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to use a buggy for 8 year old

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 16:50

my 8 year old is not well. but i really need to go out tomorrow. as i need to registar babys birth. its meant to be done 42 days after birth but hes 6 weeks so im already late doing it and i cant council because it would take to long for the next appointment. plus i need to go to the council and could be sitting there for hours.... i dont have anyone to leave him with.

or do i give him calpol and get him to walk as he 8 after all

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fiveacres · 31/05/2015 20:37

I agree with that and I think many of us were too fixed in our thinking initially, which I apologise for.

Having said that, I really am a bit concerned about the child's age and the length of time he's been so unwell for. Have you seen the GP at all, ghost? x

Jen1610 · 31/05/2015 20:39

Where is your eldest daughter going to be tomoro?

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 20:40

five he only got ill this morning.

little i cant go much longer without maternity allowence

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fiveacres · 31/05/2015 20:43

Ah - sorry! I thought you meant he'd been ill 5 weeks! Idiot - me, not you!

Jen1610 · 31/05/2015 20:43

Stick him in the buggy and get on with it. Needs must, get him wrapped right up. I'd probably walk to the registry office if possible though to have minimal contact with people like elderly on buses. Then it will be a few minutes in the registry office. End of drama.

PaulineFossil · 31/05/2015 20:58

Well done, op, you're coping with three children, completely alone, one of whom is sick and one of whom is a new born while presumably still recovering from the birth yourself. Added to this you have money worries. Obviously you know the buggy isn't ideal or you wouldn't have started the thread, but in the circumstances it seems the least worst option (though I hope the babysitter can do it, not only for your son, but also for you - registering your baby is a lovely thing and I'm sure you'll feel far happier not having to worry about your ds while you do it). Good luck and hope he's better soon.

Starlightbright1 · 31/05/2015 20:59

I have very little support system so yes I do understand however there is time we have just gone without becuase I have not been able to get out. Can dad not have him? sorry no idea of history ( sorry).

I get that he doesn't need a dr yet. However he really sounds too poorly to go out with a bug that is clearly contagious, travelling on public transport with lots of elderly, you need to find another solution . I suggest you call them in the morning if you can't sort out childcare for 8 year old

Pipistrella · 31/05/2015 21:06

Hi Op

So sorry you are in this difficult position. I remember trying to register ds3 in town with no parking spaces for miles, I had bronchitis, it was new year - my Dad was luckily able to drop me there with him, I could hardly stand up but managed to stagger into the building and up the stairs and it did take at least 10 minutes to do all the forms.

I then staggered out again and my Dad came back for me. My Mum was meanwhile managing my older two. (I was on my own as well - sometimes there is no one, I'm so lucky to have my parents nearby).

I don't think I'd have coped without my folks and I totally sympathise. You are doing well to cope as it is. I think you sound sensible and caring and you're doing your best in a very tricky situation.

I would first off ring the registry office again and explain the situation. They MAY have a cancellation in the next few days or next week if you're lucky, then you can relax. They will be aware of the appointment situation already, it's not your fault.

I would hesitate to take your poorly boy out tomorrow, buggy or not, as he will feel really rotten. I wonder if, it being late already, they will do their utmost to find you another appointment.

Worth a try when they open? xx

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 21:14

i cant rearange if i could i would...i need maternity allowence sorted

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 21:15

thankyou pauline

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fiveacres · 31/05/2015 21:15

That's completely reasonable Smile

Pipistrella · 31/05/2015 21:19

No I mean they might be able to change it by a few days, meaning you'd still get your allowance sorted soon?

I imagine they will try their best if you ring them and ask. If not then you're no worse off iyswim? You can still go along tomorrow if they can't do that.

bluejeanswhiteshirt · 31/05/2015 21:27

He might feel up to it tomorrow? When I registered my daughter the waiting room was full of new babies so I would have probably freaked out if I knew someone was there with a stomach bug. Do what you have to do though.

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 21:30

oh i see...that wont work though as my appointment is 9.30 and i have to leave home 8.30 to get there. they dont open till 9

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Artandco · 31/05/2015 21:52

Ghost, if you want to pm where abouts you are in London you welcome to some spare nappies we have, think they are size 2 so probably a bit big atm, but we bought just for travelling ( used cloth at home), and youngest is now 4 so def don't need anymore.. Think there's two whole packets

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 21:58

thankyou art i can get nappys tomorrow :) thank you though

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yetanotherchangename · 31/05/2015 22:06

OP you are getting such a hard time on this thread and I completely agree with Paulinefossil. Well done, you sound like you have a lot on your plate!

Hopefully your 8yo will be well enough to walk tomorrow, but if not the buggy sounds like the best option if you think it's going to hold up and you are sure you are going to be ok to push it. Otherwise, do you have a buggy board you could use/borrow and put it on the baby's pram?

By all means sit him outside the waiting room if possible, but it's a fact that if you take a baby out into the world they will be exposed to germs. As for not using the bus because of the vulnerable people on it - FFS!

People saying that she should take him to the doctors for a virus - why? It's that sort of behaviour that means the NHS is so underfunded.

Good luck tomorrow OP and I hope you get it sorted.

ThisFenceIsComfy · 31/05/2015 22:16

I'm not sure why you asked the question tbh. You aren't really interested in the replies.

Hopefully tomorrow your son will feel a bit better and it won't be so much of a problem. I would call in the morning though and explain the situation so that way you can feel you've done all you can.

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 22:19

changename thankyou...dont have a buggy board the baby pram is kind of big as well would be difficult plus buses that time of morning wont get it on...neighbour has leant me a basic unbrella buggy its a mini mouse one Grin

yes i stronly agree about the nhs thing total waste to take him docs for them to say give him calpol.

and i doubt very much a bus would ever be 100% bug/germ free

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 22:20

fence what did you ask? looking for you post now...

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 22:25

oops i misread sorry fence well to begine with my question was should i use a buggy for unwell 8 year old.i had not intended on in becoming more than that.

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imip · 31/05/2015 22:26

I've put dd8 in the buggy a handful of times when we've been out on days out. Most recently in march when we were in Melbourne at the zoo. She suffers from hyper mobility and can often be in lots of pain after walking a lot. It's difficult to manage but it's only towards the end of the day when she is in so much pain she can barely walk and in tears Sad

ragged · 31/05/2015 22:33

Good luck, Ghostspirit. I hope your 8yo is better soon. And hope you don't regret asking!!

pourmeanotherglass · 31/05/2015 22:35

Is he a very light 8 year old? I'm not sure if buggies are built to take the average 8 year old, there is a risk it could break.

ConnortheMonkey · 31/05/2015 22:39

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