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to think local working mums give me a bad name?

173 replies

cubmum · 19/05/2015 21:17

On my local fb mums group there are working mums moaning how tiring it is. Recommending work from home (which I loathe if my team at work request this sort of thing) Maybe I'm very lazy (I do let laundry pile up etc) but I think working is in a way easier cos I do F all at home and my lovely nanny does the hard work in a share. I come home, play, do bath and story and bedtime and cuddles, think how cute my kid is as the nanny is complaining about my infant Terrible, do some light tidying up if i feel like it, make myself a quick dinner (or grab a sarnie on the way home) and dh if I feel like it. I don't know how women run households or what cleaning standards they have but I honestly find it easy on the physical aspect (ignore the guilt or emotional dilemma or work stress they were moaning about physical exhaustion) and find it annoying to hear this sort of moaning. Also i find it insulting that it is a wife's implicit responsibility to cook for dh it's a choice surely.

It was similar when i was on mat leave and my nct group moaned how hard motherhood is. I always had to nod and agree when i just LOVE IT. It is a blessing. but maybe I just don't understand women being a woman myself. I work 5 days full time and dh very long hours. Maybe I should move, I'm also sick to hear about mums who have nannies + sitters + night nannies in my area too. I think we are a much luckier generation than previous ones.

OP posts:
FenellaFellorick · 19/05/2015 21:48

Other peoples choices say absolutely nothing about you and do not reflect on you one way or another. Only your own choices do that.
Nobody has an obligation to live their life according to your rules because you mistakenly think it's got anything to do with you or is about you
Focus on your own life and leave others to do the same.

cubmum · 19/05/2015 21:50

I'll ignore those digs. I do have a mum working for me part time after she had a 3rd kid, isnt falling asleep at work and is very efficient whenever she is at work... She told me she finds weekends/days at home more physically tiring (but enjoyable) which I agree

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usualsuspect333 · 19/05/2015 21:51

All that Frinking is gonna tire you out.

duckbilled · 19/05/2015 21:51

I am tired from reading shit like this....why don't you use some of your fabulous energy to pat yourself on the back.

DocHollywood · 19/05/2015 21:53

Nope. Read the op twice and still don't understand it.

MrsDeVere · 19/05/2015 21:53

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StretchyTheMonkey · 19/05/2015 21:54

Or write a short story?

StretchyTheMonkey · 19/05/2015 21:55

You're being generous MrsDeVere

WorraLiberty · 19/05/2015 21:55

My Jack Russell terrier smells strongly of lemons

We don't have any lemons in the house, and he hasn't been out the garden?

Entirely irrelevant to the thread I know

But weird all the same Confused

Thurlow · 19/05/2015 21:56

No, genuinely cub, what are you trying to say?

Is it simply that you find it annoying when other people moan that they find life more tiring than you with your nanny doing laundry and cleaning do?

Waltermittythesequel · 19/05/2015 21:56

How does anyone work for you?

How do you ever give clear, coherent instructions?

Laquitar · 19/05/2015 21:56

Lol @ 'to an area where working mums don't get tired'.

HitsAndMrs · 19/05/2015 22:00

What are you actually on about? Confused

bearleftmonkeyright · 19/05/2015 22:01

This thread is bonkers. But I am in bed at the moment. Im really tired.

PacificDogwood · 19/05/2015 22:03

I think I've simply not done enough frinking in this Tuesday to geddit. But that's ok, at least I've got a nanny.

SiobhanSharpe · 19/05/2015 22:04

Yeah, another 'what the fuck?' here
Especially ....maybe i just don't understand women being a woman myself.... Huh?
Still this is what AIBU can be like somtimes -- utter bollocks.
Good fun, though.

fedupandduckedfoff · 19/05/2015 22:06

So you are simultaneously moaning about mum's who have less help than you and those who have more help than you?

And about the fact they are moaning?

EatShitDerek · 19/05/2015 22:06

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YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 19/05/2015 22:06

I'm genuinely confused, what's your point? I can't figure out who you're slagging off?
Are you moaning about people who work full time and have nannies and still find motherhood tiring? People who find parenting difficult?

OnHerMajestysSecretCervix · 19/05/2015 22:07

Wut

to think local working mums give me a bad name?
Ubik1 · 19/05/2015 22:07

I work ft, three kids, no cleaner or nanny.

I'm pretty tired. Probably not doing it right.

PattiODoors · 19/05/2015 22:08

I don't understand

Ah well

NEXT

chairmeoh · 19/05/2015 22:08

Worra any chance he could have been drinking out of toilet bowl? Do you have a lemon scented duck?

PattiODoors · 19/05/2015 22:09

Acksherly in the Olden Days you would have been given a 4

Like this:

PattiODoors · 19/05/2015 22:09

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