TheTrouble Why are you talking to EPs? Why not the parents? Honesty there would go a long way to ease your burden. Usually the parents know a hell of a lot more about the particular child and how to engage them or plan for them than a visiting EP.
Like most parents of children with SEN. I have been on a substantial number of courses (40 days worth specifically) on how to teach my child skills, I have read over 100 books. You may have had an optional half-day SEN module in ITT to cover all SENs, followed by a few twilight sessions and perhaps the odd LA propaganda training on how to 'manage' a child with SEN (rather than educate them), whereas ALL of my training and knowledge-base is specific to my child, and most strategies I could share costs nothing or at least use resources already allocated but tweaked.
So why do teachers insist 'we are the experts', 'you need to trust us', 'we have your child's interests at heart' (well you might but that isn't the point), 'we are 'outstanding' teachers', ' and all the other fob-offs I have heard over the years?
I just don't understand it. Teachers complain but don't form allies with the one essential group who can genuinely help them, parents.
Parents and teachers want the same things (mostly, - not all teachers feel they are SEN teachers, though in state schools they have no right to choose who to teach), and together would be a force to be reckoned with for any LA or Government, but they insist on being so defensive and secretive about their inability to meet the needs of the most vulnerable in their classes.
And I say, 'how dare they?' These are the life chances of vulnerable children who because of their actions will never have the opportunity of having a job to risk.