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to think local working mums give me a bad name?

173 replies

cubmum · 19/05/2015 21:17

On my local fb mums group there are working mums moaning how tiring it is. Recommending work from home (which I loathe if my team at work request this sort of thing) Maybe I'm very lazy (I do let laundry pile up etc) but I think working is in a way easier cos I do F all at home and my lovely nanny does the hard work in a share. I come home, play, do bath and story and bedtime and cuddles, think how cute my kid is as the nanny is complaining about my infant Terrible, do some light tidying up if i feel like it, make myself a quick dinner (or grab a sarnie on the way home) and dh if I feel like it. I don't know how women run households or what cleaning standards they have but I honestly find it easy on the physical aspect (ignore the guilt or emotional dilemma or work stress they were moaning about physical exhaustion) and find it annoying to hear this sort of moaning. Also i find it insulting that it is a wife's implicit responsibility to cook for dh it's a choice surely.

It was similar when i was on mat leave and my nct group moaned how hard motherhood is. I always had to nod and agree when i just LOVE IT. It is a blessing. but maybe I just don't understand women being a woman myself. I work 5 days full time and dh very long hours. Maybe I should move, I'm also sick to hear about mums who have nannies + sitters + night nannies in my area too. I think we are a much luckier generation than previous ones.

OP posts:
albertcampionscat · 19/05/2015 21:36

Well, I'm glad I'm not working for you.

cubmum · 19/05/2015 21:37

They have nannies/nursery and professional jobs! That's my point! Eigg, I appreciate your pov, I guess if u have to prepare dinner and clean the kitchen after it is tiring after a day's work. I tidy up but don't actually clean and leave that for the weekend

OP posts:
Unexpected · 19/05/2015 21:37

Can someone tell me what the OP IS saying? 'Cos my tired little brain can't compute it at all.

ProcessYellowC · 19/05/2015 21:38

I miss Xenia, at least her posts were coherent and clear.
(Or do I have rose-tinted memories?)

PacificDogwood · 19/05/2015 21:39

Well, is it not the 'professional jobs' that help pay for the nannies?!

Still don't get your point

PacificDogwood · 19/05/2015 21:39

I've been told Xenia is around with a new NN, but this is not her

EatShitDerek · 19/05/2015 21:40

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PacificDogwood · 19/05/2015 21:41

I have a professional job and a nanny - am I allowed to feel tired or not? Confused

Thurlow · 19/05/2015 21:41

What's your AIBU?

Eigg · 19/05/2015 21:41

Cub my point of view isn't uncommon. Lots of women (and indeed men) find balancing family and professional life tiring.

If you find the women on your local page annoying - don't read it.

TwartFaceBeetj · 19/05/2015 21:42

Well that's 2 minutes of my life I will never get back

Grin
Nellagain · 19/05/2015 21:42

Yes you, you are taking note of a facebook group and thinking they are being truthful instead of the usual attention seeking.

I have no idea about the rest ....too tired after work.
Which reminds me ,Yabu to come home from work and have any energy at all left even with the nanny helpingGrin

Nellagain · 19/05/2015 21:43

Yes Yabu not you, you.

PisforPeter · 19/05/2015 21:43

You sound like a complete pain in the ass Hmm

ShadowFire · 19/05/2015 21:43

I don't understand how these local working mum's are giving you a bad name?

So they're finding juggling work and children and housework harder than you, so what? How does that give you a bad name?

formerbabe · 19/05/2015 21:43

Maybe I should move

To an area where working mums don't get tired.....Hmm

StretchyTheMonkey · 19/05/2015 21:43

I just leave my child to get on with it. She's quite a good cook for a 3 year old and she's a dab hand with the old hoover and duster. The goat is a great substitute nanny and only charges a small amount of grass from my thousand acres a day. Saves on the gardeners fees.

Working for a living though? How crass. I like to watch the minions scurry from my palace Hmm

AyeAmarok · 19/05/2015 21:44

You know when you read something, get to the end and realise you've no idea what you've just read so you read it again and this time concentrate really hard?

Yeah....

crje · 19/05/2015 21:44

frinking in a Tuesday
You have a great life

PacificDogwood · 19/05/2015 21:45

Oh, okay, it's about FB.

Well, FB is the devil's work, isn't it, so that's where you are going wrong.
Ignore.
Don't read.
Deregister - if you dare…. Grin

PumpkinPie2013 · 19/05/2015 21:45

I don't see the point of your post tbh Confused

You find your life easy - good for you - doesn't mean everyone else has to.

Maybe they are just having a mutual moan - it's allowed.

crje · 19/05/2015 21:45

Drinking on a Tuesday
You have a great life

StretchyTheMonkey · 19/05/2015 21:46

Frinking in a Tuesday? Grin

mynameisvivienne · 19/05/2015 21:47

They have nannies/nursery and professional jobs!

What the fuck are you on about?

You have a nanny and a "professional" job. So who are "they"?

PeachyPants · 19/05/2015 21:48

Frinking on a Tuesday is my highlight of the thread! love it!