AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

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AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

Too heavy for a crappy carrier with no waist support and marketable but unergonomic design, definitely.

Too heavy to carry full stop - absolutely not.

Full disclosure - I still carry my 3yo on occasion, much easier to sling than piggy back when her legs get tired.

Why, who says their baby's too heavy to carry?

What if the mother has a bad back? Most babies would be too heavy then, wouldn't they?

What's the back story here?

I agree, but I guess some babies could be too heavy for some parents to carry

Lots of threads on parenting a baby suggest a sling, and then the OP says "oh no, too heavy".

And it makes me

I wouldn't fancy carrying a six month old elephant...

(Sorry)

Yanbu, bit it does depend on who is doing the carrying.

I agree.

I carried my 3 year old on my back for the elk home in a decent ergonomic sling on Sunday night after arriving home around midnight at train station ( he had fallen asleep). He weighs 17lbs and I'm Less than 8 stone myself.

A 6 month old is still tiny and should fit hugged into body easily without noticing the weight in a decent sling. A 6 month old facing out in a crappy babybjorn/ tomy style one will weigh a ton in minutes

You wanna meet my friend's baby boy then

I can still carry my 16 in a couple of weeks year old son! YANBU

I suppose the back story is that I think many people, if given access to a good sling library and some decent advice, would find they could carry their babies and toddlers. And that they both (parent and baby) liked it.

I'm frustrated that so few people get that chance.

Smoorikins I did actually put 'human baby' but then deleted it

I never had the urge to carry my babies in a sling or anything else.

It was a pram/buggy all the way for me.

But YANBU, I could have if I had wanted to.

SaucyJack Unless he weighs more than my 6yo (22kg, last time I checked) I could carry him for at least half an hour. And I'm smallish and rather unfit...

I agree re the sling library - I tried with a rubbish sling, it was awful, in hindsight I could have done with something like that.

But its not just the baby - its all the other stuff. I found a buggy really helpful, and couldn't have managed baby, change bag and a few days grocery shopping, say, without it.

My back is knackered, it didn't stop the sling evangelists insisting that I just "hadn't found the right one yet" etc etc.

I'd tried lots, but my baby did feel too heavy. Because, my back.

Slings and breastfeeding and cloth nappies bring out the "but why can't you??" worst in some people. I wouldn't have dreamed of sauntering up to a mum feeding her baby from the bottle and commenting on how she could have bf if she'd tried.

(Not necessarily you op, but you've brought back bad memories).

I'm a reasonably petite woman and my 3 year old is only just starting ot get tricky to carry in woven wraps. That's more to do with length than weight too!
My 9 month old, however, is genuinely weightless in the right carry and wrap. YANBU, but it's just because many people aren't aware there are options other than Baby Bjorn or stretchy wraps out there.

Agree it's got a lot to do with the parent's stamina/physiology too.

Agree that sling libraries should be advertised more so that people get a chance to see what suits them before spending a lot of money.

But why is it frustrating that people don't get the chance to carry their 2yo? I love my 3yo. But I love her more when the shopping is in the pushchair and she's walking nicely next to me, or sitting in the pushchair. I'm 5'1, I'm not overly enamoured with the thought of carrying my 3' toddler around...

I carried mine in slings till about two.

I have a strong back l guess?

Some parents are eager to move their babies in to the 'next stage' quickly.
Makes sense to them.

Why angry if someone does not use a sling, OP? Some people do not get on with them and to try every type and brand would seem a bit infeasible.

I remember yonks ago having a baby born that was just a bit too fiddly. Was not confident getting DC safely in and out without help.

The pushchair was easy and provided sun shade (it was a hot summer). Served my purposes, even when visited parents and used the local buses never had any problems. If the bus was too full we'd wait for another, if someone needed the space (you could park the pushchair on the bus) Mum would help me collapse the pushchair and I could hold DC. If I'd been on my own I'm cheeky enough to ask for help.

Metallic That's exactly why I said "baby is too heavy". The mum having a bad back, not wanting to, needing somewhere to put the shopping etc all seem like excellent reasons to me.

I did find I bought much less crap, as I couldn't face carrying it home

X post. Not heard of a sling library.

You really need to get a hobby OP... if this is what makes you ...

Slings hadn't really come into vogue when my DD was small - fortunately my hips are child-bearing in more than one way. I could carry her more easily than DH into toddlerhood!

What a random thread. OP, are you judging parents who say their 6MO baby is too heavy to carry, based on your ability to carry your a 3YO? Are you saying that they must be lazy to say this?

Maybe you're stronger than you realise. Maybe you don't have any back issues. Maybe they just don't want to.

Why does it bother you? Bizarre
Full disclosure is carried my first born in carrier all the time because he liked it. Didn't with Ds2 because he didn't like it. But don't care what other people do, say, think on the matter. Seems to be really winding you up.

Some parents are eager to move their babies in to the 'next stage' quickly.
Makes sense to them.

I might be being thick, but what have slings got to do with next stage?