To be ashamed dh is voting conservative

[Jacobsmum1972]

I'm very left wing dh is centre right Aibu to not want friends or family finding this out.

Many thanks for that link, OTheHuge. Looks interesting and will have a read.

Op - I can really understand the title of your thread now, even more than before. I'm not sure how I'd cope.

I agree with you, ThisFence. Of course we all vote in accordance which our sense of what is right and wrong.

I suppose - in my case at least - I often feel I am weighing up many issues/policies and find no single party ticks every box all the time. So I try to prioritise and work out which issues are most important to me and vote accordingly.

Equally an ability (or preparedness?) to see both sides of an argument can make it harder to take a hard stance on things sometimes. I suppose that can be seen as indecisiveness - but my sense is it's more to do with the fact that maturity tends to mean one sees the shades of grey more.

When I was 20 I was very sure I knew my views on X, Y & Z - and that was a great feeling. But with hindsight I fear a great deal of my 'conviction' was based on callow youth for want of a better term. Nothing wrong with that and everyone's views are important for a society, but I suppose now I'm longer in the tooth I just wish people could take a more collaborative stance towards politics and trying to resolve problems rather than feeling they have to attach each other endlessly; I suspect most people/parties have more in common than they realise.

Exactly. Which is why a coalition between Labour and Tory could be a good thing. It works for Germany.

I'm a Labour supporter (Welsh mining background). I'm tactically voting Lib Dem as a vote for Labour here is a total waste of a vote. However on a local level I am going to vote Conservative as the local Tory candidate is by FAR the best person for the job, has done tons for our village already, and will hopefully continue to do a fabulous job. I am going to have to hope my DDad and DGranddad don't do cartwheels in their graves. It will be a very weird feeling putting the tick in that box for the first time ever, but it has to be done.

I agree Merse. I think sometimes parties share a common policy or shades of grey on an issue. I find it hard to understand how someone can be utterly 100% committed to believing everything from just one party. And I have met in real life such people.

I think it's easier for me as my views would be deemed further left than the Labour party currently is. I just can't agree with 80% of Tory policy. It's just not how I view the world. I have read all the manifestos and keep myself as up to date as possible.

Labour for me is a bit of a compromise but close enough. Thankfully it's much less of a compromise now than during the Blair era.

Merse I don't think we do. Some people will vote out of naked self interest. I agree with everything else you've said though - espeicalliy that bit about thinking you know it all when you're young.

Bubble - when you meet new people do you ask them to fill in a questionnnaire based on political affiliation?

Say you were at a dinner party ( I know- suspend disbelief ) and you met someone funny, kind, charming, witty and with whom you had a great deal in common. You struck up a friendship, spent time together, went for drinks, meals etc.

What would happen six months down teh line if you found out they were Tory voters?

Erudite...I would love to sit next to you at a dinner party....your posts make me laugh.

Why fank oo Boo - I never talk politics though but I can drink wine and Prosecco!

Some people will vote out of naked self interest.

Yup. From all political colours.

OK I went to the baker and bought two tiny bakewell tarts and et them both. Delicious.

YABU

Perfect Erudite.....me too!!

Tasty bakewells..mmm...vote Labour..you know it tastes good...mmm...bakewell tart..the right choice..

Look on the bright side - my mum is voting UKIP, and she keeps sharing their crap on FB.

I have to have a stern word last week when she posted an 'I'm voting UKIP' meme on my timeline .

Erudite Yes, from all political colours........

Also, Bakewell Tarts are great - second only to Battenberg. I've never been fond of the "fake" cherry though; that I could live without.

Hmm not sure I'd want to sit next to Erudite, based on posts here - you seem very hypocritical, outraged at generalisations about Tories but expressing this through wild generalisations about 'The Left'.

That's fine Breezy.

I shall take a leaf from Bubblebrain's book and only socialise with Similar Voting Pattern Friends. 'Tis the way forward, clearly.

Sadly, if I took a leaf out of Bubblebrain's book I wouldn't have many of my friends left to sit with at dinner parties.....obviously their non- Labour voting radars are less highly developed than Bubblebrain's

boo

Perhaps Bubble discovers how her frends vote by offering them a choice of Champagne, Prosecco or Tennents?

Those that choose Champagne or Tennants can stay.

I think YABU to feel ashamed-after all it is him that is voting conservative not you.
Having said that I would find it difficult to be with a partner if his values and views were very different from mine.

As far as everyone else is concerned tolerance is important until a certain point.
Personally I could not have a real friend who voted for a very right wing party like UKIP.

Those that choose Champagne or Tennants can stay.

Massive arf

Personally I could not have a real friend who voted for a very right wing party like UKIP.if you look at their most recent manifesto they're actually not very right wing. They've shifted a lot from the original libertarian focus, in recognition of the droves of white working class ex-Labour people who are interested in them and who are more reliant on the welfare state.

What they are could more accurately be described as a nationalist socialist party, like the SNP.

I don't drink champagne or tennents..