AIBU to be gopping mad at this woman who posted my DCs party invite on social media!?

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I made some daft invites to look like magazine covers for DCs upcoming birthday to use up a load of old photo paper.

I found it odd that I was getting text message acceptances and requests to bring siblings from mothers of children I had never heard of- when quizzed the same name came up and a mention of a Social Networking site.

It turns out one of the mother's of a child in Dc's class took a photo of the invite (which had date/time/venue)on her wall and posted it on FB under an event (wtf?)

I've hired the venue out privately and am panicking the party will be ruined, we will end up in the local paper because 200 kids turn up wanted to be entertained and fed.

I asked the mother directly and she denied it and I have no proof (screen shot etc) although I am STILL getting texts

DC will be heartbroken if I cancel I just do not know what to do for the best. The last thing I'd want it having to stand by the venue door for 3 hours instead of joining in a celebrating a birthday- It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fact my child will be 7 but this is the first time we've ever held a party.

Any advice on how to handle would be greatly appreciated.

Cannot change the date or time in any way shape or form- in fact it was such a fluke we got the venue at all as some function got cancelled meaning the whole place was ours too jammy.

Have you got a couple of large male relatives?

Stand them at the door with the correct guest list and ask for names before admittance.

If the party is at a soft play centre or similar, then give the guest list to the reception staff and let them filter the genuine guests.

Then a bouncer it is. You can hire them if you don't want to deal with it full stop.

I have asked for a screenshot of the invite and so far I have received nothing. I like the idea of the door notice but what agro for us and the staff are not going to be too happy, they're going to think we are the bell ends

Don't know why I'm laughing, picnic in the park sounds like an idea now.

I can't imagine why you'd accept an invite to the party of someone you don't know anyway.

Free childcare for an hour or two?

Sorry this has happened OP. I think I'd be defriending the person who did this, IRL.

I think the reason I've gotten texts is because there's no mention of my DC's names- It looks like a flier to an event (granted) with "PARTY TIME!" (not exactly that but similar- on the top) I'm still shocked that someone would say they'd come without asking more about it if they thought it was an actual event for children.

OP, you have to come and tell us how it goes.

Agree, you're going to need someone firm on the door only letting in actual invitees.

Is it possible that it was her DC that photographed the invitation and created the event without her knowledge?

God what a nightmare - its the what if`s isnt it?can u ring one of the texters as a chat might be better.

I have defriended- she will not look at me in the eye. What a tool.

I woud bet money she will still bring her child.

Psipina- that's exactly what my DH said- One texter asked if the younger sibling could come and she'd pop into town

Next year we will had some fruit cake and a balloon.

Could she have been mistaken then and not realise its a party for DC?

You know what I reckon she's done?

She's probably put it as an event, just so she can boast about how popular little Timmy is.

But she's accidentally clicked 'invite friends' to the event.

Maybe anyway. Just weird.

Family.members/strong-willed, assertive friends on door with list of invited children. And don't include this mother.

Hold on... if it looked like a flier and didn't have any child's details on it, why would someone ask if the sibling could come? I mean, they don't know who the party was for in the first place, do they? If it were just an 'event' of course siblings would be there (unless you put an age restriction on it, which sounds bonkers.

I think you have to cancel and rearrange.

Why isn't your child's name on the invite?

No. I was discreet about handing out the invites as not all the children in the class have been invited and family etc are coming- so I handed the invite in an envelope to the lady and said to her here's an invite for XXXX to dc's bday party and she said thank you. There can be NO confusion at all for the mothers I spoke to- the invites did not go to the teachers or into book bags

Too many "invites" in that post.

Kinky- that's a REALLY good point, I didn't even consider that!

LOL at fruit cake and a balloon

What a nightmare for you. I hope you can figure out a way to still go ahead. I had two parties for ds1, who is now 11, and thence decided that ds2 and ds3 would probably be lucky to get one each...

This is bonkers. What sort of venue is it?

Please don't drop having a party just because one woman has been a knob. That's not fair on your kids! I did a similar invite for son's birthday. It isn't unusual! As they've said the only thing you can do is put someone on the door and just not let it get to you and spoil your enjoyment.

I would also tell this woman to set up a second FB event telling all her friends it was a mistake and not to come. Even if she denies it - just tell her that responders cited her page as their source.

This is so odd. I'm on fb and fb savvy. Pm me some details and I can investigate for you if you like.

I'd uninvite her child for a start. You will need to let the venue know what has happened. And give them a list of names of those who are invited. Could you speak to those who are invited and let them know to make sure they all turn up early? Tick the names off and once they are all in let the staff know that no one else is to be allowed in.

Can you ring the lady. Tell her you know she put the invite on fb as an event and can she please put up that the event has been cancelled and can she cover the door so that only invited children are allowed entrance.