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AIBU to think that at least one of the parents should work

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Adizzylass2014 · 08/04/2015 23:04

My 16 yr old son is friends with a family who have just moved into the close next to ours and we were invited round for coffee. My partner left as he was fuming and I stayed for the sake of my son but I was seething. They are a family of 8 and the mum is pregnant again, they were so brazen and gloated that their 4 bedroom house is paid for by housing benefit (we have the same in the next close and the rent is £800 pcm)
He has never worked and hasn't long been released from prison. The children had all the gadgets from ipad to ps4. She said she has never worked either as she loves to be pregnant and plans on having more. Now you will have seen from previous threads I don't benefit bash but this is disgusting how can this be allowed. My son has been invited by them to go fishing on their boat, i don't want him anywhere near them. my partner works damn hard to pay the rent and our band f council tax and these people not only get everything given to them but they openly gloat about it. This is what is wrong with this bloody world Angry Angry

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Adizzylass2014 · 09/04/2015 00:34

I wouldn't care because I'm genuinely disabled, and it's clearly visible

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Only1scoop · 09/04/2015 00:35

I bet it's a brand new 8 birth yacht....

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Lweji · 09/04/2015 00:36

And I bet they save a lot of money on fish. It's bloody expensive these days.

Maybe you could buy it off them?

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Adizzylass2014 · 09/04/2015 00:38

Yes I recieve pip, took a year after sending in pages of evidence from all consultants

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RJnomore · 09/04/2015 00:38

O you really think they'd hide a spy so conspicuously?

I've just ran figures through entitled to and with the cap, theyd get 50p HB a week.

I'm still for witness protection. Has Mary McCormack been seen hanging round?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 09/04/2015 00:38

op

A handy tip for you. If you are disabled then you are disabled, you don't need to put the word genuinely in there

ilovesooty · 09/04/2015 00:39

So you get the benefits and help to which you're entitled? How would you feel if you had an invisible disability and people judged you? Or if the neighbour came on here and gossiped about what you had and whether you might have an entitlement or not? Or whether your children received help they might or might not be entitled to?

m0therofdragons · 09/04/2015 00:39

Just read this thread and realised I have no idea what band ct we pay just the amount and that it's set up on direct debit. Sorry stealth boast passed me by.
I wouldn't envy anyone with 8 dc who has to rely on the state. People do have odd priorities though op. I have a good friend who was telling me they can't afford food at the moment. Last month they raided the freezer week before pay day and have now set up a really strict meal plan to stay in budget... But have the newest iPhones and dc do loads of expensive clubs each week plus holiday clubs despite the mum not needing them as she works pt on very few hours. No idea of they're on benefits - her dh works but no idea what he earns as I've not thought about it. Just seemed odd to complain you can't feed dc when you've just bought 2 iPhones, but I probably do things others think are odd.

Lweji · 09/04/2015 00:39

Also confused about the number of kids.

A family of 8 should be 2 parents and 6 (going on 7), presumably. No?

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 09/04/2015 00:41

loot from nefarious activities
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sounds so much more interesting than working. I wish I was nefarious.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 09/04/2015 00:41

Best place to hide RJ is in plain sight.

ilovesooty · 09/04/2015 00:42

I think it's pretty unpleasant to accept an offer of hospitality, then after using the time to make mental notes about their possessions come on here to speculate about them.

RJnomore · 09/04/2015 00:43

So true.

At least they don't have space. Not in a four bed house. You know Thr problems those benefit claimants have caused with their demands for space.

Lweji · 09/04/2015 00:44
Lweji · 09/04/2015 00:45

Forgot to say, on her iPad (or her children's)

LuisSuarezTeeth · 09/04/2015 00:48

Bollocks.

That is all.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 09/04/2015 00:48

Well it's certainky not me as Im not pregnant but give it time I'm fully intending to do something nefarious next week and if I'm lucky I may get to do it the second Tuesday of every month for ages.

SpinDoctorOfAethelred · 09/04/2015 01:22

I logged in just to ask about the council tax. Grin

F?!

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butterflyballs · 09/04/2015 01:34

I still want to know about the pregnancy. How far along is she? When did he get out of prison?

Where is the boat? Is it on a trailer in the drive or berthed somewhere? It costs a lot to have it berthed in a harbour or dock.

And is it six or eight kids they have? How old are the kids?

Surely you have all this information op.

Fifis25StottieCakes · 09/04/2015 01:41

i would rather work my min wage job and be skint than have 7 or 8 kids

Lweji · 09/04/2015 01:42

The OP is asleep by now probably. But she should be looking out for suspicious nefarious activities under the cover or darkness.
or, more likely, just spot the local fox

SolidGoldBrass · 09/04/2015 02:18

I suspect Op's disability is 'fuckwittery'. Or perhaps 'smug ignorance.'
OP,, if you do pressure your son to 'do some digging' regarding this family, you risk having him arrested and possibly even sent to prison for stalking and harassment.
This may well lead to him living a life on benefits as employers generally don't fancy employing creepy creeps with convictions for stalking, even if they only did it to shut their stupid mothers up.

DixieNormas · 09/04/2015 02:21

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Adizzylass2014 · 09/04/2015 02:33

Omg solid what a charming person you are! if you had cared to read things properly you would've seen me say that I had gotten irate and overeacted and that there is no way I would do that.
fuckwittery indeed lol

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AnnaFiveTowns · 09/04/2015 02:58

If she has 6 kids then she is working.

You sound like a neighbour from hell. I pity that poor family to have to live near to you; you sound spiteful, petty and ignorant.

Oh, and you are benefit bashing. There are plenty of other places you can go to froth - Daily Mail might be more to your liking. No need to do it here.