AIBU to be gopping mad at this woman who posted my DCs party invite on social media!?

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I made some daft invites to look like magazine covers for DCs upcoming birthday to use up a load of old photo paper.

I found it odd that I was getting text message acceptances and requests to bring siblings from mothers of children I had never heard of- when quizzed the same name came up and a mention of a Social Networking site.

It turns out one of the mother's of a child in Dc's class took a photo of the invite (which had date/time/venue)on her wall and posted it on FB under an event (wtf?)

I've hired the venue out privately and am panicking the party will be ruined, we will end up in the local paper because 200 kids turn up wanted to be entertained and fed.

I asked the mother directly and she denied it and I have no proof (screen shot etc) although I am STILL getting texts

DC will be heartbroken if I cancel I just do not know what to do for the best. The last thing I'd want it having to stand by the venue door for 3 hours instead of joining in a celebrating a birthday- It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fact my child will be 7 but this is the first time we've ever held a party.

Any advice on how to handle would be greatly appreciated.

If they're all friends with madwoman, could you text one of them and ask them to put something on madwoman's fb page to say that the event that was mentioned is no longer happening?

Is it really over the top, making a quiet report? These sorts of FB events have gotten massively out of hand on various occasions. There really is a past precedent, and from the thread I don't get the impression that the woman in question has really done anything about trying to rectify her mistake.

What a crazy woman!

I'd text each of the 11 people you've heard from so far (presumably you've already told them they are not invited?) and ask them to put it on the event page or to pass it around friends, presumably they are all friends of hers, that there has been a serious error on the woman's part and only children invited by your DS are invited.

Oh my word, where have all these bonkers appeared from? They seem to be multiplying.

I cannot believe that she replied about harassment, she's an odd one, that's for sure.

She put your phone number on Facebook without consent and is claiming you are harassing her???

missnevermind it's a 7 year olds party!!

What are you expecting? Drunk kids swinging from the rafters? A bus load of crazed drugged up teenagers gate crashing a kiddy party?

You can message non friends on fb and see her friends. Are you sure you can't see what she has shared to them?

Seventeen there is no mention of seven year olds or my child just the sporting "event" and "party time dudes!" With details of time/venue/date/my contact details.

I then got:
Example text:
Joshua & Owen are a yes for Saturday- they cannot wait to try Xxxxx sport
??????

The problem- I didn't know a Joshua nor an Owen. Then more texts arrived.

Jay YES!!!!
My children's invite was photographed and put on FB. I don't know how the event was worded and as yet nobody has sent me a screen shot.

I think there in lies your issue, is that because of the stupid cow putting it on facebook it looks like its a sports club open day...

Texted some of the more chatty texters earlier for clarity and have heart nowt!

I have gone into her timeline there is nothing and her friends list is blanked out??????? Maybe she's blocked me from seeing it?

What about trying some of those who texted?

Cancel your party, rebook it for a different time/venue/date, do not invite the child whose mother has caused you these problems.

DM me her name and details and I'll look at her profile if you want. See if it's locked down to everyone not on her friends list.

Ring them and explain properly. That might get you a better response.

Someone upthread offered to look it up on FB. Maybe she has blocked you so it would be worth having someone else look this woman up.

seventeen, really ? If any of the parents have half the brass neck this woman has, I could see them causing a disturbance claiming entry to a private party as 'it was advertised & don't want to upset little Johnny'. Stranger things have happened.

Have already done as suggested. Neither of my mates could see an event "public" or friends. I'm going to ask one of her school mum friends on Tuesday. It's the uncertainty that's fucking me off now!

Create another FB account under another name and see if you can see anything that way. All you need is a different e-mail address to the one your usual Facebook is attached to.
The woman is absolutely barking.

The safest thing would be to change the date and re-invite the original guests (minus the child whose Mum posted it on Facebook).

I cannot change the date- this was a cancellation and so flukey. I really cannot postpone the party four months till the next slot.

I may have to consider something completely different though.

I would cancel and do something completely different then rebook the same venue for next year. Its going to be the safest option now

Thing is, changing the date/venue still leaves the VENUE with the possibility of gatecrashers and also losing out from the party income. I'd work with the venue - keep them informed. Offer to pay for a member of their staff to check names coming in - not going to be much for 3hrs or so is it?

Holy fucking hell.

You can search phone numbers on FB. Use the numbers you have from the people who texted you. You may be able to see their profiles and get to the "event page" from there.