How to tell someone you do not want them coming on holiday with you?

[BingBong36]

My husband just called me to say that his friend asked where we are going on holiday and could they join us with his wife and children.

We are going away for 2 weeks to a all inc resort in Spain.

Here is the problem, I do not particularly gel with the wife, and the thought of spending two weeks with her fills me with dread.

If told my husband this and he got the hump with me saying he would like them to come.

I can see it now, husband and mate propping up the bar while I listen to the wife talk about herself (she does this ALOT).

So my husband has told me to txt the wife saying we would rather go on our own.

How do I txt her this without sounding like an utter Biatch???

Please help me word it nicely.

Thanks

How odd.
Hope she takes it well op, think the text is great.

Glad you sent that text OP stay firm regardless of what she texts back

Ooh, well done. FWIW, he doesn't sound like great company, either. Pushy, fancies an all-inclusive holiday with a 4month old (which he wouldn't get much out of unless he manages to get away from said 4mo at least a bit)...

I wouldn't text the wife; I'd text the husband. He's the one that asked.

The wording of your text is fine, though, IMO.

And read your husband the riot act.

good woman yourself.

don't be afraid of any bad feeling.
if you get any aggro, you can direct them to your DH's douchebag tendencies.

Nice one Op,

Got to nip this sh*t in the bud...

You know what gets you through life? Knowing when to say no and developing a thick skin.

And tell your dh to never commit before running things like this by you the daft sod.

I'd like to be a fly on the wall for your chat with DH tonight.

If I was the wife and I received your text, I would be so embarrassed that my husband was trying to muscle in on your holiday!

4 month old baby? That'll be it then.

Husband dear would MUCH rather be propping up the bar with a drinking bud than spending his time running back to the room for wet wipes/holding baby while wife goes to loo or shower etc. Nah, you were being lined up to do that!

I'd be livid with DH if he did this. Well done on the text, and any persuading and follow it up with 'Sorry, a joint holiday really isn't going to work for us this year for a lot of reasons.'

Yes my money is your dh And friend cooked this up between them so they could swan off drinking while you guys do the childcare.

How aggravating for you that it was left to you to sort it out.

The wife probably has no clue the husband is asking can they tag along on someone else's holiday.

Good on you for sending the text to her BingBong!

sylvanian exactly

Thanks everyone...

Yes my husband does need to develop more of a thick skin, I am always the one to sort stuff out and speak up, and then in a row he will say 'you love a bit of confrontation!'

Who the feck likes confrontation... I generally have no choice!!

Then I tell him to grow a pair and that doesn't go down well either. That's a whole other thread!!

I think she will be fine and understand, I would if it was me.

Yes 4 month old baby, mine are 4 and 7 so will prob gob to kids club some of the time but id still be left with a 4 month old. 'Can you just hold the baby for a second while I read a bit if my book?' 'Can you watch the baby while I go for a quick swim?' I can see it now, DH's pissed somewhere!

This is a classic "What if she's a mumsnetter?" scenario . Hopefully that'll be the end of it OP.

She replied ' no worries honey, catch up soon'

Phew, case closed. Thanks all

Result!!

Result!!

Sorted! :D no thanks to hubster haha

Oh rats, I was looking forward to the drama of another MN epic thread.
Well done Op, it would have been a nightmare.

Good text, well done!

Yanbu

Your Dh is however

He needs to grow em and sort out the potential problem he's caused.

Ah six all sorted I see.

Grand