To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

I'm trying hard but don't believe this can possibly be a genuine AIBU.

I don't think it's genuine either scruly, but the replies agreeing with the op have to be. I don't get it.

Nutty as squirrel poo!

loop l actually can't work out if you are being rude or not.

Oh well...

Wow @ some of these replies.

Caught a word with DB this afternoon. I said I was a bit concerned about the unusual nature of the name and their absurd pronunciation. DB conceded it wasn't his first choice and it is 'unusual', but he doesn't 'see an issue' with it as SIL is'very happy'.

We managed to explain that perhaps selecting a more traditional name would be better for the baby and family, rather than going with something that sounds like an ethnic takeaway dish.

Dsis suggested Charlotte not shortened to Lottie might be a similar but
sensible alternative. But that is very common now and would sound just as bad if SIL insists on pronouncing it with a thud.

I said he really needs think carefully and put his foot down. DB said he would have a think, but in the face of SIL I'm not convinced he has the fortitude to withstand.

I suppose we just have to hope SIL has a change of heart now, or find a way to overlook the name.

You're a strangely self obsessed specimen OP.

If this is real and not a wind-up well then the only place your DB should 'put his foot down' is on the back of your arse as he boots you out the door.

I would like to point out that no self-respecting Chinese person would pronounce "Chow mein" anything like "Charmaine".

You sound like a right cow op.

Some of our family didn't like the names we chose, if my sil had taken my dp to one side and spoken to him like that she would have been told where to go.

I pity the poor baby having an aunt like you.

please just get over yourself and let them decide between them what they want to name their baby and be happy!

squoosh

I don't know I am more shocked by - the fact that you genuinely believe you had a right to interfere or the fact that your brother didn't tell you where to stick your opinion.

Anyone else get the feeling this won't actually be a problem as SIL will be keeping her distance anyway and op probably won't have an awful lot to do with baby charmaine?

"Find a way to overlook the name"

How magnanimous of you OP. Wow, I have to say you sound like an interfering cow, and I'm relieved you're not related to me!

Oh, this has to be a wind-up now! If for real, I can't believe your brother didn't tell you to mind your own business.

I this a reverse AIBU? if so, call the baby what you & your DH want to.
Don't give a stuff what your family think.

No unfortunately this isn't a reverse or wind up.
I do accept I was a bit over emotional last night ( ), but I am genuinely a little upset for the baby to be saddled with this.

I hope they will reconsider but there is nothing more I can do now.

'Needs to put his foot down'.

Yes, absolutely. Put his wife back in her place. How dare she have opinions of her own. Women these days, eh? I suppose she expects to go out to work and earn her own money too. Probably doesn't even have his pipe and slippers ready when he gets home from work. Hussy.

This is the second thread this weekend that seems Too cuntish to be true, and I am sure I have missed one or two. The other one turned out to be a wind up - or backtracking.

Is this a wind up op ?

YANBU to hate the name you like what you like. YABU if you said something. You don't like your SIL, do you? Are you jealous of her?

I think the op is full of balls tbh, nobody is that thick skinned, surely?

However, the posters who have leapt on her to agree with her and bitch about a perfectly average name, they're the crashing snobs. Shown themselves right up, they have.

Well in that case I'm genuinely sorry for the baby too. Being saddled with an aunt like you.

Poor Charmaine.

Doubly unlucky, not just one but two Aunts who are interfering even before the poor child has been born

I had was in tears earlier, this is just an awful situation and I almost feel I have to say something to protect DN's future.

Say what????!!! You jest, OP

OP- you suggest that if your sil doesn't have a change of heart you'll have to find a way to overlook the name... how exactly? Seriously, will you just never use her real name because you don't like it? How on earth do you think that'll make your niece and her family feel? Do you care that you will be a bully and being cruel by doing this? Doesn't that make you feel a bit awful?

I want to believe that you're a nice person really, despite raging snobbishness and bizarre control issues with needing to have your family all appropriately named, but I'm struggling.

Got to be a wind-up AwfulBeryl. Nobody real could possibly continue to be so lacking in self awareness, surely. Surely??