To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

I'm waiting for the SIL to make an appearance here. After all, it's hardly a stretch to think that a pregnant woman might frequent a parenting website.

wtf is wrong with charmaine? It's old, many use old style names. All that charmaine reminds me of is the lovely Liesl of the Sound of Music, played by I think Charmaine Carr.

Get some gel for your bleeding tongue, this must be hard for you.

Its a bit dated. Pronounced incorrectly it does sound like fried noodle in Chinese!!!

I'm Asian, so many culturally different? But if family didn't like a name family would be upfront. If family aren't honest then who will be? Mum chose first daughters name but didn't with second. I don't see the issue with saying you don't like potential choice of name as long as you are nice about it.
Also isn't Shakespeare's character spelled Charmian or Charmion?

That said Charmain is a recognised diminutive

www.babynamespedia.com/meaning/Charmaine

X post with Nadia

I also LOVE Saylor -Doll!

I like it, but then I know a lovely Charmaine. Her nickname is Charm, which I like even better.

And your posts make you sound like a snobbish dick. I'm sure you're not, though, OP?

I've just realised why the OP might have thought Charmaine is a funny spelling. I wonder if she's confusing it with Charmian, which is a totally different name?

I trust if they didn't like your DC's names you'd be fine to hear their comments and suggestions? I hope you would then consider changing your mind from something less snobbish and 'middle class.' Yeah? Crack on then.

Talk about the implications?! OP, please stop being so high and mighty about this. Unless you're landed gentry I can't see that it matters! Their baby is long awaited- and you want to rain on their parade before it has even arrived! Really, really nasty- whether you mean to be or not.

There is so much wrong with this OP I almost don't know where to start.

It's none of your business what they name their child. It's not your baby, they do not have to consult you or get your approval. Back off and leave them alone.

As for the comment about the council estate....utterly disgraceful. You and your DH sound like terrible snobs and should recognise quickly that this is your problem not that of the rest of your family.

I don't like the name.
I like the sound of you even less. You sound really really nasty. What a horribly snobby OP.

Please make sure you come back and update us though OP.......

YABVU though

Charmin is the name of the toilet paper in the US.

Nothing like Charmaine.

Was she kidding? Maybe they are saying any old name. I did the same while (Esmerelda for a girl; Kermit for a boy. Watching my colleagues trying to think of something non offensive in response was absolutely hilarious!)

I don't like my dn's name. It's a foreign version of a perfectly lovely, timeless English name. Even MIL can't get it right and I have been asked on more than one occasion if it's a made up name. Do I say anything? Of course not, and neither do you.

Yabu. I know a Charmaine - spelt that way. It's a name. People will get used to it.

Thanks Nadia

I've spoken to my Dsis about it and she agrees we must talk to DB alone tomorrow to gauge how he really feels and make sure he is aware of the implications.

What implications?
Why must you speak to you brother? Is it because you and your sister are interfering snobs?
How about you post your children's names so we can pass judgment on them?

There's nothing wrong with Charmaine, if pronounced in the normal way. The Shakespearan Charmian (and variants) are the same, with 'sh'

With a hard 'ch' (as described in OP) it just sounds as wrong as Charlotte with 'ch' (not 'sh') or Sian pronounced 'See-an'

You and your sister are actually planning to speak to your db alone about his?!?!?! And it's fucking implications?!?!?!

You sound awful. Absolutely disgusting. He is a husband and a father to be. His family unit is his wife and child to be. You and your sister have no effing business to take him aside and talk to him about the so called implications of this.

If I were him or his wife, I would be raging mad that you had the audacity to butt in like this. Have you no business of your own to mind?

at the dramatic name intervention.
Your db is going to a lot of this
What exactly are the implications of being called Charmaine ?

I think the name's rubbish, but I don't there's a nice way to bring it up, unless they ask what you think of it.

I am blatantly place marking to find out the result of the intervention.

I knew a Charmaine with a ch sound. She was very nice. I am not a fan of my nephews' names but I have never told anyone that (before now). MYOB.