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to think local working mums give me a bad name?

173 replies

cubmum · 19/05/2015 21:17

On my local fb mums group there are working mums moaning how tiring it is. Recommending work from home (which I loathe if my team at work request this sort of thing) Maybe I'm very lazy (I do let laundry pile up etc) but I think working is in a way easier cos I do F all at home and my lovely nanny does the hard work in a share. I come home, play, do bath and story and bedtime and cuddles, think how cute my kid is as the nanny is complaining about my infant Terrible, do some light tidying up if i feel like it, make myself a quick dinner (or grab a sarnie on the way home) and dh if I feel like it. I don't know how women run households or what cleaning standards they have but I honestly find it easy on the physical aspect (ignore the guilt or emotional dilemma or work stress they were moaning about physical exhaustion) and find it annoying to hear this sort of moaning. Also i find it insulting that it is a wife's implicit responsibility to cook for dh it's a choice surely.

It was similar when i was on mat leave and my nct group moaned how hard motherhood is. I always had to nod and agree when i just LOVE IT. It is a blessing. but maybe I just don't understand women being a woman myself. I work 5 days full time and dh very long hours. Maybe I should move, I'm also sick to hear about mums who have nannies + sitters + night nannies in my area too. I think we are a much luckier generation than previous ones.

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PickleSarnie · 19/05/2015 21:21

Well aren't you just brilliant.

Alisvolatpropiis · 19/05/2015 21:23

You know not every working mum has a nanny, surely?

avocadotoast · 19/05/2015 21:24

I think you should count yourself lucky you're in a position to be able to afford a nanny to help you have such an easy life. A lot of people can't; a lot of people don't have that luxury. And for a lot of people it would be a hell of a lot easier to work from home (especially taking into account travel costs and travel time etc).

I don't really see what your problem is tbh. If people want to whinge about finding things difficult then let them. What difference does it make to your easy life?

Dawndonnaagain · 19/05/2015 21:24

ODFOD.

ShakesBootyFlabWobbles · 19/05/2015 21:25

Well that's 2 minutes of my life I will never get back.

formerbabe · 19/05/2015 21:25

l'm also sick to hear about mums who have nannies + sitters + night nannies in my area too

I'm so confused... You say you have a nanny so why are you sick of other mums having them? Confused

catgirl1976 · 19/05/2015 21:26

Maybe you don't put enough effort in at work or home?

CrystalCove · 19/05/2015 21:26

What is the point of this thread really?

Julietee · 19/05/2015 21:27

Why are you sick to hear about other women in your area who have childcare help? So you're allowed the level of help that suits you and that you can afford and they're not?

Waltermittythesequel · 19/05/2015 21:27

Wtf are you on about?

Thurlow · 19/05/2015 21:28

Um... ok? Confused

usualsuspect333 · 19/05/2015 21:29

It's not the local working mums that are giving you a bad name...

WorraLiberty · 19/05/2015 21:29

A thread from a Mum moaning about other Mums moaning?

The irony...

26Point2Miles · 19/05/2015 21:29

What a strange post

madreloco · 19/05/2015 21:29

You seem well able to give yourself a bad name.....

Eigg · 19/05/2015 21:30

Erm, so you are complaining that because you find your life easy, other working Mums should too?

I'm not sure I understand your point? Do you think they are lying or do you think they just aren't as well organised as you?

I work full time in a pretty full on professional role. My DH does too and also travels away from home a great deal.

I have primary aged children. My child care arrangements don't include feeding the children or any housework. So I rush home at night, pick up the children, prepare dinner for us all, do bath and bed, do a load of washing, do some house work, probably log on to do some more work and somewhere in there attempt to find time for spending time with my DH, some exercise, a social life and (if I can fit it in) sleep.

Now I'm not complaining about my life, I've made my own choices and we're pretty happy. However it is tiring.

I don't complain on Facebook about it but I understand why others might.

EatShitDerek · 19/05/2015 21:31

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mynameisvivienne · 19/05/2015 21:32

I'm so confused. What is your AIBU.

Women that have more help than you?
Women that work from home?
Or women that moan because they don't have help like you do?

OurGlass · 19/05/2015 21:32

Oh piss off love

PacificDogwood · 19/05/2015 21:33

Yes, what is the point of this thread?

Different people find different things hard??
Well, blow me down with a feather.

LilQueenie · 19/05/2015 21:34

either trolling or just hasnt sampled real life.

formerbabe · 19/05/2015 21:34

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PeachyPants · 19/05/2015 21:34

I think you may have been working a bit to hard pet, your post is incoherent.

HolgerDanske · 19/05/2015 21:34

Hmmmm.

prepperpig · 19/05/2015 21:36

I have no idea what you're actually trying to say. Are you slagging off women with nannies or those without nannies, or just everyone?