DP just text his mum "Hi lovely lady"...

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I know his mum is indeed a lovely lady but for him to address her like it seems a bit overly friendly. He usually uses phrases like that when slightly tipsy and is after something from me!
AIBU to find it a bit weird that he text her calling her that and then said he does it all the time?

If you look at the time stamp for each reply, you'll see that many people -including me- didn't see your second post. Or your third!

Over friendly ??? The woman gave birth to him and you don't get anymore friendly than that.

My best friend texts me as lovely lady, another calls me hinny. I text my mum big kisses etc.
I can see that you would be discomforted that his pet name for you is actually his catch all affectionate term for the women in his life.
however, we can use the same phrases with very different intent depending on the recipient. I call both my kids and dh by the same stock names and would include one in a sexy message to dh.
honestly don't worry it's fine.

You might be mistaking mumsnet for netmums! Mumsnet has always been like this, especially the aibu board.

If you don't like the repliess, stop coming back and reading them or are you hoping that suddenly it will all change and everyone will say "ooh that's weird, I'd hate it if dh said that to his mum"

Would love dd or ds to text me that. Don't even get a greeting off dd, she is the only one old enough to text. I hope ds does when he is older.

To be honest op, is this about you not understanding relationships, or is this about your feelings op his relationship with his mum. Do you have a problem with that relationship in general?

Have you been together long?

Why are you reading his texts?

I think you're being a little over sensitive... it's aibu and the responses haven't been that bad. You also had your question answered. Perhaps post in relationships next time you have a similar query and I think you having difficulty with understanding relationships needs to go in the op.

Apologies I did not realise you were bipolar when I posted. Please don't be offended I just thought this was one of the MIL=evil threads.

I am afraid OP that people only read the first post and pile in.

For the benefit of people coming late -OP knows she was unreasonable.

Oh, the inevitable drip feed.

YABU! Sounds like they have a great relationship. :)

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It's totally normal for him to text that (and he sounds like very decent nice bloke) but I would find him using the same phrase a but 'icky' if he uses it to flirt with you.

Just say (if he calls you lovely lady) ughhh.. Your said that to your mum last week.. Laugh it off but it's only a phrase.

I do understand your sense of discomfort. Especially as this useage was new, to your knowledge, after some time together.

I remember when a boyfriend's father addressed me by a nn that only the BF used and, while it was completely innocent - BF referred to me openly by the nn as well as addressing me by it, so his dad would just have thought it was what I was commonly called - if felt shockingly intimate, for a moment.

He text it in front of me, I get on with his mum brilliantly. I didn't know if I was being odd-we posted it together as he knows I come on here to see if it is me not quite understanding how people relate to each other or if it is a thing that others may find odd too.

I hope ds refers to me as a lovely lady when he grows up!

You're getting a hard time on here OP. It was a valid AIBU, as opposed to people who post non AIBUs on this board just for the traffic.

I think its odd! not over friendly, that's just a poor choice of words. Maybe he just muddled his greetings but i bet his mum's face looked

I think it's ok, maybe a bit unusual. But I cringe when DH refers to his parents as "Mummy and Daddy" (not in a sarcastic way, just in an 8-year-old way), so I'm probably just impressed with him sounding like an adult!

Yanbu especially if he also uses it on you when tipsy.

I hate slimy talk

Thank you for your replies, I did have an inkling it may be me as I really do struggle with social interaction and what is "normal".
I've apologised to DP for questioning it but he prefers me to be open when I have an issue so I don't let them blow up in my head and trigger an episode.

As for thinking this is netmums-I'm afraid I've never been on there-I've been on here as a user around 5/6 years and as a lurker another 5 years prior to that.