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Original poster

to use a buggy for 8 year old

207 replies

ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 16:50

my 8 year old is not well. but i really need to go out tomorrow. as i need to registar babys birth. its meant to be done 42 days after birth but hes 6 weeks so im already late doing it and i cant council because it would take to long for the next appointment. plus i need to go to the council and could be sitting there for hours.... i dont have anyone to leave him with.

or do i give him calpol and get him to walk as he 8 after all

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littleflick · 31/05/2015 20:12

Order online.

OddBoots · 31/05/2015 20:13

I would suggest Asda/Tesco online shopping but it is sounding like funds are tight so you might not be able to do that.

ilovesooty · 31/05/2015 20:15

She's already trying to get a babysitter littleflick

antimatter · 31/05/2015 20:15

I would worry that the buggy may collapse under his weight (unless you have one esp for his size)

littleflick · 31/05/2015 20:17

Ask a friend or neighbour to pick the nappies up for you.

If the 8 year old's so ill he can't manage getting on and off a bus people will be happy to help.

Artandco · 31/05/2015 20:18

Order nappies online or get eldest to pick some up.

Please don't take him out surrounded by old people and other children on buses etc. that could mean someone else has to then take a week of work looking after a sick child or they could get much worse if younger or older and weaker immune system

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 20:18

oh yeah never thought of that regarding nappys haha.

but just in general i do wonder if the replys are coming from people who have support system... i dont have one...and as i said i have gone 5 weeks not being able to claim matternity allowence...if i council that be another 5 weeks. that be at least 10 weeks.without maternity allowence which is making things difficult

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NinkyNonkers · 31/05/2015 20:19

I really would rearrange. He sounds really poorly and needs to be resting, not sitting outside a reg office in a pushchair. Similarly, other members of the public won't thank you. You can request to register at a different reg office, have you tried that?

Artandco · 31/05/2015 20:19

But you get maternity from before baby is born? You just show hospital letters confirming due dates not a birth certificate

littleflick · 31/05/2015 20:21

He's been that unwell for five weeks?

littleflick · 31/05/2015 20:23

My support network is neighbours and local friends. Widowed with no family nearby.

ilovesooty · 31/05/2015 20:24

She didn't say he'd been unwell for five weeks. She said she'd been waiting for an appointment.

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 20:25

artandco that was the idea...i was meant to send of forms they dont ask for birth certificate. Baby was 10 days early so it all went to pot and they want birth certificate now thats hes been born

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 31/05/2015 20:25

Given that the op has a 12 yo it's fairly safe to say she's likely to notice the difference between a unpleasant but not very dramatic virus that tends to be ignored whilst you go about your day just feeling pretty crap and weak and one of the illnesses that appears on the usual exclusion lists.

It's also likely that's she's far less of a drama llama than all the posters on this thread who go running off to a doctor for stupid reasons, Christ alive do people really need to see a doctor to be told their 8yo has a bog standard virus and you should make sure he drinks enough and has paracetamol if in pain.

She also knows here registry office and it sounds a bit like mine, I've been to mine more than 7 times and never seen anyone there who was not staff and never bumped into a baby. Many of the do not operate like conveyer belts they a,so tend to be the ones where appointments are scarce.

She's been without an essential part of her income for 5 weeks, is it that hard to imagine that someone who can't afford £20 for a taxi may need to get her child benefit and tax credits and HB sorted ASAP and she can't do that without registering the baby?

Op if it makes it easier for you there is bugger all wrong with utilising a buggy. What exactly is it that people think will happen if you do? Youve already said your son won't be bothered and will fit it's not as if he will lose the ability to walk because you sat him in a buggy once when he was unwell

Original poster
ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 20:26

i dont have that little

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ilovesooty · 31/05/2015 20:27

I hope your daughter's boyfriend agrees to watch him ghost

fiveacres · 31/05/2015 20:30

Well, I can sympathise with not having any support system.

Where are you ghost?

littleflick · 31/05/2015 20:31

I don't get this at all. It's not about using a pushchair, it's about taking a child to buses and offices, who's so unwell with a virus that he can't walk. People think this is ok? No thought for anyone with whom he has contact? He's not allowed at school, but sod everyone else?!

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 20:31

so do i sooty be a madness if not...hes at work so might not see the message till he finishes..fingers crossed

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fiveacres · 31/05/2015 20:32

I'm concerned about the child. I can sympathise with ghost's position, but personally I think this little boy needs to see a doctor.

That said, if she's got no money, then needs must.

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ghostspirit · 31/05/2015 20:33

five im in london

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fiveacres · 31/05/2015 20:34

Ah - miles away, I am afraid! Sorry, that was pretty useless!

ilovesooty · 31/05/2015 20:35

It's hardly an idealsituation but I don't see how *ghost8 is supposed to magic up solutions and support systems that aren't there.

muminhants1 · 31/05/2015 20:37

For what it's worth, when my son was born my husband was ill and my midwife said not to worry - my baby would be protected by my antibodies and it was worse for my husband than my ds!

DS didn't get ill until he was 10 months old and by that time he was going to nursery.

I find it astonishing that it's so hard to register a baby's birth - I can't remember now, but I thought you just turned up and did it!

littleflick · 31/05/2015 20:37

She needs to rearrange the appointment. No magic, just telephone.