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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

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Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

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ApeMan · 01/06/2015 19:55

I would not kneel and jam my hands down someone else's bog and clean it, apart from anything else if they are minging enough to not have a toilet brush they are probably lax about cleaning around the toilet too. Rather not go tbh.

Songlark · 01/06/2015 20:07

"When you have to go you have to go"
Only if you've got a stomach disorder, which I somehow don't think he did. He's just arrived at the OPs house to pick his DP up and feels the need to shit and leave a hell of a mess in her toilet. He could have waited till he got home.

ConfusedInBath · 01/06/2015 20:07

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monkina · 01/06/2015 20:38

Songlark- how do you know that he didn't have a stomach "disorder"?..... You don't, no one knows!

Most people would much rather wait for the comfort and privacy of their own home.

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 20:49

"He could have waited till he got home."

Well clearly he couldn't
I am shouting because you are being obtuse.

You must have iron bowels that only perform to order and therefore think that everyone else's should as well.

Your attitude towards people with bowel issues is woefully ignorant and extremely irritating and annoying and completely lacking in understanding.

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 20:56

If he was mortified he would have quietly asked OP where she kept her cleaning stuff.
What is worse - putting your hand down a loo to clean someone else's shit or putting your hand down a loo to clean your own shit?
And who decides just to leave their shit for somebody else to have to deal with?
If your period came on at somebody else's house, would you leave blood spatters on the loo seat/floor/walks (yes, this has happened to me) or would you clean it up with bog roll and water?

Songlark · 01/06/2015 21:01

Your attitude towards people with bowel issues is woefully ignorant and extremely irritating and annoying and completely lacking in understanding.
The mans left a mess in the toilet and you are presuming because of that he has bowel troubles. WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT?? Can't he just be a dirty bugger. You don't KNOW he has bowel troubles.

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 21:05

There are two separate issues. The fact that he needed the loo straight away and the fact that he didn't clean it afterwards.

IMO the first one he couldn't help, but I agree that he could have cleaned up afterwards, even if it meant wiping around the bowl with some loo roll, or even giving the loo a couple more flushes (in the absence of the dreaded toilet brush hated by so many on here).

Songlark · 01/06/2015 21:09

So you agree now that he doesn't neccessarily have bowel issues?

Redhead11 · 01/06/2015 21:14

Even if he had a bowel disorder, it is completely out of order to leave shit in the toilet! I don't care who you are - if you do a massive skiddy shit in my toilet, you bloody clean it up! He would be okay in my house as i have a toilet brush. But even if there wasn't one, he should have cleaned up. I have suffered from IBS for years and have had to do more than one clean up of a toilet in my time. It wasn't pleasant, but it had to be done! I'm sorry, but he was a dirty bugger!

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 21:15

I don't know whether he does or not, but you keep banging on about how he didn't need the loo when clearly he did. D'oh!

Gabilan · 01/06/2015 21:17

When you've got to go, you've got to go. This doesn't necessarily mean you have bowel problems, it could just be that last night's chilli caught up with you.

You should try your best to leave a toilet how you found it. In the absence of an obvious loo brush and if you're unwilling to get a wodge of loo paper and wipe around the loo (not a sentence I thought I would be writing when I got up this morning) then the best you can do is flush a couple of times.

RunRunAsFastishAsYouCan · 01/06/2015 21:38

Every time myself or dd does a number two I put bleach down straight away. I don't need a toilet brush as this is the only way I clean the toilet and my toilet is sparkling. I use toilet wipes for the top bit and that's it.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 01/06/2015 21:57

Songlark that wasn't your argument initially though. You've just continually yelled 'he could have waited' which people have argued well no actually he may not have been able to.
No it doesn't mean he had to leave a sloppy mess I never have but that's a different issue to whether he could wait.

PunkrockerGirl · 01/06/2015 22:01

Filthy minger.
That's all.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 01/06/2015 22:02

Very few things make me properly laugh on MN but Bunbaker's comment about a clock work bottom did

Songlark · 01/06/2015 22:08

Bunbaker why do you keep saying "he clearly did". That still doesn't mean he couldn't have waited.Sharon my original argument still stands. Unless he had bowel problems he could have waited. Just plain rude.

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 01/06/2015 22:13

I use my toilet brush to clean my toilet. With bleach. It's then run under a hot tap, rinsed through with more bleach and placed back in it's regularly-cleaned holder.

People use them to wipe fresh shit off the bowl?!

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 22:18

Songlark why do you find it so difficult to accept that he probably couldn't have waited? I suspect most people would prefer to use their own toilets and therefore only use loos in other houses because they can't wait.

So many posters have written on here that when you've go to go you've got to go. Not everyone has the kind of control over their bowels that you clearly do. They don't even have to have bowel issues, but might have had a fiery curry the night before.

It is rude not to clean up afterwards, but it isn't rude to need the loo in the first place.

Gabilan · 01/06/2015 22:18

"Unless he had bowel problems he could have waited."

Does really, really needing to have a shit count as a bowel problem?

Janethegirl · 01/06/2015 22:22

Simple, wipe your bum then wipe the bowl. Toilet brushes are just gross. Probably more germs on your bum than in the bowl. The bowl gets flushed with fresh water.

Flyinggeese21 · 01/06/2015 22:26

Ostentatious well said! If loo brushes were used as you've described you do I don't think if have an issue with them. The problem is... they're not.

Redtrousers · 01/06/2015 22:32

Sorry OP and pp but I've had a really shit day ( no pun intended) but this thread and it's comments are making me really chuckle. In particular , bun baker ... :)

Songlark · 01/06/2015 22:32

So bunbaker if that's the case and people simply can't control their bowel urges I take it you'd be quite happy for the window cleaner to come in and have a shit in your bathroom. There's a time and a place.

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 22:38

Actually, yes I would be happy to let the window cleaner use the loo.

Because I understand what it is like to be that desperate for the loo - and because he has been cleaning our windows for 11 years and I know him.

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