessment' is essential life-skill for all adults to function successfully in this world?

I am a 1950s child and could play on the road with my friends all day and every day. There were only 3 'posh' people who had cars who drove down our road in those days and they were pushing it to get 40mph out of the car!

When people were dying unnecessarily in road traffic accidents, the laws were changed to ensure that we all wore seat belts. When children were still dying unnecessarily in RTA because adult seat belts strangled them, the law was changed to make sure that children under the age of 12 were in an appropriate child seat/on a booster seat in the back of the car.

It is all about risk assessment and prevention!

My dog is allowed to legally travel unrestrained in my car as I drive along a motorway/road. However, I risk-assessed when I adopted him 10 years ago and decided that he must be 'trained to be restrained' in a harness!

(a) he could bounce about the car when I am driving and distract me - therefore causing me to make a collision with unsuspecting car drivers
(b) if he is not restrained safely in his harness, he could crash through my front windscreen with a rear-end collision and be killed himself
(c) if we have any collision - not necessarily my fault - his 35kg weight hurtling through the back seat and onto me could crush me to death
(d) if we have a slight collision and others opened a car door to help me, the dog will want to jump out and run (in fear) and may run on the road/motorway - therefore causing a major RTA.

It cost me 3 seat belts (he chewed anything that restrained him) at £180 per time before he got the message! Now, I show him his harness and he knows we are off to the beach .... or somewhere else nice. He is 16 years old and arthritic, but he still lifts his legs to step into his harness.

He knows the rules!

Theycallmemellowjello · 04/06/2015 22:26

Ohh gosh I wouldn't do such a job myself (or be happy my DH doing it). No way would I allow a child to.

Theycallmemellowjello · 04/06/2015 22:27

*jog

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