To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

I think this thread was an experiment by the OP to see how many crashing snobs she could unearth on mumsnet!

Snobbery is not the only reason to dislike the name. I mean, I'm not sure it's snobbery that makes me dislike the name. It's dated. Sounds like chow mein. It sounds fake french. The spelling would be a hassle. You'd have a pronunciation battle too. Char like char lady or french Char like sh in short.

Lots and lots of reasons to dislike it!

The name Brooke reminding someone of herpes tells you a lot about that person and their itchy groin!

As bad as it is, i've heard much worse so the child will survive, so the outrage "oh you're a snob if you don't like it"............ riiiiight.

It's not disliking the name that's the issue, it's the idea that she feels it's appropriate for her to voice her snobbish dislike.

The OP is a snob. A sneery up her own arse snob.

She's not the only one on this thread...

Agree with squoosh. Everybody is entitled to dislike a name. I dislike the name, personally. I would never feel like I had the right to have a 'quiet word' with someone over their choice of name though!

I had never came across Brooke used as a name before.

Only time I had ever heard it was when friends were unlucky enough to have to go to get tested so not that ridiculous!

I don't much care for the name, not for any particular reason.

But it'd be a cold day in hell for me to deem it appropriate to have my say about a close friend or relative's choice of name for their child.

Brooke is not even an unusual name

I so want to see an update from the OP explaining how it went down when she and her dsis staged their intervention (like a turd in a punch bowl, most likely).

I also want them to both be wearing cones of shame as punishment for their sheer lunacy at thinking their brother will give a shiny shite about their rude opinions.

Rudeness on a level I've not seen for a long while. You're not a lady, that's for sure.

I'd love to know how the conversation between the OPs DBro and her SiL is going to go - "Hey honey I know we made the baby and we've picked a mutually agreed on name but my sister has cornered me without your knowledge or presence and has convinced me the name is chavy and cheap. So let's change it."

OP you're an horrendous snob and quite frankly sound like a bit of a control freak - you do not get to decide what anyone else call their DC. I'd also work on the assumption , as your opinion was not saught before they picked a name, that they don't want or value your input.

DB is in a basement as we speak, tied to a chair and a gag around his mouth. His two 'well meaning' sisters are tightening the thumb screws and shrieking 'you must call her Emily!'.

I hope Sil re thinks and calls dc Chardonnay

I quite like "Charmaine", it's quirky; at least she's not going to be called "Chloe" or "Sophie" or "Charlotte" they really are horridly common names...and "Poppy" just tells me that mum shops in Sainsburys because she can't afford Waitrose.

Brooke is a popular name in the US.
Lovely.pretty and feminine.

There are real life snobs here.

Wow! Makes me a little nervous to think that we all chat normally here (most if the time) and yet...;)

That Brooke is a popular name in the US says it all really!! So is Tyler.......in England that's a profession.

Plenty of boys called Tyler and girls called Brooke in the UK too.

"Poppy" just tells me that mum shops in Sainsburys because she can't afford Waitrose".

That is one of the most ridiculous comments I have ever read on mumsnet.

Whether you like it or not is irrelevant OP. Their choice of name IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! I feel sorry for your brother and SIL. It must be awful being related to such a judgmental, interfering person.

Leave it alone. You have no right to question their choice of name.

That's a little unfair. It's OK for you to express a dislike for the name Charmaine, but not OK for me to make an obviously tongue in cheek post that highlights the silliness of the entire thread?

Now there's somethig wrong with the name Brooke? Eh?

Again not a name I'd use but seriously to normal people it is not synonymous with sexual health clinics.

I actually did have my sister try and stage an intervention over one of my DCs' names. When I told her the name over the phone she said 'oh, I don't like that.' I was still in the habit of being meekly accepting of her overbearing ways, so got off the phone feeling attacked and upset. Next time we spoke, she asked if we were still intending to use that name. To my affirmative answer, she stated 'well, I won't call her that - I don't think she's a --.' .
Unrelated (but that was part of the slippery slope), we have been NC for several years now. I think the worm turned a bit too far and she decided I was too much effort.
My DM also expressed dislike, but had the grace to later apologise (literally the only time she's ever apologised for anything significant in my whole life - even she knew she'd gone too far.
Unlike the OP's niece's name, though, I reckon mine was for reasons of weird inverted snobbery. I ended up with a bogstandard 60s name because my GM told my mum she 'wouldn't let her in the house' if she called x (perfectly nice name and one I've always liked).
Sorry that went on a bit - think on op - I suspect you have a lousy relationship with your sil and feel your brother could do better. That will all be made clear if you open your mouth about their chice of name.