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to be really pissed off with MIL

227 replies

Sandbrook · 25/05/2015 22:08

MILs 7th birthday this week. Of late she was speaking of never getting a chance to go away/hotel break etc etc.
So DH and I gave her a voucher for a nights stay in a 4 star hotel about 45 mins from home bearing in mind she's not a great traveller.
Just off the phone to SIL who's told me MIL has given the voucher to her other son and wife to treat them. Unsure whether she regifted letting them believe she paid for it or not. But still I'm fucking annoyed as if she didn't want the voucher I would have happily taken it back and used it as a much needed break for DH and I.

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icelollycraving · 28/05/2015 19:09

So she booked it even after your dh put his comment on FB. I suggest he posts on FB to say you're off for a spa night. this is because I'm thoroughly enjoying this thread

diddl · 28/05/2015 19:49

" I suggest he posts on FB to say you're off for a spa night."

Yeah.

How about "managed to get mum's pressie back for her...!

icelollycraving · 28/05/2015 20:19

Oooh yes,great idea ^ Smile

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Sandbrook · 28/05/2015 20:31

Epona, db was told to give voucher back as it was cancelled and he said he'll have to check with SIL and see what she wants to do. You couldn't write this stuff honestly!! Why they think they have a choice how it plays out is beyond me.
But following advice from mn moral compass I will let her know for sure in the morning that she has nowhere to go so she can stop packing. I am a little nervous excited about her reply to me

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TidyDancer · 28/05/2015 21:42

I'd love to say I'm surprised about the cheekiness that continues on this thread but sadly more than one of my friends and family have made it onto MN for similar attitude problems.

I'd pay to see SIL's reaction to realising the voucher has been cancelled. She is probably currently thinking she can blag still using it! People like this never learn though, so it would be a mistake to think she will be taught a lesson here. A cheeky bastard will always be a cheeky bastard.

ememem84 · 29/05/2015 07:00

Just caught up with the thread. Good work op.

I'm curious to see how sil reacts....

ThatDidntQuiteGoToPlan · 29/05/2015 11:07

Have you messaged her yet?

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Sandbrook · 29/05/2015 12:08

Message sent at 11.30 this morning along the lines of fyi the voucher that mil gave you has been cancelled as mil would like something else for her birthday present.

She replied immediately to say what voucher, not sure what you mean. Will check with my DH to see if he knows what you are on about
This is the last I've heard.
Grin what voucher indeed.

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bigknickersbigknockers · 29/05/2015 12:30

My MIL does this all the time. She has 5 children (DH is the youngest) and she constantly favours BIL over her other children. I feel your pain Sandbrook, ask her why she did that and in future rethink the gifts you get her. As someone else said... flowers and chocs in future.

diddl · 29/05/2015 12:32

Hahaha!

Err, the one that you posted about on Facebook?? Grin

icelollycraving · 29/05/2015 12:33

Wow,she's brazen! I'd be tempted to say,you know,the one you had a wobbly about & guilt tripped mil into giving you!

diddl · 29/05/2015 12:34

Well OP, if she really doesn't know what you are on about, then it's a good thing that you got it reissued as it's obviously missingWink

AlternativeTentacles · 29/05/2015 12:35

Ha ha ha - she's fab!

bloodyteenagers · 29/05/2015 13:41

Oh wow. What voucher... She has some balls.. I reckon she is still going to rock up and try and use the voucher

TidyDancer · 29/05/2015 13:43

Fucking hell she has some balls. She must know you know everything.

I wouldn't be able to stop myself from baiting her into another response!

Fatmomma99 · 29/05/2015 14:40

She's amazing. The SIL that keeps on giving (whilst taking!)

Do you think they'll still go, Sand? You must find out.

Do you think if they go, they'll still try and blag the voucher?????

This doesn't feel like the end of the line for this thread at all yet.

diddl · 29/05/2015 14:54

It just makes her sound daft imo.

Other SIL was there when she was given it, she has posted on FB about it.

I thought that she would have come back with a much better response.

kickassangel · 29/05/2015 15:28

how tempted are you to text back, "The one you wrote about on FB. OR have you got a memory problem?"
(Don't, it would cause an argument, I'm sure, but I would be so tempted.)

cuntycowfacemonkey · 29/05/2015 15:30

I'd just send back " Wink "

cuntycowfacemonkey · 29/05/2015 15:31

It says "I know you know that I know"

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 29/05/2015 15:46

i cant wait for an update!!!!

EponasWildDaughter · 29/05/2015 15:50

Ahhh, but SIL didn't actually mention the voucher in her FB post did she? She said she was 'being treated' to a spa weekend or something. Wriggle room for her there.

Also - MIL told the other SIL about re-gifting didn't she? I'm picturing the nice SIL not actually being there when the voucher was handed over.

Therefore evil SIL might think she can just blag her way through this. The moo.

diddl · 29/05/2015 16:10

True, true.

So how about "the voucher that you used to book yourself & BIL in for a spa this weekend"?

Of course she has "wiggle room" anyway as MIL gave it to her.

WhereYouLeftIt · 29/05/2015 16:42

EponasWildDaughter - no, nice SIL was present -

"It is Def the same voucher, SIL was witness to the handover." (Mon 25-May-15 22:25:51)

And then reconformed by OP -
"Plus SIL was there first hand so I appreciated her coming to me." (Tue 26-May-15 11:08:18 )

Which makes spiky SIL's 'what voucher' totally laughable. No wiggle room! Grin

Clutterbugsmum · 29/05/2015 16:49

I don't think SIL believes OP has cancelled the voucher. Perhaps OP DH should text his brother that the voucher has been cancelled. I would also maybe pop over to MIL this weekend incase SIL causes more stress for MIL.