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To wonder why there has STILL been no donation?

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kewtogetin · 29/03/2015 20:05

This has probably been done, I know there was a long running thread about this very subject but I can't find it?
So, several months on I see Dax's parents have still not made the promised donation to Ronald McDonald hospice. On March 2nd they updated the Facebook page to say they works be making the donation 'very soon', but still nothing.
Am I the only one thinking they have no intention of donating any money out of the tens of thousands donated to them? That in fact they intend to keep it all and deny the very charity that provided them with so much support in the early weeks of their Childs life?
In fact, I don't think im the only one judging by the comments on the Facebook page.
I think they're hoping it will blow over and if they keep quiet long enough people will forget.

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weebleswillwobble · 07/04/2015 20:32

This has been bugging me! Can I have a pm please spud?

GettingEggyWithIt · 07/04/2015 20:34

Khaleda Rahman was the original Mail journo who confirmed family saying donation would be made, two months ago. I am not on social media but Khaleda is on twitter and facebook so perhaps someone tech savy could link this thread to her.

Between · 07/04/2015 20:35

I think posters on this thread are making a big mistake by being so offensive about the couple involved. It just guaranteeing that the thread will get deleted.

I didn't donate I'm not a mug and am as shocked as anyone that no donation has been made but I don't think this thread is going to achieve anything positive.

spudholes · 07/04/2015 20:36

Apparently, it's the parent's that have control over the money. Time to contact the parents then.

Me: Why won't you donate? It takes minutes to do online. Why do you keep stalling? Is it becomes you've already spent all the money that was donated? Is it because you're hoping people will forget and that publicity will die down?

Trickydicky: Not one bit. It's not me that has the money, and so has nothing to do with me. But I do know there are private family reasons as to why it has not been done yet. They have more than just a premature baby to look after, but thats not my place to go into. I set this page up in good faith and I will be disappointed if no money is donated, as that was what was said to me, but I have no reason to believe money wont be donated.

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kewtogetin · 07/04/2015 20:39

Curiouser and curiouser....

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trufflesnout · 07/04/2015 20:40

Not going to comment on his response to you in public spudholes because Between is right, we don't want this thread to go poof.

I hope they remember saying that someone from RMHC would be confirming their donation...

shewept · 07/04/2015 20:40

I don't think the DM care.

A friend emailed the DM after the homeless in Heathrow ridiculousness. They tried to talk their way out of a few things and ignored the rest. One of points being that someone at the DM kept changing the mans name, they said that never happened. So she sent them proof, now they won't reply.

There was other stuff such as him being registered as working at various companies and being on the board of directors for a company that was selling a flat he had once lived in but claimed he no longer owned. They just said they were happy with the checks they had done.

SolasEile · 07/04/2015 20:42

Anyone who donated was a mug. I would never donate to anything that is not a registered charity unless it's someone I know personally e.g. friend doing a charity run or whatever.

AyeAmarok · 07/04/2015 20:51

Private family reason like "we spent all the money".

I bet half of the money they spent was on luxuries and shite they didn't need.

In fact, 80% of it.

trufflesnout · 07/04/2015 20:52

I know Soals, but it doesn't mean they should get away with it.

MoanCollins · 07/04/2015 20:52

What on earth are the 'other things' they have to deal with other than a premature baby? If they had another problem which needed donations they should have been upfront about it. But if they are being vague about 'other things' and that includes paying off debts or HP on cars and motorcycles then that's really not on.

MoanCollins · 07/04/2015 20:53

I mean, I posted on the other thread. And when they closed for donations and said they would be donating to RMDH I thought it was fair enough. I stood up for them after they promised that and I'm really disappointed if I was taken in by insincerity.

Chippednailvarnish · 07/04/2015 20:54

They're probably shopping for "panties"...

SuffolkNWhat · 07/04/2015 20:54

Probably the fact the Mum is only getting a very very basic package from her boss, who was that again? Wink

spudholes · 07/04/2015 20:56

From trickydicky:

I was just a friend trying to help along with a few local people. We had no idea that it would go global like it did! You are welcome to contact the parents but I'm not sure what you think you will achieve. You cant see any of the 100's of messages from people that donated that say that they dont want the money to be donated, and they gave it to them. I didnt do this for publicity for my gym. That didnt cross my mind. I did it to help my friends. You dont know that Lee had his coat taken to the states by my friend that lives in NYC that was visiting his mum locally. He was freezing and refused to go buy a coat because he didnt want to spend the money. Youre judging people you dont even know.

Me: So why on earth would they need all that money, if the insurance company paid out?

They still had to pay for things out there like food, still had rent to pay at home and bills. They all still carry on dont they??? Plus then all the lost income. January as a Personal Trainer is the best time of year obviously. Lee has come back to hardly a business and having to start from scratch. Katie is going to be off for longer than normal due to everything, lost income again. It has seriously cost them £1000's. They even walked an hour and 20 min each time they had to go to the Passport places as a taxi was $40! They didnt want to spend the money and you saw the weather at the time! I know this is fact. All you see is money grabbing. You dont look at the reality of the situation. Lee is working every hour, hes up all night with Dax, there are other things I cant mention as are very sensitive. There are VERY good reasons a donation has not been made but I cant go in to

Look, there will bea donation, just when they want and not when you say. It is not a legal matter and no laws have been broken. Obviously I checked all that, and there are also no tax implications. So, I'm not sure what you think you will achieve. Thats not being cocky, it's the truth. I wouldn't mind if I was inundated with messages from people that donated saying they felt conned, but there has not been a single one. I have saved EVERY single message. There are many saying they want their donation to be kept and put in a savings account for Dax. So which view do you think is more important. Yours, someone who didn't donate, or the people that did?

Vycount · 07/04/2015 20:56

Has anyone who donated thought of contacting the police via Action Fraud?

VivaLeBeaver · 07/04/2015 20:59

I've come across something similar with a more well known organisation recently.

Yorkshire wildlife park raised £1000s through a public appeal to build a polar bear enclosure so they could rescue some poor polar bear from terrible conditions in central america. There were photos of the poor bear.

So they built the enclosure with money people gave. They never rescued the bear. They got two bears from ok conditions in Europe. And are now making more money than ever with increased visitors coming to see them.

They've got away with it. Id be annoyed if Id given them money!

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 07/04/2015 21:01

Sorry but why would Lee (or anyone) go to New York in winter without a coat? The mind boggles

SylvaniansAtEase · 07/04/2015 21:02

So stupid. This will follow them forever - nothing on the net ever dies. So one day, Dax will be reading all this... Way to go to really make something of your heart warming premature birth story...

So, I think they don't have much left to donate. Otherwise, faced with serious bad publicity, I think they would have done.

Debinaround · 07/04/2015 21:03

I thought someone had asked for their money back and had been "named and shamed" on Facebook. Confused

AyeAmarok · 07/04/2015 21:03

TrickyDickie's explanation actually makes it worse.

Whatever these "other issues" are, I don't see how that makes them justified to use the money that was meant to pay for non-insured medical care.

And that coat story, Jesus wept.

wooldonor · 07/04/2015 21:09

I don't know what to think now, without knowing any of the people involved I don't know how genuinely to take the email reply to spud Confused.

It doesn't sound likely that a father would be walking for hours around NY while his wife had just given birth but on the other hand I don't suppose they had ready access to cash $$. Wouldn't the consulate have helped them.

Maybe they are hopelessly out of their depth and being very badly advised but hwy not just be up front about everything, it will all come out in the end.

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kewtogetin · 07/04/2015 21:12

So even though they were both self employed and money was tight, instead of saving up for maternity leave they actually booked a trip to New York (with first class flights) instead? Such bullshit tricky. They didn't seem so 'humble' when they were swanning around new York, shopping on fifth avenue and dining up a storm. They were trying to be a pair of 'the big I am's' abs now it's bitten them on the arse.
Take a look on the RMHNY Facebook page and read about the families that stay there or more tellingly the families that cannot stay their because it's full, donate the bloody money to the people who were their for you during the worst days of your life instead of spunking it on yourselves.

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Chippednailvarnish · 07/04/2015 21:13

Yep, I also remember a physiotherapist who donated and then when it transpired they were insured asked for a refund.

So apparently Dick named and shamed her publicly and also threatened to report her to her employer and professional body...

shewept · 07/04/2015 21:14

Don't believe a word of it. Especially since he suggested they should spend 2k on a breast pump. Who told him they were 2k?

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