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AIBU?

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To think this was an overreaction by new neighbours.

288 replies

DancingDays · 28/03/2015 16:55

House next to us has been empty for months. This afternoon I went to collect DDs from a party. When I went out the front door and I saw a removals van, couldnt see alot due to low sun in my eyes and didnt really want to look as they've all their belongings out. While loading DS into car, a man and woman appeared, I stuck my head over the car, said "Hi" they responded with a "Hi" and I drove off.

I return home and huddle DCS into the house as they are very nosey and ask 101 questions, I thought I would ease the new neighbours in gently once they have settled.

After a few minutes back home I hear a knock at the door, its the new neighbour. They have decided I am very rude to not welcome them and I have upset his wife. She's decided it's now a bad neighbourhood and wants to leave. Based on one 5 second interaction and 1/2 hour of me knowing they are there.

I explain I was busy collecting DCs and didnt want to disturb them while they are actually moving in.

He goes on and explains the only option is for me to go and apologise for my rudeness and go and get to know her. He said something along the lines of 'I expected more but that's the minimum acceptable'

He went to leave after my Hmm face and telling him I was busy with DCs but maybe I'll see them soon once things aren't so hectic for both of us. She then appeared at the door step, gave me a look of 'I'm waiting for an apology' then muttered "what's the point, she's left you on the doorstep" and stropped off back to their house.

I know moving is stressful but surely you don't confront your neighbours 'rudeness' within 1/2 hour of arrival.

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 29/03/2015 22:42

I just read this thread from start to finish and it's hilarious OP Grin

I don't believe a word of the snail story though (as funny as it is).

I think your little monkey of a DD is playing a joke on you with that one Wink

Losingmyreligion · 31/03/2015 09:30

Any update OP?

diddl · 31/03/2015 09:36

YABU not to welcome them???

Hahaha.

Here, the newcomers send out the invitations for get together.

MammaTJ · 31/03/2015 10:58

Your DD is awesome!

ChoosandChipsandSealingWax · 31/03/2015 15:47

Being uptight about snail is a bit po-faced - OP didn't sanction it, and actually it's not a bad way of dissing out how loony/difficult they really are and diffusing the situation - they helped the DD rather than getting anxsty, better in many ways than first next encounter being with the OP and whatever she had said being Wrong. And they will not have realised the glitter was wind up/slightly malicious (I certainly wouldn't have).

ChoosandChipsandSealingWax · 31/03/2015 15:48

Sussing out, not dissing out - damn autocorrect!

ChoosandChipsandSealingWax · 31/03/2015 15:52

(I also certainly wouldn't be marching the DD round to make an apology on Fictitious Snail given their Form for looniness - would only reinflame situation that for now is hopefully calm. I would have Words, but that's enough).

MonstrousRatbag · 31/03/2015 15:56

I would keep your kids away from them now, until you've had a change to gauge their oddity/unpleasantness quotient. And do warn your nice neighbours. I suspect this pair need a fresh injection of faux victim drama every couple of days.

shovetheholly · 31/03/2015 15:59

Oh God, I know that to many people this thread seems like fiction, but my PIL are exactly like that couple!

Recently, the older lady who lived next to them moved into a care home, and a new family moved in. The new family are polite, say hello in the street and have a quick chat - but no more.

PIL are convinced that they are the rudest and most horrible people ever, because they don't want to spend hours and hours a week chatting. Or go round to a house with people who are almost twice their age and really boring for dinner and drinks all the time.

At some point, MIL is going to say something equivalent to the OP's neighbours. I can just feel it. Already, neighbours have also committed the heinous crime of altering the house (completely within planning regulations) in a manner PIL dislike, which leads to sniffy and loud comments about tackiness outside their house. (PIL have also moaned about non-existent building noise, which is a bit rich as they had their house comprehensively redone, causing a much greater racket, a couple of years back).

Justusemyname · 01/04/2015 18:25

The fake snail won't teach the new neighbours a lesson about anything as they think there really IS a snail and they have no clue they did anything unacceptable.

SueBigFatSue · 01/04/2015 19:02

'Tiresome smart arse' LOL. Your DD will be hilarious if her authoritive figures describe her as that.

AuntieDee · 03/04/2015 13:51

OP how are your neighbours being now? I hope you have peace

Fromparistoberlin73 · 03/04/2015 22:52

I do agree with people that say no apologies - don't be made to feel guilty

As lovely as it is to have good neighbours they have started off bad and I would tend to not get I to relationship and basically avoid them. Guilty until proven innocent I say !

Your dd is as sharp as a tack !

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