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AIBU?

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Male friend revealed something worrying when he was drunk. AIBU to think this is really creepy and needs reporting?

87 replies

SummerOfLadybirds · 23/04/2015 14:32

He's a plumber and works for a small company that has a contract with several rental companies. When very drunk, he told me and another friend that he and colleagues play a 'game' when they're in people's houses that involves stealing a pair of women's dirty knickers and bringing them back as a trophy. Once a month they show each other their 'trophies' allocate points and whoever scores highest gets free drinks all night (the sexier the style and the dirtier/smellier the knickers the more points it gets). BTW friend is in his late 30s and not the type you would ever imagine to do something like this. Other friend was shocked but laughed and said she'd move her laundry basket out of bathroom next time a plumber came. She says its just silly fun that all men get up to!

Am I being prudish to be horrified?

OP posts:
RudeBarbandCustard · 23/04/2015 14:50

Are your knickers immediately washed the minute you take them off pyjamas? Don't you wait until you at least have a full load? Sounds like a terrible waste of water!

kinkyfuckery · 23/04/2015 14:51

Another thread about knickers going missing? Hmm.

FenellaFellorick · 23/04/2015 14:54

oh yes, I heard about the 'please tell me stories of your knickers being stolen' thread last night.

NightsOfGethsemane · 23/04/2015 14:55

Yuk. Grim. It is a gross invasion of privacy and massively misogynistic to boot. It shows a really nasty contempt for their female clients.

I would report this to the management of the company. Assuming they are not in on it of course. Sad

MiddleAgedandConfused · 23/04/2015 15:29

A builder once told me that he knew people who would look through the house for photos of female clients to try and find topless shots on the beach.

I think this type of disgusting behaviour is more common that you think.

CaspianSea · 23/04/2015 15:33

Ugh... that's so creepy and weird. I had a plumber round other day to fix shower, hope he didn't rifle through my laundry basket!! Shock

Hard to know what to do as it sounds like all the guys are in on it and would lie and deny it. Unless customers have complained about missing undies, but who rings a plumbing company to say 'my knickers are missing I think one of your employees took them'?

Not sure how anyone could prove what they've been doing unless one of them gets caught in act.

RosesareSublime · 23/04/2015 15:33

id call 1O1 and ask for advice this is crossing so many boundaries.

OurGlass · 23/04/2015 15:34

Yanbu, obviously and you must know that.

VelvetRose · 23/04/2015 15:40

What revolting people! That's truly disgusting.

Wideeyedcarrrot · 23/04/2015 15:52

I guess he takes them from the laundry basket? There wouldn't be any just lying around my house but if he was working in the bathroom there'd likely be some in the laundry basket.
Grim!

ItsNotTrueThough · 23/04/2015 16:04

Blimey OP, It's ironic that you thought the stranger on the mountain was weird when a man you count as a 'friend' admits this to you. I hope the woman friend you mention in the OP wasn't the same as 'scared of ghosts' friend. Wink

Am I correct in thinking you had another thread with a curious ethical problem that ended up being deleted because of bunfighting? I wish I could remember what it was.

DixieNormas · 23/04/2015 16:10

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SummerOfLadybirds · 23/04/2015 16:13

ItsNot, no it's not the same friend I went hiking with.
I don't think any of my threads were deleted because of bun-fighting, unless I started one a long time ago and forgot about it. What 'curious ethical problem' are you referring to?

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KatherinaMinova · 23/04/2015 16:14

Ah, good memory It'snottruethough! (Good username too Grin )

ItsNotTrueThough · 23/04/2015 16:17

Eek! Disclaimer, I've been using this username for a few days it's NOT for this thread Blush

Psipsina · 23/04/2015 16:19

OP I'm afraid in your position I would probably encourage him to discuss it either on a recorded phone call or by email/ on FB so I had some sort of evidence to present.

The police might be interested as well as the rental agencies and possibly his boss though as someone already said, the boss might be involved too.

You could approach it in a sort of enthralled 'my friend wants to know if this is true, she didn't believe me when I told her' kind of jokey way. Then when he admits it you have him.

ItsNotTrueThough · 23/04/2015 16:20

Summer. Mmm, I must be getting confused. I thought you were on another thread that ended up being deleted. It wasn't deleted for trolling. Anyway, sorry if I got that wrong.

FujimotosElixir · 23/04/2015 16:22

jesus christ! there isn't any way he told you where he keeps them so you could grab the evidence? ...that is just urgh!Shock

BubGal13 · 23/04/2015 16:34

This is so disgusting!!!! Vile, perverted, criminal...also very very worrying as your DNA would be all over the knickers, could be damaging in just so so many ways.

I would actually report this to police.

richthegreatcornholio · 23/04/2015 17:15

He probably enjoys a batman wank. I suspect this is actually quite a common thing knowing how dirty men are in general.

diddl · 23/04/2015 17:20

Sounds like made up bollocks tbh.

The actual bothering to steal knickers, let alone compare & allocate points!

Skeppers · 23/04/2015 17:21

Just LOLing at 'batman wank'! Grin

richthegreatcornholio · 23/04/2015 17:25

Google it. It's a thing lol

finnbarrcar · 23/04/2015 17:25

I think the op watches too many films. Pretty sure this exact scenario was in ken loach's riff raff or something very similar.

TomCruiseCreepsMeOut · 23/04/2015 17:26

I don't believe a word of it. He's having you on. I doubt a whole group of men would be ok with committing theft together, not to mention the moral aspects. So either he is fibbing, or you are.