How to tell someone you do not want them coming on holiday with you?

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My husband just called me to say that his friend asked where we are going on holiday and could they join us with his wife and children.

We are going away for 2 weeks to a all inc resort in Spain.

Here is the problem, I do not particularly gel with the wife, and the thought of spending two weeks with her fills me with dread.

If told my husband this and he got the hump with me saying he would like them to come.

I can see it now, husband and mate propping up the bar while I listen to the wife talk about herself (she does this ALOT).

So my husband has told me to txt the wife saying we would rather go on our own.

How do I txt her this without sounding like an utter Biatch???

Please help me word it nicely.

Thanks

It's

Sorted with no fuss and bother.

I wouldn't like to be your Dh tonight. There might be a bit of fuss and bother flying around later...

Ha! Show your DH how EASY that was!

Ha ha-well done! Is your DH annoyed that his bar-fest has been cancelled!?

I haven't seen him yet!!!

Woohooo, happy holidays!!!!

Well done you, he sounds as wet as a wet dish cloth, with very little backbone.

Oh well done you, sensible women all round

That was a nice response to her, You couldnt have done any better. Glad its all sorted. Sorry your husband wimped out of being more direct with his mate

I still think you should make sure they don't find out your dates/name of hotel...

My new mantra is 'learn to say no without explaining yourself'

No. Maybe another time.

End of

Sctually the wife sounds alright from
That text.

Guessing she want keen either.

men's idea.

i can't believe it was so eas.

that's not good MNing!

Yes I bet that other wife had been having a 'you said we'd go on holiday with who?' style argument with her husband too!

Well exactly. I like babies in general, but I wouldn't want to go on holiday with my best mate if she had a 4mo old.

My DH standard answer to those questions is 'doubt it, patterkiller doesn't do joint holidays'

It means the person asking doesn't feel it's personal, I'm just a miserable cow with everyone. he leant this mantra after a bloody big fall out when his parents turned up on our first family holiday years ago.

Late to the party and see it's all sorted. Just to say I agree this was all about mate wanting you to deal with his 4 month old and not him. Cheek!

Alternatively, you could have text her to say:

"So lovely that you are joining Mike and the kids for holidays this year, I was really worried that the kids would go haywire without a female influence, while I am at my mums/grans for her op. Now Mike will be able to enjoy a few evenings out with your husband, the kids are really angelic so dont worry"

And watch them squirm.....

Well played, OP!

But I just have to mention that on another thread yesterday, "No worries" was suggested as a passive-aggressive reply to a text that anyone over the age of 13 would correctly read as meaning "Fuck off, you twat!"

That was Relationships though, so I'm sure it's fine!

Nah. I bet she was just as unenthusiastic at the thought of holidaying with the OP as the OP was with her.

I'd hate to go on holiday with another family even people I get on with. Just say you'd rather go on a family holiday. You could kind of say perhaps we could arrange a weekend away some time even if you don't really mean it. But it would kind of help.

I see it's sorted. Good!

I was going to suggest texting the wife: 'so excited by the holiday idea, dh and I have always fancied a partner swapping session. I'm also into black rubber, whips and blow up sheep. We don't do safety words either, they're for the weak'

I have had great fun holidaying with another family. But I wouldn't want the set up suggested here.

Yes Euphemia.... Funny until they say:

Ok you're on!