AIBU to be gopping mad at this woman who posted my DCs party invite on social media!?

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I made some daft invites to look like magazine covers for DCs upcoming birthday to use up a load of old photo paper.

I found it odd that I was getting text message acceptances and requests to bring siblings from mothers of children I had never heard of- when quizzed the same name came up and a mention of a Social Networking site.

It turns out one of the mother's of a child in Dc's class took a photo of the invite (which had date/time/venue)on her wall and posted it on FB under an event (wtf?)

I've hired the venue out privately and am panicking the party will be ruined, we will end up in the local paper because 200 kids turn up wanted to be entertained and fed.

I asked the mother directly and she denied it and I have no proof (screen shot etc) although I am STILL getting texts

DC will be heartbroken if I cancel I just do not know what to do for the best. The last thing I'd want it having to stand by the venue door for 3 hours instead of joining in a celebrating a birthday- It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fact my child will be 7 but this is the first time we've ever held a party.

Any advice on how to handle would be greatly appreciated.

I just think school is going to be v awkward on tuesday

Took too long to post. Slow typing.

TeddTess's idea is also very good!

Maybe she created an event on Facebook as a reminder for herself and invited all her friends by mistake?
Hopefully she's busy and not ignoring you.

When is her DC's birthday? Is there any chance she is passing it off as a joint party?

Pico her DCs bday is very close to mine but inviting a whole load of friends to MY DCs party???? It's not like you won't get found out

I had a "friend" at school with the same birthday as me and parents who were the type to do this. But of course they would get found out. They are relying on you to be too polite to say anything.

it might have been a genuine mistake on her part. she might have thought it was a general event invite and thought her ds could join in for his party. ?

TedTess, how on earth do you work that out
"Hi xxxxx, here's an invite to my DCs bday party for your dc xxx"
Her: " oh thank you"

I think the same as Eeyore, she's put it on events thinking that it would remind her and didn't realise it would become public and now doesn't know how to stop it snowballing.
Unless there is a back story to her and she has done mad things in the past hopeful

Give all the real invitees a password to gain entry?

Do you know when her DC birthday is? Could she be planning a 'joint' party gatecrash? Just turn up with her own invitees and cake?

How many people are actually invited?

dont put a ridiculously long sign up outside

But if it was a genuine mistake the why didn't she own up to it?

It's not necessarily the posting on fab (depending on her motive) but the way she has failed to deal with it when confronted by the op which makes her look a twat.

I don't know if this had already been suggested by can you take a picture of the invitation and reverse Google search it? If her Facebook privacy settings are low it might come up.

posting on fb

Psip 40 are invited.
Ha ha ha if she turns up with her own cake and an entourage my goodness me I hope somebody video the reaction. I'd go- I do believe the expression is- ghetto on her arse!

Please explain a reverse Google search.

well because if the party invite looked like a flier without the boy's details on (as the OP said IIRC) she MAY have thought "oh what a good idea" for a birthday treat without actually realising the OP had booked out the place for her ds's birthday.

or she may just be a dim or cheeky cow

I would uninvited her child.

She sounds odd to say the least, and she's lied to you.

You may have to turn to Facebook yourself and post publicly that someone has taken it upon themselves to invite other people to your child's party.

Then say in no uncertain terms that this persons should not have done that, the people they invited are unfortunately not welcome as it is a private party, and could everyone make it clear to anyone who asks that this is a private event that uninvited children will be turned away from.

Can you change the time of the party, instead of the date?

You can search by image on Google.
This explains how to do it.
www.google.co.uk/insidesearch/features/images/searchbyimage.html

Add her as a mate on fb if you aren't already. Post on her wall that she needs to rectify it. That only people you have personally invited are welcome. Everyone else will be turned away and told to contact her. That she needs to contact people on her fb and let them know it's not an open invite... If she denies it, some will pop up and ask wtf as they have texted the number.

Can't she just put a message on her own FB - "whoops, I seem to have posted a General invitation to someone elses's private party in error. Please disregard the event invitation for xx/xx/xxxx if you received it."

Couldn't face going to her home I'm afraid. Her child will not be attending the party I've been informed by text.I told her ANYONE who did not receive an invitation personally from me will not be admitted to the party by the staff(slight lie as they don't know yet)and told to contact the person who invited them by proxy-

Her reply was that this was harassment and she'd call the police if she's contacted????????????????