AIBU for not being a 'real' MNetter

[derxa]

I don't fit in. I'm old (55), Scottish, sent my DC to private school, not feminist, vaguely right wing, love my DH of 28 years, love red meat, etc. etc. Although I do love Mumsnet. What can I do?

You're not an anomaly on mumsnet. I bet there are loads similar to you. There's everything from red flag flyers to I want to vote ukipers and everything in between. There are teenage parents and people enjoying their retirements years and everything in between. There's people in the uk and from all over the world. There's LOADS of private school threads. People who've been with someone far longer than you. People who are just starting out. People who are vegan, people who would run up to a cow with a knife and fork! etc etc

If we all had the same views on everything, then every post would begin I like/do/say/think/feel...

and there'd be 999 posts saying "me too"

And then thread 2 would start with the words "I also agree, but there was no space to say so"

But instead threads kick off massively, which can only mean there are lots of different people on here, with lots of different views.

I am sure you are nice, but sorry, you are not unique in all of mumsnet. Not at all.

How can you have a PGCE from "Oxbridge"? It's not a real place. Perhaps you meant Uxbridge? Or Ambridge?

Perhaps she got one each from Oxford and Cambridge. That would be impressive.

I wasn't aware you could do teacher training at Oxford or Cambridge.

Oh - and plenty of people on here have several degrees. I've got a B.Sc,M.Sc and PGCE.

But not from Oxford or Cambridge.

I think she has the cold glare of a psychopath, HeartsTrump. But yes, a pretty one.

Pgce from oxbridge?

www.education.ox.ac.uk/courses/pgce/
www.educ.cam.ac.uk/courses/pgce/

No don't doubt that you can get a pgce from Oxford and Cambridge.

But no one who has got a pgce from Oxford would say they got it from oxbridge. No one. And same re Cambridge.

I call bull shit.

I'm pro-choice but wouldn't choose it myself. But I would always support a woman's right to choose for herself. Sod all to do with me

I have a degree from a Russell Group University

I vote Tory

I am more than happy to change my name when DP and I get married.

But I still feel like I fit in.

Because surely we should celebrate that we are individual and can all make our own choices?

ah. ok. I'm a bit dim

I'm a bit dim

Yes Fenella, this is what happens when people without Oxbridge degrees are let loose on MN. Shame on you.

I've been fortunate enough to LTB and am lucky enough to love my husband of 11 years. Am I a proper MNer or not?

Looking at the admissions criteria, they let people with 2;1s apply for PGCEs at Oxford and Cambridge.

I wonder if you need straight A's and all that? Or maybe they look for people who they think will make good teachers - and that doesn't always mean being academic and very good at your subject.

I don't think where you did your PGCE is seen as important.

I'm right wing and love my husband.
However, I like to write the word Fuck so I probably do fit in ok

oh the cheek of it.

They BEGGED to have me. BEGGED I tell you. But no, I said. The world needs my genius. I cannot be selfish enough to give myself over to you for 4 years. I must remain, out there, spreading my, erm, genius and shit.

What you said Fenella !!!!! Love you x

why, thank you
cheque's in the post

I don't fit in.
-So the rest of us are a homogenous mass who all think the same thing? This isn't school, you don't have to be part of a clique anymore.
I'm old (55)

• Not old. Also, there are plenty of people on here who are grandparents, so some will be older than you.

Scottish

• There are mumsnetters from Australia, the US, Asia... Scottish is hardly 'foreign' to us...

sent my DC to private school

• I doubt you're alone in that, although there are people on here who disagree with the concept of fee-paying schools. If them asserting their right to debate the issue makes you feel uncomfortable, that is your problem.

not feminist

• So men are naturally superior? Feminism simply means the belief that women are equal to men. Not the same, but equal. I presume you won't be voting, and didn't bother paying for your daughter's education?

vaguely right wing

• I have no idea of the political leanings of most mumsnetters, nor do I care. I also don't think people on here will be bothered about my political beliefs, unless I choose to air them on a thread. Besides, you're not a feminist so why do you have opinions on politics?

love my DH of 28 years

• Yeah, cos mumsnet is well known for being full of women who hate their husbands. I for one, can't stand mine and wish I'd never married him...

love red meat

• Me too. Um, I really can't recall a single thread about how bad red meat is, let alone a sense of general red-meat-hatred. Do you think mumsnet is full of vegetarian yoga bunnies? (although there are plenty of those here, I'd hardly say it's an integral part of the mumsnet atmosphere)

Although I do love Mumsnet. -Why? Since you clearly look down on us as naive, image-obsessed man-haters? What can I do?

• Stop listening to what The Wright Stuff, the Daily Mail, etc, says about us and understand that Mumsnet is made up of actual women, with individual views and if you actually read beyond the AIBU boards you'll find that a lot of us are kind-hearted, clever, and funny. You've pissed quite a few people off with your condescending attitude, but if you start treating us like human beings we'll soon forgive you.

Weird. I thought most MNetters were Scotish.

One of my teachers had a PGCE from Oxford. Well, I suppose she still has it. They don't take them away when you retire, do they? Anyway, I think she retired in her sixties. I infer from this that Oxford has been doing them a while.

Fluffy We're on the same page i.e. we're unique and should not be pigeonholed. (btw I hate Matthew Wright). There's oceans of helpful heartfelt advice on threads and I try to help where I can. It's just that I feel I dont't fit in here or in RL. In RL I am funny and nice/ PITA and a complete diva. However, the last thing I want to be is condescending because I am not in the business of looking down on anyone. Thanks for your lengthy post.

I just don't understand the point of the OP. Am I missing something?

Clearly not Oxbridge educated

Well, it's a bit weird. Anyone who has spent a lot of time on Mumsnet (in this case, me) knows that there are lots of people on here who eat meat, privately educate their kids, are a bit right-wing, well-educated and over 50.

Perhaps the OP isn't spending enough time on Mumsnet and doing other stuff with her life.

What the actual fuck? Just get on with it. Nothing here is real anyway.

I have no children, don't want any I love mumsnet and I am really rather drunk right now (sorry auntie mintyy)! I love most mumsnetters but especially happyhippychick which may well out me! Erm what was this Fred about again?

I think lots of people have a faint 'I don't quite fit in' thing which, I believe, is sometimes a little bit of social anxiety.

I think other people think 'I don't quite fit in' because they believe they are so very special.

And others feel 'I don't quite fit in' because for some reason or another they are privately very lonely.