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DP has gone and ruined our wedding planning with his petty strops

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Thailandthailand · 03/04/2015 21:57

So, today was to be the day when we began our wedding planning. Now, DP has made no secret of the fact that this is nothing special to him as he's "been there and done that" but this is a HUGE deal to me, it means so much to me.

So tonight we had a meeting with a lovely venue, everything is PERFECT - cost, venue, arrangements - EVERYTHING.

I came back elated. DP too was supposedly over the moon. yet he began his evening of arsyness over Springwatch. He points out that Springwatch is being filmed locally and I ask "oh? how do you know?" this results in a load of "how do I know??? how do I know??? oh lets see, how do I know exactly??? hmmmmm how do I KNOW?????" Hmm. so he basically makes this into something it didn't need to be.

Later in the night we settle down with a bottle of red - something I'd been looking forward to all week to celebrate our wedding planning beginnings and he refuses to hug me saying he;s annoyed that I've picked my feet Hmm I say "what??" and he points out that I have picked a nail off my foot. I say "oh yes, I', going to throw it away in a minute" and he replies "no you wont" and goes and throws it away himself before snapping "Goodnight" at 9pm and buggering off to bed.

I'm livid. This was supposed to be a celebration of the beginnings of our wedding planning and he's manufactured an argument out of nothing and I'm sat here, alone as usual with a glass of red and the fucking internet. AIBU to wonder why the fuck I bother?

OP posts:
steff13 · 03/04/2015 23:21

So, what is Springwatch, and did you ever ascertain how he knows they're filming locally?

ChipDip · 03/04/2015 23:22

Based on both of your threads you really need to wake up and realise that you are both incompatible.

maddening · 03/04/2015 23:23

He is looking to escalate an argument imo he is trying to bring something to a head.

sailoratsea · 03/04/2015 23:26

I knew from the title of this thread what I was going to think about this relationship.

3littlefrogs · 03/04/2015 23:27

He doesn't want to marry you OP.
I would consider this to be a lucky escape.

DrEllieSattler · 03/04/2015 23:32

He sounds like a twat. Does he actually want to get married or have you got him to this point because it's something you desperately want and he clearly doesn't

MadameJulienBaptiste · 03/04/2015 23:37
CheerfulYank · 03/04/2015 23:45

What is Springwatch?

UnsolvedMystery · 03/04/2015 23:47

I can't help thinking that you have completely missed the point of marriage!

Justmuddlingalong · 03/04/2015 23:47

OP seems to have abandoned this thread and started another one.

Thailandthailand · 03/04/2015 23:48

I just don't get it. We had a lovely day wedding planning but funnily enough I said to someone else "I bet he creates a row Friday night after the wedding planning".

I mean, who would suggest splitting up after a person picks a couple of toe nails??? after I have put up from him hook up sites, dating sites and god knows what else. I feel so hurt and pissed off. I'm such a fucking mug.

OP posts:
ChipDip · 03/04/2015 23:51

You've found out he's been on dating and hookup sites and you still want to marry him? Please have some respect for yourself and stop being so desperate over a scumbag.

Eggynuff · 03/04/2015 23:52

who would suggest splitting up after a person picks a couple of toe nails???

Someone who doesn't want to get married.

CliveCussler · 03/04/2015 23:53

The toenails aren't the issue.

MustBeLoopy390 · 03/04/2015 23:53

I'm sorry, but if he's on dating/hookup sites and not that interested why the hell are you marrying him?

26Point2Miles · 03/04/2015 23:55

She isn't, they have now split up

LondonRocks · 03/04/2015 23:57

LTB.

RJnomore · 03/04/2015 23:57

Fuckinghell.

ChangingTiming · 03/04/2015 23:58

Dating sites and hook up sites. Why are you marrying him?

You sound like you're using the wedding to try and fix it.
Why do you need to celebrate the start of the wedding planning. Surely that was done a while ago when you researched venues and booked to see today's one??

Oswin · 04/04/2015 00:04

Woah posters have been harsh. Sounds like op just wanted to have a nice evening with her fiance. He sounds a twerp op. Please reconsider marriage with this man. Especially after your last post.

XLIX · 04/04/2015 00:14

Well, damn..if a girl can't pick her toes and knock back a few to celebrate her nuptials, then what's the point?

ouryve · 04/04/2015 00:16

It's really not to late to pull out of the wedding.

You don't have to marry an arsehole just because you want a big wedding, you know.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 04/04/2015 00:19

It sounds as though you are getting caught up with lovely wedding plans without stopping to consider that you are binding yourself to a total bellend. Forever.

MargotLovedTom · 04/04/2015 00:21

"Leaving aside the rights and wrongs of Springwatch, the nail etc, is it really a good relationship?" This just made me do a full on snigger in bed thus disturbing my DH.

But seriously 'hook up sites, dating sites' and you still want to marry him?

Pancakeflipper · 04/04/2015 00:21

Oh dear. It's all high drama. Is this toe nail rant because doesn't want to marry so picking crap excuses?
How long have you been together? Doesn't sound like much joy in this relationship.

I love Chris Packham SpringWatch and all the other seasonal watches.

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