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to think local working mums give me a bad name?

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cubmum · 19/05/2015 21:17

On my local fb mums group there are working mums moaning how tiring it is. Recommending work from home (which I loathe if my team at work request this sort of thing) Maybe I'm very lazy (I do let laundry pile up etc) but I think working is in a way easier cos I do F all at home and my lovely nanny does the hard work in a share. I come home, play, do bath and story and bedtime and cuddles, think how cute my kid is as the nanny is complaining about my infant Terrible, do some light tidying up if i feel like it, make myself a quick dinner (or grab a sarnie on the way home) and dh if I feel like it. I don't know how women run households or what cleaning standards they have but I honestly find it easy on the physical aspect (ignore the guilt or emotional dilemma or work stress they were moaning about physical exhaustion) and find it annoying to hear this sort of moaning. Also i find it insulting that it is a wife's implicit responsibility to cook for dh it's a choice surely.

It was similar when i was on mat leave and my nct group moaned how hard motherhood is. I always had to nod and agree when i just LOVE IT. It is a blessing. but maybe I just don't understand women being a woman myself. I work 5 days full time and dh very long hours. Maybe I should move, I'm also sick to hear about mums who have nannies + sitters + night nannies in my area too. I think we are a much luckier generation than previous ones.

OP posts:
Welshmaenad · 19/05/2015 23:10

I suggest you ignore it. I was just grateful that Worra gave me an opening to talk about my cat fragrancing issues. It was too weird to start a thread about.

May09Bump · 19/05/2015 23:10

Your nanny is doing a brilliant job :)

WireCat · 19/05/2015 23:12

Off your tits on a school night, Worra? Shock

WireCat · 19/05/2015 23:13

Posted too soon. Stupid phone. I blame the frink.

I want to be off my tits.

arethereanyleftatall · 19/05/2015 23:18

Do you work for n-power op? Useless pile of wankers.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 19/05/2015 23:18

Snorts at Worra and her cock rings (that's right yes?).

Re OP, it's... It's... Its... Almost like ... Well, (Duh duh daaaah! Drum roll ending in cymbal crash!)...
Like... not all people are the same?!

Suspicions dawn that maybe people are not the same?! Wah? What? I hear you cry! But yes Indeedy i win this thread by positing the crazy theory of 'difference' :)

I give you as examples... It's as if, people might have oooh, different jobs... Different families... Different nannies... Different children... Different commutes... Different houses.... Different bodies, different health... Different stresses... Different resilience.... Different priorities... Different ideas of how life should be....

Let alone different ideas around housework, cooking, cleaning, tidying, homework etc... :)

I am 'a professional with a nanny' and so quite possibly sneerable at, as I do struggle (though love being at work!) but I could also be described 'single mother', 'disabled mother', and any number of different things, so you can't just slap a label on and have done with it.

Point being, people don't live cookie cutter lives and just because you label them as the same and judge them on being the same... Doesn't kean to say they ARE the same.

Gets off soap box, trips over feet, scuttles away embarrassed, oops...

WorraLiberty · 19/05/2015 23:19

Off your tits on a school night, Worra? Shock

Yes, I misread the word 'frinking' for 'drinking' and started immediately.

WorraLiberty · 19/05/2015 23:21

Snorts at Worra and her cock rings (that's right yes?)

You'll have to snort a bit louder

My cock still isn't ringing

WireCat · 19/05/2015 23:22

Well Waitrose are encouraging me to frink. Free champagne if I buy 11 bottles of wine. They have me pegged.

This thread reminds me of Sharon & the supermarket t-Rex.

WankerDeAsalWipe · 19/05/2015 23:24

hey, the OP hasn't come back and called us wankers or asswipes or anything, I demand a refund!!!!

morethanpotatoprints · 19/05/2015 23:31

pile shite what of a

makes about as much sense as the OP.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 19/05/2015 23:43

Snorts massive whole body shuddery pig snort - is it ringing yet Worra dingalingyding?

Searches frantically for child's loudspeaker... Realised its a comedy distorter one... Decides it may improve allure of snorty snort :)

Is it working yet? Do you feel a-chiming and a-ringing coming on? Do you do you?

(Hopeful)

(Looks sadly at crusty remnants of Christmas sherry. Must do better shopping lists in future... Vino-delectable must be purchased post haste!)

mimishimmi · 19/05/2015 23:48

If I had a nanny who agreed to do all the housework, I wouldn't be moaning either. Lots of women do more than a double shift though - fulltime work, all the dropoffs and pickups from external childcare providers and practically all the domestic work to look forward to or organize (ie nag about) when they get home. Many for only a few £'s a week once working costs are taken into account so not much left over for outside help. It is exhausting and yeah, the moaning can get tiresome but you don't have to read it if it irks you.

Aermingers · 19/05/2015 23:58

Yes, I have a job and a home and children too. I never get tired either. I find shitloads of cocaine is really helpful.

PerpendicularVincenzo · 20/05/2015 02:18

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BrowersBlues · 20/05/2015 02:32

OP I agree, I have always worked outside the home from the time my children were born and I have never regretted it for second. I have never felt guilt about working outside the home, I don't even know what that type of guilt feels like. My children are teenagers now and I am proud that I worked through the tough times because I still have my life on my own terms.

Focusfocus · 20/05/2015 02:48

I am inclined to think that the OP is having a go at working mothers, and is a SAHM herself. The entire post seems dripping with sarcasm.

Which if course is mind blowingly original seeing as we have had any let's bash working mum threads in....(checks watch) about 2 minutes.

BrowersBlues · 20/05/2015 03:02

Gotcha, its late at night and I to be down the coal mine soon. Why would anyone bother having a go at any mother whose choices are invariably driven by economics. Thanks for the heads up.

Canyouforgiveher · 20/05/2015 03:56

Do you find it easy to get your 5 a day in too?

ComposHatComesBack · 20/05/2015 04:27

I come home, play, do bath and story and bedtime and cuddles, think how cute my kid is as the nanny is complaining about my infant Terrible

I think this is when I cottoned on that this was an incredibly weak attempt at a wind up.

Surely no one who abdicates the grunt work of parenting to someone else and then just waltzes in for the good bits would fail to understand that the Nanny would have a different experience to her?

Surely no one who claims to be a highly paid professional, with 'her team' under her, would be this clueless, thick and semi-literate?

Pisspoor.

OurGlass · 20/05/2015 08:10

I was hoping to wake up to this being hella good.

WireCat · 20/05/2015 10:12

Oh no update.

ProcessYellowC · 20/05/2015 23:03

I came back and the thread has got good - we're all cock heads! Finally some sense.

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