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DP has gone and ruined our wedding planning with his petty strops

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Thailandthailand · 03/04/2015 21:57

So, today was to be the day when we began our wedding planning. Now, DP has made no secret of the fact that this is nothing special to him as he's "been there and done that" but this is a HUGE deal to me, it means so much to me.

So tonight we had a meeting with a lovely venue, everything is PERFECT - cost, venue, arrangements - EVERYTHING.

I came back elated. DP too was supposedly over the moon. yet he began his evening of arsyness over Springwatch. He points out that Springwatch is being filmed locally and I ask "oh? how do you know?" this results in a load of "how do I know??? how do I know??? oh lets see, how do I know exactly??? hmmmmm how do I KNOW?????" Hmm. so he basically makes this into something it didn't need to be.

Later in the night we settle down with a bottle of red - something I'd been looking forward to all week to celebrate our wedding planning beginnings and he refuses to hug me saying he;s annoyed that I've picked my feet Hmm I say "what??" and he points out that I have picked a nail off my foot. I say "oh yes, I', going to throw it away in a minute" and he replies "no you wont" and goes and throws it away himself before snapping "Goodnight" at 9pm and buggering off to bed.

I'm livid. This was supposed to be a celebration of the beginnings of our wedding planning and he's manufactured an argument out of nothing and I'm sat here, alone as usual with a glass of red and the fucking internet. AIBU to wonder why the fuck I bother?

OP posts:
WhatsGoingOnEh · 04/04/2015 14:40

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something picked.

Pagwatch · 04/04/2015 14:58

Cancel the wedding, book a pedicure and pop to majestic on the way home.

ImperialBlether · 04/04/2015 15:20

Cancel the wedding, book a pedicure and pop to majestic on the way home.

Best answer yet.

Grin Grin

ItsADinosaur · 04/04/2015 15:26

Ok I've replied on your other thread but anyway...

Celebrating planning your wedding is just a bit..weird. Did you set a date for doing that or something? It seems a bit obsessive. There's a whole marriage after a wedding.

Also, your DH sounds like an arse and has done you a favour by splitting up with you. Are you so desperate to plan a wedding that you've overlooked that your DH has been on hookup sites, isn't supportive of your career, starts silly arguments and leaves you alone in the evenings? Not much point planning a wedding if in six months time you realise you've married an arse.

ImperialBlether · 04/04/2015 16:51

OP, on your wedding day, both the bride and groom should think they are really lucky getting married to such a great person. They should each feel they got the better end of the deal.

Is this really going to happen to you with this guy? His going on dating sites surely tells you he thinks there are other women out there that he wants to have sex with, if nothing else.

And his going on dating sites surely doesn't make you feel loved and special to him, does it? You must have really had to put your head in the sand to still want to marry him after that.

There are other men out there who are far nicer than this guy. They'll treat you better, love you more and you'd be far happier with one of them.

You're getting caught up in the wedding and forgetting there's a bloke involved and actually he's not that nice.

LIZS · 04/04/2015 17:53

Seems as if you were more preoccupied with the wedding and being married than the relationship itself. He doesn't really care for or value you. Move on and find other ways to boost your self esteem before embarking on another relationship.

Sallyingforth · 04/04/2015 18:17

A wedding is ONE DAY.
A marriage is intended to be for life.

You two are clearly not suited to living together, so planning a wedding will be a waste of time and money.

ferretyfeet · 04/04/2015 19:57

God help you both by the time the wedding gets here

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