to feel sorry for kids who are always playing out

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Probilly sounding very judgmental here. On our bit of street we have 2 families who never seem to do anything with their kids they are just playing out constantly I often wonder when they manage to go in for tea/dinner let alone baths, homework etc.

So yesterday dinner was time for us to go out go find my eldest dd who said why cant she play out with the others explained we are going to see an elderly relative whos about celebrate her 80th then we can call to the near by park this girl was listneing in and said thats laim fair enough not the most entertaining day for a 9 year old but the younger ones enjoyed themselves. Got back tea time and the bunch of same kids were still all i the street aged ranges from 4-12 and apparently one of the kids have said to my 2 eldest that Im stuck up and trying to stop them playing with the other kids. Why the hell would an 8 year old come out with that comment.

My kids do play out particully my 9 year old and never stopped her playing with anyone theres the odd incident where ill say think you best come away for a bit to avoid something.

Its same after school eve on a school night during summer months out until 9pm some nights wonder where the hell they find time to do stuff.

Sorry on phone today typing not very good.

I agree with op to an extent, when I was growing up there were some kids (7-9yos) local to us that were kicked out in the morning and told not to come back until 6pm for dinner on the wends. I found that quite shocking even as a child.

There are a few kids that play out local to us now, one is a very sweet girl who likes riding about on her bike and another who comes from a family that called her a f*ing bitch a few days ago These girls are 8-9yo, dd is allowed to play out the front but only where I can see her and normally only for an hour or so before tea.

Playing out has its ups and downs - sometimes I want to be really lazy and have a slob out kind of day but feel I need to get dressed as the 5 or 6yo from across the road will be knocking for my 7yo!

When the weather is good, they are all outside our houses on their bikes or scooters, they know the ground rules (tell us who you are knocking for, and if you are invited in let us know first which house you are in, no going beyond a certain house (nothing wrong with that house, just defines an area that is relatively safe traffic wise as everyone who lives in our end has kids or has kids that have not long grown up, it's a cul de sac so no through traffic).

Yes, there are times when I feel a bit sad that I'd like to play board games or puzzles or do some craft with just my own DDs and going out playing with their friends appeals more, but at least they are getting fit!

There's a girl a few doors down who is always out. She's knocking everyday on the door asking for dd1. If we go out she will sit on the pavement and wait for us to get back.

Times where she has been in our house to play, she is quite bossy and rude to dd2, telling her she needs to go in another room and she mustn't play with them. One time she tried to evict dd2 off her own trampoline and out of the garden. I wonder if that's something she gets at home from her siblings

yes we had a similar problem on an estate in Brighton Dionysus, a poor lonely child knocking at all hours, yet you knew that once you let her in, she would be vile to your own children.....

Wow to replies, havent botherd coming back on as been too busy.. I feel like I was misunderstood alot the other day which maybe was my fault maybe not getting my point across as well as I could, but hey ho.

Stand by how I feel anyway I think the fact one of the kids from a family were very excited yesterday about going to the local park for birthday picnic said it all really never seen anyone so excited. They were then out in street until gone 10pm last night adults seemed to be having a birthday celebration on her behalf, the 2 year old boy was crying and screeming most the night and music blasting until gone midnight think they kept the whole street up.