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To think this was an overreaction by new neighbours.

288 replies

DancingDays · 28/03/2015 16:55

House next to us has been empty for months. This afternoon I went to collect DDs from a party. When I went out the front door and I saw a removals van, couldnt see alot due to low sun in my eyes and didnt really want to look as they've all their belongings out. While loading DS into car, a man and woman appeared, I stuck my head over the car, said "Hi" they responded with a "Hi" and I drove off.

I return home and huddle DCS into the house as they are very nosey and ask 101 questions, I thought I would ease the new neighbours in gently once they have settled.

After a few minutes back home I hear a knock at the door, its the new neighbour. They have decided I am very rude to not welcome them and I have upset his wife. She's decided it's now a bad neighbourhood and wants to leave. Based on one 5 second interaction and 1/2 hour of me knowing they are there.

I explain I was busy collecting DCs and didnt want to disturb them while they are actually moving in.

He goes on and explains the only option is for me to go and apologise for my rudeness and go and get to know her. He said something along the lines of 'I expected more but that's the minimum acceptable'

He went to leave after my Hmm face and telling him I was busy with DCs but maybe I'll see them soon once things aren't so hectic for both of us. She then appeared at the door step, gave me a look of 'I'm waiting for an apology' then muttered "what's the point, she's left you on the doorstep" and stropped off back to their house.

I know moving is stressful but surely you don't confront your neighbours 'rudeness' within 1/2 hour of arrival.

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Ohbollocksandballs · 28/03/2015 17:36

Another one for the sarcastic tea and scones.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 28/03/2015 17:36

Ignore them.

LittleBairn · 28/03/2015 17:36

Where the fuck are they from Stepford? I would make a point in blanking them from now on hopefully he's telling the truth about her wanting to leave and you won't be subjected to them for too long.

thenightsky · 28/03/2015 17:36

Can you find out where they came from and then contact their previous neighbours for info?

It pays to be ahead of the game here I reckon. Know your enemy Grin

UncertainSmile · 28/03/2015 17:37

Bake them a lovely cake.

To think this was an overreaction by new neighbours.
BunnyCake · 28/03/2015 17:37

Oh dear. They sound barking.

TheSpottedZebra · 28/03/2015 17:39

Or make the cake, deliver it to them, punch the cake, and leave, as if everything is normal?

squoosh · 28/03/2015 17:41

Start doing naked yoga on the front lawn. Once they see your anus welcoming the morning sun they might be happy to keep things on a 'nodding over the privet hedge' basis.

GunShotResidue · 28/03/2015 17:41

Wow, why do people think they can talk to people like that?!

I'd like to think I would have called him out on being ridiculous and lied told him I had only just realised someone was moving in and was planning to take a basket round the next day but now wouldn't bother.

In reality I'd stand there stunned then, depending on how tired I am, probably burst into tears...

DidoTheDodo · 28/03/2015 17:42

Quick, move your piano to the party wall!

ARoomWithoutAView · 28/03/2015 17:44

Seriously.
Be polite, nothing more and let them make all the moves and see how they want to be. If they are playing games then come back and tell us and the power of MN will help. Neighbours from hell can be life changing so you need to be smart about this. There are some people who move around just to do this sort of thing - they live on it.

emotionsecho · 28/03/2015 17:44

I'm very concerned about the "expected more" comment, what in the name of all that's Holy did he expect????

DancingDays · 28/03/2015 17:44

I am now trapped in the house until I work out how do deal with them.

DD1 (7) has my humour and wants to go knock on the door, hug them as soon as they open, barge in and go sit on the sofa, because we are all so friendly here they should allow a sleepover.

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GoodGollyMissMollyItsQuiet · 28/03/2015 17:45

I rarely comment on anything on MN but this? This I am going to follow with an excitement never before known Grin

SoupDragon · 28/03/2015 17:47

with 5 dogs and 3 DCs this is only going to get better worse :o

TBH, wild horses couldn't drag me over there to apologise. I would limit myself to smiles and waves from a distance.

TheSpottedZebra · 28/03/2015 17:47

She could go and do a show for them?

Lovely singy songs, a recorder recital... If she doesn't have a recorder, she can take pots and pans, and bash them, and sing the recorder part too. Give her some red bull now so that she can stay the distance in her show.

passthewineplz · 28/03/2015 17:47

Invite them round for tea and scones --then fuck off out before they're due to arrive or let them sit down, and say thanks for babysitting and fuck off out!-- or put laxatives in their tea!BrewCakeGrin

sparklepopsicles · 28/03/2015 17:48

Oh my god. Pls send dd1 round immediately!! They are nuts

Felyne · 28/03/2015 17:48

They want an apology? "I'm sorry that you've moved in next to us"

Justusemyname · 28/03/2015 17:50

Don't apologise for getting off on the wrong foot!!Hmm. You haven't as you did nothing wrong.

Stillyummy · 28/03/2015 17:51

Be careful, if you make friends they will be clingy and high maintenance.

grovel · 28/03/2015 17:51

How old are these nutcases?

SoupDragon · 28/03/2015 17:51

Have you seen that viral video of the man proposing to his girlfriend by singing along to Marry You by Brino Mars? The one where the entire neighbourhood join in...? Is there a "welcome" song you could choreograph a routine to and enlist the help of the whole street?

DancingDays · 28/03/2015 17:51

Felyne wish I had thought of that response at the time.

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shinynewnamechange · 28/03/2015 17:51

I love your DD. Make sure she takes a dog.

Or 2.

The smelliest loudest ones.

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