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Male friend revealed something worrying when he was drunk. AIBU to think this is really creepy and needs reporting?

87 replies

SummerOfLadybirds · 23/04/2015 14:32

He's a plumber and works for a small company that has a contract with several rental companies. When very drunk, he told me and another friend that he and colleagues play a 'game' when they're in people's houses that involves stealing a pair of women's dirty knickers and bringing them back as a trophy. Once a month they show each other their 'trophies' allocate points and whoever scores highest gets free drinks all night (the sexier the style and the dirtier/smellier the knickers the more points it gets). BTW friend is in his late 30s and not the type you would ever imagine to do something like this. Other friend was shocked but laughed and said she'd move her laundry basket out of bathroom next time a plumber came. She says its just silly fun that all men get up to!

Am I being prudish to be horrified?

OP posts:
Only1scoop · 23/04/2015 14:34

Confused Ugh

whatsthatcomingoverthehill · 23/04/2015 14:35

YABU to even think you need to ask.

Hobby2014 · 23/04/2015 14:35

If be horrified too.
Grown up, adult men doing this, why?

Hobby2014 · 23/04/2015 14:35

I'd*

cinders456 · 23/04/2015 14:35

I'd be horrified too. It's disgusting and perverted.

TwinkieTwinkle · 23/04/2015 14:36

That's disgusting and a massive invasion of privacy. I would be informing management at their company and if they do nothing then the companies they do work for.

londonrach · 23/04/2015 14:37

Which plumber firm as they going on my never ever list. Shocked!

MagicMojito · 23/04/2015 14:38

He's a disgusting pervert. Report the scummy bastards AngryShock

uglyswan · 23/04/2015 14:38

Aaargh!!!! Jesus!!!! That is absolutely revolting! Trophies? Wtaf? The comtempt, the derision these men must feel for actual real-life women! Christ! And "She says its just silly fun that all men get up to!" No. It's theft. It's harassment. It's objectifying these women without their knowledge and definitely without their consent. No, OP, YANBU or prudish. Not at all.

GaryBaldy · 23/04/2015 14:39

OMG that is bloody awful.

CMOTGilbertBlythe · 23/04/2015 14:39

Not my idea of fun, I hope he catches an STI.

FenellaFellorick · 23/04/2015 14:40

You have to ask?

No, of course not. It is revolting. It is an invasion of privacy and it is massively disrespectful.

I would think a lot less of any friend of mine who did such a thing.

StupidBloodyKindle · 23/04/2015 14:41

Nope not all prudish. It is a gross invasion privacy and pretty gross full stop.
Also stupidly childish for a man of 30. Sad wankers.
How would they feel if it was their mum's / sister's /daughter's /partner's undies?
Whilst it may be a victimless crime in terms of few women noticing, it is still a huge violation. As for how smelly they are, fuck me, if they actually sniff them that is unbelievably rank. Even I baulk at doing that if I am not sure whether a pair is dirty or not. The mind boggles. I am sure they would have a great time finding knickers at my house but as none could be described as sexy skimpy bright or classy I reckon I am safe. Smelly on the other hand.Wink

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/04/2015 14:41

I would be putting this information round anyone that I new so that they didn't employ that firm.

CrystalCove · 23/04/2015 14:43

What a lovely person he sounds Hmm

londonrach · 23/04/2015 14:43

Just wondering if workman collect one sock from each place as might explain where some of my socks have gone......

ScotsWhaHae · 23/04/2015 14:43

Dirty fucking bastards

IhavenevermetAnthonyHead · 23/04/2015 14:43

That is awful. If you have the courage I'd find a way to publicly/locally name and shame the company.

Pyjamaschocolateandwine · 23/04/2015 14:44

Well really what adult women have 'really dirty smelly knickers' lying around the house.

Sounds like bollicks to me op.

Anyway you have absolutely no proof and he will just say you are a liar if indeed it's true.

Why not ask him again when he's sober?

StupidBloodyKindle · 23/04/2015 14:44

I think now he is sober you ask him that question...how he would feel if one of his mates was brandishing his mum's knickers...

CaptainAnkles · 23/04/2015 14:44

Revolting, inappropriate, and presumably illegal, seeing as how it's theft after all. I'm surprised he would tell anybody about it, actually.

StupidBloodyKindle · 23/04/2015 14:45

pyjama Erm....Blush

unnaturalmakeup · 23/04/2015 14:45

Is he now an ex friend?

StupidBloodyKindle · 23/04/2015 14:46

londonrach Grin I do wonder....

Mypubesarestraight · 23/04/2015 14:46

That is horrifying!

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