To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

Charmaine is OK properly pronounced imo... Not so nice as a Ch instead of a Sh though.

I teach the demographic of children that the OP's concerned her niece will be assumed to be amongst should she be called Charmaine and it's all Laurens and Katies tbh. Taylor, Madison and Brook figure highly too.

I don't think it's your business really OP. I don't like the names my DB's given to his DC but I'd never think to get involved.

Aisha / Ayesha is very much a Muslim name, she was Mohammed's wife.

I would love to read a post from the sil though. I am sure she and the db have a really good laugh at the pretentious behaviour of his mother and sister.

Ah, mad Tanya with the swivelly eyes from Footballer's Wives.

I LOVED that show. Series One definitely the best.

I've spoken to my Dsis about it and she agrees we must talk to DB alone tomorrow to gauge how he really feels and make sure he is aware of the implications.

We also discussed the possibility of a family nickname but it doesn't really solve the problem.

My brother commented negatively about my son's name.

In that moment I lost all respect for my brother.

The only correct response to the naming of a child is a positive one.

horrifiednamechanger you have named your children. You would be impertinent to comment negatively about someone else's choice of name.

Some names die out. Charmaine has become one of those with negative connotations attached to it. My name is of a similar vain, it will not make a comeback. Its amongst a list of names where most people pull a face when they hear it. It's not just out of fashion, I will be very, very surprised if it became popular (was it even popular to begin with?).

I wish someone had the balls to tell my parents not to name me what they did. No, not every child needs to be Emma, Grace and Chloe, but just because a name is different doesn't make it nice.

Okay.

A side note. It's the name of a sparkling wine sold by ASDA in the early nineties. At the time it cost 99p. Many a good uni night was fuelled by charmaine and value orange juice.

florascotia has made the name sound so lovely and romantic now!

Are you expecting they will let you name the baby OP? I'm not sure that's a very usual practice... but go on, let's give it a go. What would you have named my 2 daughters?

peppermint

I see your 'Canderelle' and I raise you 'ka-ah' (pernounced 'kaDASHah')

I really wish I was joking. poor child

Fucking hell. You and your sister sound unhinged. Genuinely odd.

You are going way over the line with this one OP. There is nothing wrong with the name, it isn't your choice because she is not your baby. As for you and your sister discussing a family nickname there are no words.

You are going to kill any chance of a relationship with this baby before it is even born with your meddling.

Do you actually know a child called Ka-ah never? Usually the urban myth is about a child named Le-a.

OP get a hobby, you sound like a loon with too much time on her hands.

Oh come on op. You really really can't be serious.

You and your sister lecturing your brother on his choice of name.

If I were you I would hide the sharp knives from your sil.

Clearly you would be insane to do this. Clearly.

Some names die out. Charmaine has become one of those with negative connotations attached to it.

And most names make a comeback at some stage too. Your grandchildren may well be called Keith and Brenda.

Start steeling yourself now.

OP, there is no problem to solve, not one for you anyway, that's what you are failing to see.

How offended/ upset would you have been if your family had collectively decided to give one of your DC a 'family nickname' which differed totally from the name you chose to give them - your child? Really, get a bloody grip.

keturah honestly, my friend is admin at a local primary school and processed her application.

awfulomission I'd forgotten about crazy Tanya! Whatever happened to her?

Pronounced Char-mane it rather reminds me of charmin toilet roll - but then I went to school with a Kimberley Clarke who was horribly bullied for sharing a name with a brand of sanitaryware. On the third hand, I was bullied and had a name with no such associations.

OP, it's just a name, one that's currently unfashionable. If the parents are both happy with it, so what?

A... ha ha ha ha! This is a big fat wanky wind up, isn't it?

Poor child to have such a snobby aunt. Shame on you, OP.

squoosh My DS1 has a very uncool, unpopular name. Due to the fact I like those very outdated bland names lol.
I would love a baby Keith or baby Brenda, baby Brian would be next on my list though.

I'm not sure if there are sockies on this thread or they are the OPs mates.

Someones winding you all up though.