To be more embarrassed of my DP's behaviour in public than my DS's?

[DancingQueen79]

My DP never seems to be bothered of what people think of him when he's out and about. He just gets up to his usual ways of causing mischief and mayhem, whilst I'm often left cringing.....AIBU? A few examples of what he gets up to when we're out and about:

• trying to 'net me' and getting the fishing net stuck on my head which we were buying for the garden pond (whilst in the queue to pay for it)
• when he's had enough of waiting for me to finish looking in a clothes shop, he'll come into the shop and physically carry me out of it (just picture a fireman's lift in a branch of Karen Millen)
• another shopping related one - coming into the shop to enquire if anyone had seen a 'vacant blonde' anywhere and then waiting until someone pointed me out
• makes 'interesting and perhaps not entirely politically correct' faces whilst at the supermarket checkout, as well as doing overly competitive packing
• If he ever feels like I've told him off, he'll stick out his bottom lip and walk around like that for at least 10 minutes - no matter where we are!

Whilst he's definitely fun to be around, does anyone else have this problem with their other half??

AIBU to be embarrassed??

(I could've added more examples, but these were the immediate ones which sprang to mind this week)

YANBU
I would DIE. Especially about the faces in the supermarket. He really really needs to stop doing that.

Yanbu, I would be massively put off with someone like this.
I couldn't respect him acting like an idiot. I'm pretty sure your DS is more mature.

I know I'm old, but none of that's fun.

Sounds like he needs to grow up.

Alternatively, shop on your own.

Er....if my husband picked me up & carried me out of a shop because he was tired of waiting HE would die!!!!!
That's just rude

can't possibly say DHs most annoying ones as it would out me, but am glad I'm not the only one with an embarrassing DH - we should start a support group!

Mr Bean-style dancing in shops with canned music,anyone?

Calling you 'vacant' and making insulting faces in shops isn't funny. He must look utterly ridiculous. How embarrassing for everyone with him.

YA soooo NBU

I don't think I could stay with someone who showed so much disrespect towards me.

What do you think would be likely to happen if you stopped going out anywhere with him and told him its because you're embarrassed by his behaviour?

Yanbu....
He physically carried you out of a shop?
He sounds a bit like he's reached the mental age of a teenager and then just stopped. Not sure I can offer any practical advice, thought I'm sure others will. But yanbu, definitely!

actually, the more I read yours OP, the more I see they are quite unlike the plain daft but harmless stuff my DH does (mainly to make us laugh), some of those examples are quite disrespectful to you.

Have you tried telling him how it makes you feel?

Lordy

I could not spend time with someone who embarrassed me like this.

Does he have a sign above his desk that says "You don't have to be mad to work here, but it helps?"

Your DP sounds hilarious! But maybe I'm just immature

Clearly I too need to grow up as I chuckled at the examples you gave, luckily I couldn't give a shit.

He does sound fun to be around though I imagine it gets quite wearing, find someone else to shop with?

Oh. He's one of THEM.

I bet he's got a notice on his desk that says "You don't have to be mad to work here..". Does he wear novelty ties and underwear?

"Zanyness" is just the biggest turn off ever.

On the serious side - he calls you vacant to strangers and makes racist faces? Is he the reincarnation of Bernard Manning? WHY would you put up with this? WHY?

Do you find it funny?

[baffled]

The other stuff probably wouldn't bother me but how on earth have you allowed someone to pick you up and put you over their shoulder in public more than once?

That's not 'embarrassing' that's borderline abusive IMO.

I assume you have told him that's completely unacceptable?

HIVEMIND - YARP!

He is being incredibly disrespectful of you and others. He is not being 'fun', he is being rude. Referring to you as 'vacant', making (presumably racist?) faces behind people's backs, physically removing you from a shop just because he has decided he has had enough (your feelings are of no consequence clearly; does he 'permit' you to return to the shop once he's made his little point?), are appallingly insulting and contemptuous things to do.

Turniton

Great Minds......

Is he like Colin Hunt?

YANBU. I have a lot of fun with my DH. Very little of what you described in your OP is fun and most of it is massively disrespectful tbh. I would struggle to find anything attractive about someone this idiotic and contemptuous. I would be tempted to consider some time out/grounding/stopping pocket money.

'when he's had enough of waiting for me to finish looking in a clothes shop, he'll come into the shop and physically carry me out of it (just picture a fireman's lift in a branch of Karen Millen)

• another shopping related one - coming into the shop to enquire if anyone had seen a 'vacant blonde' anywhere and then waiting until someone pointed me out'

It's fun to be around this total dickhead? What an asshole.

Do the Freedom Programme and learn how to tell when someone's being a disrespectful twat to you.

Oh dear. He is immature and not funny. I can understand messing about a bit, but making faces that aren't politically correct?? He sounds like a bit of a tit. Sorry OP

He sounds so immature and rude. He needs to grow up. Sorry OP!

I second what expat posted

Sounds awful to me.

I would find him embarrassing.

And therefore wouldn't be with him...

He's a disrespectful prick. Think if the example he's setting your son.

I couldn't be with someone like this.

A perhaps less than serious suggestion: -
Every time he tries a stunt like that, claim loudly that you either don't know him and want him to stop following you or that he's broken the restraining order or something else similar.
My prediction is that he wont find it very funny. Your response?
"Now you know how I feel."