AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

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AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

Too heavy for a crappy carrier with no waist support and marketable but unergonomic design, definitely.

Too heavy to carry full stop - absolutely not.

Full disclosure - I still carry my 3yo on occasion, much easier to sling than piggy back when her legs get tired.

(I think anyone evangelical about any topic is a bit weird!)

Anyone who used thr phrase baby wearing unless to take the piss is massive twat.

Anyone slavishly following any parenting theory is an idiot.

Anyone smug about their parenting is going to get one hell of a shock somewhere down the line.

aye amen to that sister.

My 7mo is 25lb and my back is fucked. I have had lots of knee surgery too. My physio has told me my baby is too heavy to carry.

I can't read the phrase 'baby wearing' without images of Buffalo Bill invading my head space.

My pregnancy affected my back. My child was too heavy to carry or hold for long periods from being about 4 months old.

I really don't understand the comments about tongue tie on this thread. Tongue tie isn't a trend or a lifestyle choice you know.

I could carry my daughter until she was about two, my son was a lot larger though, 9lbs 9oz born and the size of a two year old at six months - which makes sense as that was about when I couldn't carry him any more.

I cannot even pick either of my children any more and haven't been able to since they were both about three or four, because I have disabilities that mean I cannot lift weight without risk. I stopped trying when I tried to lift someone else's two year old and fell over with him in my arms, not because he was particularly heavy, but because my knees both gave out.

I've been in hospital before when my ankle gave way on flat ground, and haven't tried leaving the house without my stick for balance in almost a year. I don't think I'd risk even I light, small baby these days.

I wouldn't explain all that to someone though, just say they were too heavy for me, because it's something I don't like to admit even to myself.

DH is 12 stone. I can pick him up for 3 seconds.

I am sure there are others who could carry him for longer.

Bully for them. Whoop whoop.

Why such things are capable of being a matter of unbearable smugness interest for anyone else is a mystery to me.

What is the point of this thread OP? When you've removed all of your acceptable exceptions from the equation, what is the point you are trying to make?

So, if I am a healthy human being with no medical reason to avoid sling use with a 28 pound 6 month old - what point are you trying to make about me?

**Artandco

I agree.

I carried my 3 year old on my back for the elk home in a decent ergonomic sling on Sunday night after arriving home around midnight at train station ( he had fallen asleep). He weighs 17lbs and I'm Less than 8 stone myself.

A 6 month old is still tiny and should fit hugged into body easily without noticing the weight in a decent sling. A 6 month old facing out in a crappy babybjorn/ tomy style one will weigh a ton in minutes**

My DC2 weighed nearly 10 1/2lbs at birth and was 24 3/4 inches long. By six months he was more than double his birth weight and had grown several inches in length. So really not tiny. He and I were much more comfy with him in his pushchair than we could ever have been with a sling. Lovely if you can use a sling, but really not practical for some and just not the method of choice for some. Thankfully my DCs don't seem to have been scarred by my use of a pushchair and are now both well balanced adults.

I believe the op's point could be summarised as follows:

• Almost all human 6-month-olds are an ok weight to carry in a decent-quality ergonomic sling for a reasonable day-to-day distance.

• This is quite handy in some situations.

• It's a shame when some folk make out that 6-month-olds are too heavy to be carried as it puts others off trying when it may, in fact, be helpful for them. Folk in question may have said this to get out of explaining the more detailed reason why they don't want to use a sling.

No?

I carried my 3 year old on my back for the elk home in a decent ergonomic sling on Sunday night after arriving home around midnight at train station ( he had fallen asleep). He weighs 17lbs and I'm Less than 8 stone myself.

Are you sure you have your measurements right there? Did you mean 3 years or 3 months? Even on the lowest centile, a 3 year old would weigh 24 pounds. My DS1 weighed nearly 19 pounds at 14 weeks.

I would guess that's 17kg!

17kg would make a lot more sense :)

I have a bad back. Every baby I've had has been too heavy. What do you care?

Ah yes sorry, 17kg not 17lbs. He weighed almost 8lb at birth.

AyeWhy. Yes. That's how I'm reading it too.