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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

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Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

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SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 18:10

The people saying he just flushed and went before it finished thus not noticing his shit all over the bowl are implying he left straight after flushing which means he would not have washed his hands. The "maybe he flushed and went" is being used as justification for leaving the shit, but if this is true it still isn't an excuse as he knew the evacuation was smelly and should have checked after flushing. If he did flush and go he could not have washed his hands.
So he's a dirty bugger with dirty hands if he flushed and went and a dirty bugger if any if the other variants apply - flushed and didn't bother checking, flushed and decided to leave it. Because it's basic manners to check that a stinky shit hasn't left remnants your host will have to remove

Stealthpolarbear · 01/06/2015 18:13

Don't people close the lid, flush, wash hands?

getbusyliving · 01/06/2015 18:14

You should always check Stealth, there might be a floater Wink

getbusyliving · 01/06/2015 18:16

But yes the lid should always be closed because apparently poo germs can spread far and wide and if you have a toothbrush out, well Confused

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 18:21

Always check. Especially in someone else's house when you've had such a stinky shit you've had to open the window.
Anyway, no mention of the lid being shut in the OP who was greeted by the sight, so seems likely he flushed and didn't bother checking and didn't shut the lid. Unlikely such a minger would bother shutting the lid as he isn't bothered about shit sputtered over the loo so why would he worry about shit particles dispersing around the loo?

SandInMySandwiches · 01/06/2015 18:24

Postman asked to use my toilet. I was on my way out so didn't go into the bathroom until the evening. He had left such a shitty mess, I had to throw the toilet brush away. Traumatised. Yes, that's right, I'm another toilet brush-user.

expatinscotland · 01/06/2015 18:27

'He had left such a shitty mess, I had to throw the toilet brush away.'

I'd have pulled him up next time I saw him. That's fucking bad manners. But I am one of those who would have said no.

Lightas · 01/06/2015 18:42

They don't notice, like they don't notice the pile of dirty plates and cups left about, or the dirty towels or clothes left in the bathroom, or the pile of mail left on the coffee table.

Pepperpot69 · 01/06/2015 18:49

We have a holiday park, you would be amazed what people leave behind in a loo! ..and they actually STEAL the toilet brushes - totally disgusting! Who wants to steal a public loo brush???? Urggghhhh!

Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 01/06/2015 18:58

If I do a poo somewhere with no bog brush then I just assume the toilet owners don't care about skiddies. If they wanted me to clean up they would've left a brush out.

kimmyw · 01/06/2015 18:58

If he was in there for 10 minutes then he was probably doing his best to fix the problem. Not many people would use loo roll and put their hand in someone else's loo, including me. I don't have a loo brush, i wouldn't be bothered if someone left a skid. Its not the end of the world. Just squirt bleach down and put the lid down and get on with my day Smile

FlabulousChix · 01/06/2015 19:01

Some one used mine Saturday and was there ages I don't have a brush and it was sparkling. I'd suggest lining the bowl with loo roll before going

neepsandtatties · 01/06/2015 19:18

Can someone clarify, are we talking in the OP (and in the frothing that follows) about "above the waterline" skids or about "below the waterline" skids?

Surely no guest would have a problem cleaning up their "above the waterline skids" with toilet roll?

And surely no host would expect a guest to clean up their "below the waterline skids" without a brush?

Are we all talking about the same skid category here?

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 19:22

He was probably sat there for 10 minutes having a massive crap - there is the evidence for that all over the toilet bowl.

There is no evidence that "he was probably doing his best to fix the problem", is there? None at all. Because fresh air coming in a window does not clean shit, does it? Why would you say "he was probably doing his best to fix the problem", when there was shit all over the toilet bowl showing he'd done nothing to clear up his own excrement but decided to leave it there.

The evidence left behind shows he had a shit but doesn't give a shit about who clears up after him.

Newsflash - men are just as capable of noticing shit and cleaning it up as women. And most of them do just that. There are always a few dirty buggers though, or those who think it is women's work

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 19:22

He was probably sat there for 10 minutes having a massive crap - there is the evidence for that all over the toilet bowl.

There is no evidence that "he was probably doing his best to fix the problem", is there? None at all. Because fresh air coming in a window does not clean shit, does it? Why would you say "he was probably doing his best to fix the problem", when there was shit all over the toilet bowl showing he'd done nothing to clear up his own excrement but decided to leave it there.

The evidence left behind shows he had a shit but doesn't give a shit about who clears up after him.

Newsflash - men are just as capable of noticing shit and cleaning it up as women. And most of them do just that. There are always a few dirty buggers though, or those who think it is women's work

Bedsheets4knickers · 01/06/2015 19:25

Out of interest could everyone just put their general location and if they do or don't keep a loo brush
I do West Midlands
I had no idea loo brushes were such and interesting topic :-)

wearejustlikeKevinBacon · 01/06/2015 19:28

I love MN on the subject of poo!

Wasn't there a thread a while back about a 2 year old who stripped naked and then proceeded to take a dump on the dining room floor while the guests ate their pudding?

IIRC the majority posted that the toddlers behavior was acceptable...all this poor guy has done is taken a poo and left a few marks and he is being called a dirty sod!

I wonder if his wife is on MN?

StonedGalah · 01/06/2015 19:29

Without a toilet brush OP YABU.

Only on mn is a brush outlawed.

Take note other's; without one your bog
could look the same.

Gabilan · 01/06/2015 19:34

"You don a glove"

How is that less disgusting than a loo brush? The loo brush is clearly going down the loo and the loo only. If I used a glove I could pretty much guarantee that my mum would helpfully clean my entire bathroom whilst using it the next time she visited.

You're not using a loo brush for anything other than cleaning the toilet and you can always leave it in a bit of bleach.

ConfusedInBath · 01/06/2015 19:39

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Stealthpolarbear · 01/06/2015 19:40

Yes where do these gloves get stored and how is it less yucky than a brush

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 19:42

He's a "poor guy" because he decides to leave his shit for somebody else to clean up and people think it's disgusting? So it's not his fault for not cleaning up his own shit but everyone else's for daring to think he's a dirty bugger. Poor precious mite.
If we all decided not to clean up our own shit what a delightful place the world would be - so fragrant and hygenic. Not.

There is a huge difference between a toddler and an adult male.

People froth (and rightly so) about people leaving dog crap outside. SO why the "poor guy" attitude about someone leaving their crap inside? It's a hundred times worse.

Lightas · 01/06/2015 19:43

So do people leave gloves in the toilet for this, how do you know it is the toilet glove, it could be to clean the sink or general cleaning.

monkina · 01/06/2015 19:53

I actually feel quite sorry for the guyl

He was probably mortified, but when you have go, you have to go!!

Yes, it wasn't nice for you to find, but these things happen in life. He wasn't to know that you had toilet duck brushes and that you wanted him to use them!