to think local working mums give me a bad name?

[cubmum]

On my local fb mums group there are working mums moaning how tiring it is. Recommending work from home (which I loathe if my team at work request this sort of thing) Maybe I'm very lazy (I do let laundry pile up etc) but I think working is in a way easier cos I do F all at home and my lovely nanny does the hard work in a share. I come home, play, do bath and story and bedtime and cuddles, think how cute my kid is as the nanny is complaining about my infant Terrible, do some light tidying up if i feel like it, make myself a quick dinner (or grab a sarnie on the way home) and dh if I feel like it. I don't know how women run households or what cleaning standards they have but I honestly find it easy on the physical aspect (ignore the guilt or emotional dilemma or work stress they were moaning about physical exhaustion) and find it annoying to hear this sort of moaning. Also i find it insulting that it is a wife's implicit responsibility to cook for dh it's a choice surely.

It was similar when i was on mat leave and my nct group moaned how hard motherhood is. I always had to nod and agree when i just LOVE IT. It is a blessing. but maybe I just don't understand women being a woman myself. I work 5 days full time and dh very long hours. Maybe I should move, I'm also sick to hear about mums who have nannies + sitters + night nannies in my area too. I think we are a much luckier generation than previous ones.

Christ on a bike you've come back to clarify and it still makes no sense. What happened with the last sentence did you just give up the will to finish it off?

You sound like a delightful employer! You don't want your employees to work from home, you don't think other working parents (who don't have nannies) should get tired because you don't?!

Eh?

Right, let's break this down into small, manageable chunks.

Sorry OP, you're on your own here.

I think you need to give us more detail, so we can try and crack this enigma code. Frinking will help.

I vote for Derek 's post.
At least I could understand it.

'S' in Egypt innit

Denial

Pa hahaha

Think this is it - OP has a job and a nanny and when she gets home she doesn't have to do too much so isn't v tired and is moaning cos a bunch of equally professional and be-nannied mums are complaining cos they are tired when she thinks they can't be tired cos like her they have hired help and so shouldn't be moaning? I tried to put that as plainly as poss but actually it still looks totally garbled...

Que?
I am tired, therefore I have a nanny and a professional job? Have I got that right OP?
OP....?

You'd hate me then. I work 0.7 fte contract with two DC and I'm exhausted. DH does nearly half the cooking too. I also found it extremely hard work when they were babies. Number 1 lost loads of weight and wouldn't feed, jaundice and reflux with no support from anyone. Number 2 fed well but was a cling on who wouldn't be put down without screaming until she was about two.

Love them to bits but I find it really hard. Isn't it weird how we all have different experiences and energy levels.

When I was working full time (out house 7.30am, drop dd at nursery, bus to work, then bus back to collect her at 6pm and then walk home for 6.30pm) I had no help, no dp, no nanny or cleaner and yes I was fucking knackered all the time and I had to do it all. And still did all the stuff you find so easy because someone is in fact doing it for you.

Going part time down to three days was the best thing I did in the end.

I don't believe a word you say OP.

I work ,all my kids are grown up ,I do as little as possible when I get home and I'm still bloody knackered.

I can't even be arsed frink in a Tuesday.

Oh, I believe every word she's saying, but I don't understand any of it.

Hang on, I think I get it...

Other people who moan about being tired make you look bad because you have help to do the difficult things and don't even prepare a meal most nights. You also don't clean your house and put all of your efforts into work which could or could not be a challenging job.

So, in a nutshell, you want other people to stop saying that working and raising a family is tiring because it highlights the fact that you do fuck all?

Is that it?

I work. I raise my family. I'm tired, like the majority of working parents. I'm not sorry if that makes you look lazy.

Worra any chance he could have been drinking out of toilet bowl? Do you have a lemon scented duck?

No, I have a lemon scented dog!

He's too short to reach the toilet bowl but I think he might have laid on an old plug in air freshener I just found under the dining table.

Mystery solved.

You need paragraphs and quotation marks and some general punctuation before I can even begin attempt to decifer what on earth you are blardy going on about.

Look, those other women just aren't as good at being a mother as you are. You clearly have it all figured out so well done. You win at life!!

I think you should go and tell those idiot mums how crap they are at being alive. Let us know how you get on!

Your nanny must be fucking knackered

See, now worra posted a concise problem and offered a solution all within a couple of posts.

Take note, OP!

Make sense FFS.

2 suggestions, cubmum

1. Lay off the Facebook
2. Lay off the gin.

Is this the word equivalent of a really hard jigsaw? We have all the words and now we have to put them all together to make sense?