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To be more embarrassed of my DP's behaviour in public than my DS's?

152 replies

DancingQueen79 · 24/04/2015 16:39

My DP never seems to be bothered of what people think of him when he's out and about. He just gets up to his usual ways of causing mischief and mayhem, whilst I'm often left cringing.....AIBU? A few examples of what he gets up to when we're out and about:

  • trying to 'net me' and getting the fishing net stuck on my head which we were buying for the garden pond (whilst in the queue to pay for it)
  • when he's had enough of waiting for me to finish looking in a clothes shop, he'll come into the shop and physically carry me out of it (just picture a fireman's lift in a branch of Karen Millen)
  • another shopping related one - coming into the shop to enquire if anyone had seen a 'vacant blonde' anywhere and then waiting until someone pointed me out
  • makes 'interesting and perhaps not entirely politically correct' faces whilst at the supermarket checkout, as well as doing overly competitive packing
  • If he ever feels like I've told him off, he'll stick out his bottom lip and walk around like that for at least 10 minutes - no matter where we are!

Whilst he's definitely fun to be around, does anyone else have this problem with their other half??

AIBU to be embarrassed??

(I could've added more examples, but these were the immediate ones which sprang to mind this week)

OP posts:
Jackie0 · 24/04/2015 17:37

I think you've hit the nail on the head molyholy

FuckingLiability · 24/04/2015 17:41

Christ alive. I'd be mortified if DH behaved like that in public and I definitely have a sense of humour.

MagelanicClouds · 24/04/2015 17:41

I used to work in retail and once was forced to serve someone who was pretending to have SN. It wasn't funny. Had I not needed the job I would have told them exactly what I thought of them. Sadly my manager would have considered telling a customer that they were a "pig ignorant bigoted twat with shit for brains" as a firing offence.
They were quite put out I didn't find it funy.
It was a bit more than pulling a few faces though.
Does he really have no idea that the majority of people seeing his antics must think him a total prat?

InThisTogether · 24/04/2015 17:42

well I'd love it personally, and it sounds to me like some posters are taking life waaaay too seriously. I'll swap you, mine's a right grumpy old git!

butterflyballs · 24/04/2015 17:43

My dp is ex-services and in his 50s. I am not sure what being in the navy does to grown men but all his mates are the same.

My dp has:

Regularly started dancing in the supermarket to the music playing. Once I left him to it, turned round and found two other men had joined in.

Skips along the pavement trying to encourage me to "join in"

tells checkout staff he has got a bag when offered one, whilst pointing to me. It's not said in a nasty way and I don't take it in a nasty way either.

In a department store once, buying a dress and told him I needed "pull in pants" for underneath it. He shouted across the shop "my missus needs some pulling pants!! God knows why, she's already got me!" It was very funny and certainly made the staff laugh.

Will flirt with old ladies and chat to anyone. It takes us ages to get round the shops!

Bathsheba · 24/04/2015 17:44

Ehmmmm sounds like you'd be best to leave him at home when you go shopping...

What you don't say was how long had you been in Karen Millen before he carried you out..?

Was that the 150th shop he had been in that day...??

Maybe he is just genuinely absolutely sick of going shopping with you and trying to make a point in his own way

hackmum · 24/04/2015 17:45

Sorry, but he sounds like a bit of a twat to me. "Vacant blonde?" Urgh.

TwartFaceBeetj · 24/04/2015 17:45

I think I'd quite like the silly stuff, but would agree after years (or less if it was every day), I'd be fed up too

teawamutu · 24/04/2015 17:46

It's not about being serious all the time - DH and I are perfectly capable of having a laugh in public.

It's about thinking you're being funny when mocking people with SEN and humiliating your DP that is the Mark of the Twat.

AmysTiara · 24/04/2015 17:47

The net thing made me smile but the rest is horrible

Floggingmolly · 24/04/2015 17:47

He's definitely fun to be around
Really? He sounds like a tedious gobshite to me...

diddl · 24/04/2015 17:49

I'm in my 50's & dance in the supermarket (and sing) & I do like to skip as well!

Not ex forces though.

DishwasherDogs · 24/04/2015 17:50

Inthis, if you had a child with SN and you saw a grown manchild adult pulling faces, you would be offended.

I'm sorry, but anything that might offend anyone is not funny.
It's considered a criticism to call someone politically correct now, but all it means is that you're not going to do or say twatty things that may offend people. Surely that's being a decent, thoughtful person, and nothing to criticise.

Mrsjayy · 24/04/2015 18:12

You are treating him like a special snow flake he sounds a pain in the arse id be mortified his inner child jeez there is a time and a place to be silly tbh he sounds like akid thats bpred and doesnt know how to control themselves

Chippednailvarnish · 24/04/2015 18:15

he is perfect in every other way other than his personality.

Mrsjayy · 24/04/2015 18:16

Op making you the but of his jokes is humiliation and he is taking the piss of you honestly tell him to stop its only a joke when you find it funny not even going to mention the face pulling

expatinscotland · 24/04/2015 18:17

Wonder how your son feels? Mortified, I'll bet. What a fine example his inner child is to a real child.

EstRusMum · 24/04/2015 18:19

YANBU
I laughed Grin

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 24/04/2015 18:23

He sounds like an obnoxious arsehole. And disablist to boot probably.

It amazes me any sane woman looks at one of these gurning, prancing, pranksters and thinks "phwoargh I'd love to get him in bed!"

justonemoretime2p · 24/04/2015 18:29

He sounds hilarious to me.

LimeFizz · 24/04/2015 18:31

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justonemoretime2p · 24/04/2015 18:33

"I'm sorry, but anything that might offend anyone is not funny."

WOW, you offend me.

emotionsecho · 24/04/2015 18:35

Exactly Tondelayo , I bet he looks like a real sex god walking around with his bottom lip stuck out like a sulky toddler.

I have loads of fun with my dh, he makes me laugh until I cry sometimes but none of his humour is based around behaving like an out of control child.

I can't work out the OP's motives for posting this she very quickly flew to his defence once people stated their opinions on his behaviour and agreed she wasn't being unreasonableConfused, odd.

Floggingmolly · 24/04/2015 18:37

She probably thought we'd all be jealous of her sex god boring twat of a partner.

FromSeaToShining · 24/04/2015 18:45

You're welcome to him, OP. He sounds like an idiot. Are you suggesting he makes faces pretending to have a disability? That is horrible.

As for the rest of it, his behaviour sounds embarrassing and childish on the one hand and insulting on the other (carrying you out of a shop and referring to you as a vacant blonde?). Ugh.