To be more embarrassed of my DP's behaviour in public than my DS's?

[DancingQueen79]

My DP never seems to be bothered of what people think of him when he's out and about. He just gets up to his usual ways of causing mischief and mayhem, whilst I'm often left cringing.....AIBU? A few examples of what he gets up to when we're out and about:

• trying to 'net me' and getting the fishing net stuck on my head which we were buying for the garden pond (whilst in the queue to pay for it)
• when he's had enough of waiting for me to finish looking in a clothes shop, he'll come into the shop and physically carry me out of it (just picture a fireman's lift in a branch of Karen Millen)
• another shopping related one - coming into the shop to enquire if anyone had seen a 'vacant blonde' anywhere and then waiting until someone pointed me out
• makes 'interesting and perhaps not entirely politically correct' faces whilst at the supermarket checkout, as well as doing overly competitive packing
• If he ever feels like I've told him off, he'll stick out his bottom lip and walk around like that for at least 10 minutes - no matter where we are!

Whilst he's definitely fun to be around, does anyone else have this problem with their other half??

AIBU to be embarrassed??

(I could've added more examples, but these were the immediate ones which sprang to mind this week)

Why is it funny to pull a "gormless" face?
How sad that an adult finds it acceptable to behave like this. I hope your DS has a more inclusive attitude.
People with different needs do not chose them: your DP choses to behave in a way likely to cause distress and which is highly insulting. What a poor example to set his son.

I've offended you JustOne? Really?
Ok. I'm sure I can live with that, knowing I haven't actually said anything offensive.

The poor member of staff at the till would probably think the "funny" faces were actually making fun at their expense.

And what is competitive packing?

Im still offended.

Why the f would you stay with someone like that?

I think he sounds funny, I'd probably like to go for a pint with you both

I think he sounds funny but if he is embarrassing you just tell him.

Good luck to my dp if he tried picking me up in a shop, he'd break his back!

Remembering my 30th bday 7 years ago and my friends got me the ugliest fireman stripper you could imagine, he was 5ft nothing and attempted to pick me up. I screamed "put me down I've got sciatica!" Rather than the fact that he wouldn't lift me off the floor never mind over his shoulder:)

Anyway sorry for derail, he sounds a bit strange, that's not normal behaviour.

Peter pan syndrome maybe?

Well if my H tried to carry me put of a shop because he was bored waiting they would hear the fallout at the other end of the country.
That is totally fucking unacceptable. I would be fuming. And the vacant blond thing? Dickhead.

DancingQueen YANBU to be embarassed. It's unclear from your OP whether you have tried talking to him about it. Maybe he is unaware that you feel uncomfortable?

To all the other posters calling the DP twat, prick and dickhead- just lay off. It is not nice.

DH wouldn't be able to carry me out of anywhere, which is a huge indicator of me never ever entering a clothes shop that fits only slimmer ladies. I'd probably laugh heartily, but then I embarrass my 'non confrontational' husband a fair bit.

If you find it over steps your boundaries, you are well within your rights to state that to him!

I'd like to go for a pint with you two, too as a previous poster said

Agree with Amra, OP has given you a snapshot of her DH's behaviour, I suspect she meant for it to be more light hearted than it turned out so well done to those of you who have made her think she's married to a twat by seeing things that you don't actually know are there.

'To all the other posters calling the DP twat, prick and dickhead- just lay off. It is not nice.'

Making 'gormless' faces is twattish. That's not nice, that's dickheaded.

They aren't married. He's not her husband.

Sounds like a prick, too.

But hey, she appears to find it funny, so they're made for each other.

He sounds like a self-involved tool who gets off on humiliating people. My friend's DH is similar. He has to dominate every situation either by being 'zany' or by ostentatious sulking.

He sounds dull as fuck and with zero sense of humour. Just a big 'zany' bag of misfired twattery where there should be wit or cleverness.

And the pulling faces thing? Foul. Just foul.

I'd be mortified for you ....he thinks he's zany and whacky and fun....

Not

Sounds like my DH. Thankfully I don't have a stick up my arse unlike some posters (abusive really?) I feel lucky to have a DH who cares so much about making me smile and having fun together. Some posters must lead a very sad life.

As long as you keep laughing along with your 'fun guy'

Well I'd find it incredibly tedious to be around - not even embarrassing, just boring. DH can be fun to be around without making a tit of himself.

Have to say though that the DH who danced in the supermarket aisle would have made me laugh, especially when others joined in

Mine's like this too. He was when I married him. But he makes me laugh so I forgive him.

Putting aside the absolutely twattish behaviour where he pretends he is 'gormless', I just find a man like that attractive. It's the Rowan Atkinson thing, isn't it (only on a really amateur scale.) I just couldn't see someone like that as an adult and as someone I wanted to sleep with.

Ugh, typo there - I just couldn't find a man like that attractive, I should have said.

'Some posters must lead a very sad life.'

No, it's actually really good, not being with a person who acts like a tit in public and thinks it's funny.

Phantom I will happily join your surpport group