to think we should be told about this 30 hrs a week holiday?!

[feckthis]

my DH has just told me that I as a SAHM have 30 hours a week to do what I want with while the DC are at school. I am outraged no one has seen fit to tell me of this important fact. AIBU?

[umiaisha]

I am Sahm to 3 kids (baby, 4 year old and 9 year old)

In comparison to when I was full time wohm life is a permanent holiday now!

[TheRealMaryMillington]

"just wants me to accept it as ok that he can go out in the evening whenever he feels like it, while I shouldn't need to go out or indeed expect him to come to family events if he doesnt want to because I can do what I want in my 30 hours and I don't work"

Well then he's being a total arse. End of.

[arethereanyleftatall]

Zeezeek, going by the responses on this thread alone, you're getting cross by something that isn't actually happening. I haven't read through it really thoroughly, but I think none of the sahp's of school age kids are bleating that it's difficult - we're all agreeing it's rather nice. With the obvious exception of those with extenuating circumstances, such as the op with illness and another poster with travel issues.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Zeezeek Why are you frustrated by women who "bleat about" - there you go again, using aggressive, belittling language - being stay at home parents? I just don't get it . Are you jealous? I don't understand why you keep having a pop at people.

[ASorcererIsAWizardSquared]

oh sorry, was i bleating? I didnt realise having a disabled son and mother who between them take up 90% of my 'holiday' time during school hours was so offensive.

Again, yes im a SAHM, no its not easy. But hey, i'll swap you your job for being a lifelong carer of a disabled child!

[zeezeek]

You're missing the point. Having a disabled child is full on, even I realise that. I'm talking about a certain sub-group of SAHM ....but, what the hell. I can't be bothered to go through it all again.

[youareallbonkers]

Parents who work full time still have to do everything so you do have a lot more free time.

[Fauxlivia]

zeezeek, you do sound like you have a lot on. If your dh is effectively a sahd for your dgc, can he not help do the batch cooking at the weekend or share housework with you then? I don't really understand why you are doing so much.

[zeezeek]

You would not want to eat my DH's cooking, and besides I enjoy it. We muddle through. We're ok. But thanks.

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Can I ask a question, it may sound naive but if you both work full time, how do you manage to drop your kids at school at 9am and collect at 3pm if you are meant to be at work from 9am -5pm?

[GuybrushThreepwoodMP]

After school clubs etc

[Oliversmumsarmy]

But not all schools have after school clubs every evening. Dds school doesnt offer anything and dss have 1 drama and 1 dance club 1 afternoon per week.

[howabout]

I have 3DC under my feet from now till Wednesday. Cannot wait for my 30 hours off!