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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

493 replies

Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

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Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 22:39

And I would hate to think he was taking a dump in my garden because I had ridiculously uptight ideas about other people needing the loo in a hurry

gamerchick · 01/06/2015 22:44

Yanno this thread has really made me chuckle. Simply because I imagine the opposite where a bunch of dudes on a forum somewhere are discussing their wife's friends shit.

'Here lads take a load of this turd the wife's mate did at ours'
''' many appreciative comments with a few that's so juvenile peppered throughout'''

Then out comes photoshop with a few hours of reposts that the wife in question pokes her head around the door to see what all the laughing is about.

Seriously man, shit goes in toilet anything else is small peas.

Songlark · 01/06/2015 22:44

I used the window cleaner as an example of someone you might not know very well. Think of someone you don't know, would you be happy to have their bum sat on your toilet shitting?

Sallystyle · 01/06/2015 22:47

I have bowel problems. I have never left a mess like that in someone's toilet.

I also line the toilet with toilet roll as well which can help.

And sorry, when I have to go I have to go, or I would actually just poo myself.

I think it is gross not having a toilet brush and I have never met anyone without one irl. I simply couldn't leave a toilet in that state, even if I did have to clean it up by sticking my hands down and then cleaning my hands like mad afterwards. Not pleasant, no, but if after all, someone needs to clear up the toilet. My poo, my mess, my job to clean it.

Although I do think it is horrible not to have a toilet brush so guests don't have to be put in this position.

ApeMan · 01/06/2015 23:21

For me it's putting guests in this position and then judging them that is BU.

Saying you could clean the bowl with toilet paper, your fingernails etc. doesn't make up for not having a brush like a normal civilised person.

I mean if that's gonna fly, why not save yourself the expense of buying toilet paper because they can always swill their number out in the bathroom sink. Heck why not just dig a hole in the garden and send guests to that. :)

ApeMan · 01/06/2015 23:23

*swill their bum out in the bathroom sink. Stupid autocomplete.

Icimoi · 01/06/2015 23:26

I really don't get why you so totally discount the possibility that he had bowel problems, Songlark, even if they were just the being-caught-short-suddenly-after-a-chilli variety.

Hallyracket · 01/06/2015 23:57

Ostentatious " I use my toilet brush to clean my toilet. With bleach. It's then run under a hot tap, rinsed through with more bleach and placed back in it's regularly-cleaned holder."

I can tell you are very fastidious but quite curious to know which hot water tap you rinse the bog(ging) brush under? Do you then have to disinfect the sink etc?

My mind is bog(gling).

Also...where do you clean the "regularly cleaned holder"?

Thank you

Topseyt · 02/06/2015 00:39

Have the dreaded poo crumbs been mentioned yet?

Has anyone suggested washing the bog brush in the dishwasher yet? I do recall another toilet / poo thread where a poster revealed that her DH had done this. Shock

Songlark, I do hope you never develop any bowel problems or you will have to eat a lot of your shit words from this thread.

Momagain1 · 02/06/2015 00:56

An extra flush, a swipe with a wodge of loo roll, and then flush that, would clean it up enough. Someone says guests should not have to put their hand in your toilet, but then again, why should anyones hand but your own go anywhere near the poo you just left all over it? You dont have to touch the pan, or the poo. Nor get poo on the loo brush. Nor use bleach at this point.

Underbeneathsies · 02/06/2015 01:48

Well, be thankful for small mercies.

At least he sat on the loo and didn't have a massive dump on your floor like a drunk friend of mine did while decorating the basin and bath with exorcist type vomit- and they say men can't multitask!

Or leave piss dribbles on the loo and the mat, (not drunk, just French) and refuse to clean it up when I told him off.

I think shitting in the loo is an excellent start.

Motto: "my aim is to have a clean bathroom, your aim will help."

I put corks in the loos when we have people over, to remind them where to aim...... Sad, but true.

BertrandRussell · 02/06/2015 06:28

"Think of someone you don't know, would you be happy to have their bum sat on your toilet shitting?"

Er- yes. Because that's what it's for!

WayneRooneysHair · 02/06/2015 06:48

A toilet is for shit and piss, I can't see the problem. Get a toilet brush for gods sake.

Bunbaker · 02/06/2015 06:55

"I used the window cleaner as an example of someone you might not know very well. Think of someone you don't know, would you be happy to have their bum sat on your toilet shitting?"

I wouldn't have a problem with that at all - because I am not uptight about the purpose of a loo. Besides, we have a downstairs loo by the front door.

SoldierBear · 02/06/2015 07:03

The man wasn't a guest. His wife was.
He was not put in any position. Rather the reverse. He put OP in the position of having to scrub his shit off her toilet because he chose not to do that himself.
Disgusting behaviour.
I've seen it suggested on here that dog walkers should carry water and wipes to clean any smears off the pavement yet people do not expect a grown man to clean up his shit in someone else's house?

Bannerstaying · 02/06/2015 07:03

For heavens sake NOTHING but loo paper should be flused down the toilet bowl!!! Have you never been caught out? The man was probably mirtified but he opened a window he tried. What did you do? Do NOT flush those dreadful duck things down the loo you may not suffer but someone down the line will IAssure you. Put one in a bowl of water and see what happens do you really think a short trickle of water against just 1 of those things has any chance. MN wise up!!!

SoldierBear · 02/06/2015 07:13

Why does opening a window mean he tried?
He didn't try. He did nothing to remove his shit. He opened a window.
That had zero effect in removing shit. Which everyone knows

Sallystyle · 02/06/2015 07:14

So what do people use to clean their toilet?

I understand that bleach is horrid stuff but other toilet cleaners are fine, right?

Because if nothing but paper should be flushed down the loo how do you keep it clean?

And I really don't care who uses my toilet. I am not a germaphobe and the thought of someone's arse sitting on my toilet doesn't really bother me.

Someone says guests should not have to put their hand in your toilet, but then again, why should anyones hand but your own go anywhere near the poo you just left all over it?

This.

And I don't really care how dirty toilet brushes get. I don't touch it with my hands and they are cheap enough to replace often.

BertrandRussell · 02/06/2015 07:16

I don't think anyone is saying he shouldn't have cleaned up after himself. Obviously he should. Although the loo owner not providing anything to do it with does seem a little.....perverse!

The issue appears to be whether or not it is acceptable to defecate in anyone's loo except one's own. Which it obviously is.

SoldierBear · 02/06/2015 07:16

And if he was mortified that's great.
Not at having a shit because we all do that.
But for being an ignorant prat who decides to leave his shit for someone else to scrub off.
But someone who does that is likely to be impervious, not mortified. Because there was an easy way not to be mortified that involved taking a wodge of bog roll and removing his shit.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/06/2015 07:30

I had this problem at a friend's house once. She's not a MNer but she is definitely anti-toilet brushes - and I was a bit WTF when I couldn't find one. However, I had to just use a lot of loo paper and clean it as best I could with that, and several flushes, and wash my hands really well afterwards.

There is NO WAY I would have left a toilet in that state, I would have been completely mortified for anyone else to find it like that. I think it's actually really rude for people to even do that in someone else's house unless they absolutely have to (I was staying overnight at my friend's house so really didn't have much option) - in the case of the man in the OP, he should bloody well have either gone before he left home, or waited until he got home, unless he has a serious medical condition (Crohn's or similar). In which case, he should bloody well have cleaned up after himself.

merrymouse · 02/06/2015 07:49

Think of someone you don't know, would you be happy to have their bum sat on your toilet shitting?

Isn't it a bit difficult to only use your own toilet? Surely at some point you have to share with strangers?

merrymouse · 02/06/2015 07:50

(Share consecutively, not simultaneously...)

merrymouse · 02/06/2015 08:00

And I still want to know what people do when they use the loo at work - do they bring their own personal loo brush?

Again, I wouldn't expect anybody to delve into the u-bend, just wipe around the seat as necessary and remove anything above the waterline that isn't flushing.

You aren't touching anything except dry loo roll.

Songlark · 02/06/2015 08:29

I think it's actually really rude for people to even do that in someone else's house unless they absolutely have to
Exactly