How to tell someone you do not want them coming on holiday with you?

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My husband just called me to say that his friend asked where we are going on holiday and could they join us with his wife and children.

We are going away for 2 weeks to a all inc resort in Spain.

Here is the problem, I do not particularly gel with the wife, and the thought of spending two weeks with her fills me with dread.

If told my husband this and he got the hump with me saying he would like them to come.

I can see it now, husband and mate propping up the bar while I listen to the wife talk about herself (she does this ALOT).

So my husband has told me to txt the wife saying we would rather go on our own.

How do I txt her this without sounding like an utter Biatch???

Please help me word it nicely.

Thanks

Tell your bloody husband to do it! he asked after a chat with HIS mate, you were honest so its now your problem? Fuck that.

I know but he is so bloody crap at saying no to someone that if I won't do it, nor will he!!!

Put the phone down. Your husband tells his mate no.

Well you're going to have to insist, aren't you? This isn't your problem to sort out. He should have said it was a non-runner straight away. Big bloody jessie.

Ring her and tell her you're having problems in your marriage and really need the time as a family. Hopefully she won't be thick skinned enough to ignore that.

Tell him to say he spoke to the missus and she just wants family time with the kids this time around, maybe next time. End story

I'd text myself to make sure there is no doubt!! A quick text explaining how much you value your own family holiday and wish to go alone.

No need to feel bad, if you'd wanted to go with another family to begin with, you'd have all booked up at the same time!

Yes, tell your husband to just tell his friend, why should you be involved?

I'm not very good at wording things so hopefully someone will come along who can do it better but I'd say something along the lines of been a really long year, looking forward to spending some time just as a family, dc can't wait to have some time with us on their own, blah blah.

BUT I would definitely get your DH to do it!

It sounds as if the husband won't do it though as it suits him to have a drinking buddy!

Your DH is a right dick! I'd be fuming.

Yy yoto "family time" excuse

I would force dh to do it. Neither I nor the kids would be going if he failed to do so.

I know your all right , I would be saying the same, but seriously if I don't tell her, he won't tell him and will get put on the spot will end up telling him the dates hotel, etc ...,

Can't beleive I'm put in this horrid position.

I just checked and unfortunately there is still availability.

Just to add I've not had a holiday abroad for 2 years and won't go next year as money tight so I want this to be a good holiday, said couple are just about to move in to a 1.5 million house and holiday several times a year.

I'll speak to him tonight and tell him to grow a pair and do it himself! Fuming

Cut and paste what you've just typed then

"We've not had a holiday abroad for 2 years and won't go next year as money tight so want this to be a good special family holiday - sure you'll understand"

Phone the husband and tell him -- that should piss off DH! He won't put you in that position again.

You aren't friends with her anyway - why contact her??? Ridiculous.

I agree - how has it come to pass that you are responsible for delivering the blow to his friend's wife? Fgs tell him to tell his mate that he's discussed it with you and decided to keep it just yourselves on this occasion. Don't take this one on.

Or what curly said. Just get him to say that. No biggie.

I'd be gobsmacked if anyone - regardless of how close I was to them! - invited themselves on my holiday

No way would I let him do it if he was washy about it. I'd send a quick text and have your DH say the same to the husband. United in your response.

I would say that what curley said.

Perhaps your Dh felt put on the spot when his friend asked him if they could join you? Maybe he's relying on you being brave enough to say 'No, that doesn't suit us'. Be the brave one OP, this needs to be sorted, and soon, so that you look forward to your holiday and don't dread it. Good luck!

Thanks all, i messaged my husband to tell him to say we just want a family holiday just us as didn't get a holiday last year ! What a stress!!

He is absolutely shit at confrontation of any kind.

Definitely send the text yourself otherwise they'll end up coming anyway! Then rip your dh's balls off for dropping you in it.

I would just say that you're sure she'll understand but your holiday time as a family is very precious so you don't go with anyone else.

You have to shut this down or else you'll have a really crap holiday.

He was put on the spot, but he got shitty with me when I said no way, he knows how I feel about the wife I often avoid her or roll my eyes at thought of seeing her so my response should not have come as a shock.

Fancy inviting yourself along on someone else's holiday

How rude is that?!