To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

[Sunshinesunflower]

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

lady it's not compulsory for vegetarians to eat eggs you know. Eggs, cheese ,dairy etc. are just choices . There's no 'will eat' about it. You might as well say carnivores 'will eat' fish. Some of them won't.

woah lady. Have you bothered to read the full thread?

The op needs support not mindless ranting. You're being completely unfair to someone who has fully admitted they're having issues with food and has taken people's advice on board. Lay off her.

My ds has yogurt and fruit for breakfast most days. He's offered bagel/cereal etc as well but mostly chooses fruit and yogurt. He's not starving afterwards.

Personally I think all this complex carbs stuff is nonsense. We are basically apes, evolved to eat fruit, veg, nuts, a bit of meat when we can get it and dairy when we are little.

Get a grip and stop being a little bitch on a thread you've got your back up over someone else's eating habits.

How odd, I thought this was the AIBU thread?
Ah but you know that because you called me a bitch- so a personal attack is ok from you?

I think you will find plenty of other people on this thread who feel equally as strongly about how the OP is feeding her DCs. Have you read the thread?

Yes I have read the thread that's how I know the OP has issues with food.

You're personally attacking the OP and I'm not too arsed if I'm being a bitch towards you, you seem like a nasty person.

Hey sunshinesunflower, my youngest currently only manages fruit and yogurt for breakfast - ok so he's only 16 months, but everything else we offered him makes him gag at breakfast time. Funnily enough he can eat these same foods later in the day. I asked our doc and he said it was fine, my son is healthy and makes up for it later in the day.
My other older son eats fruit and a slice of whole meal toast with butter. He always eats the fruit first. He has eaten porridge and weetabix in the past but was taking 30 mins to finish a small bowl and it was making him miserable. He does eat again at 1015 at school and he manages something heavier then though.
So I guess I'm saying, as long as they have a balanced diet and can concentrate at school, then no stress about breakfast!

Yes but champagne you are following your childrens leads. Op is enforcing what her dc eat for breakfast based on her own feelings about food. Quite a big difference.

I don't understand why if you have morning sickness, you don't get your husband or partner to feed them breakfast?

Yes, but it's hardly a pop tart / or bright coloured / chocolate cereal.

I think all parents force weird ideas onto their kids (me included) - we can't help it. Starting the day with fruit and yogurt is not the worst ;-)

cherryapple perhaps he leaves early for work, or works shifts or something.

he works shifts

lady

If you read the thread it's pretty clear that the OP has some fairly deep seated issues surrounding food, probably picked up from her home life as a child. She also seems to have low self esteem and possibly depression. In short she's having a bit of a tough time. Why not try a little empathy? Very few people; depressed or not respond positively to patronising or aggressive advice.

THEworry all I will say is that if you HAVE read all 19 pages you must have seen plenty of other posters saying the OP has a weird attitude to food and plenty of comments much worse than that.
So I assume you have picked mine up as they are the most recent.
I didn't say you were being bitchy. I said you called me a bitch. There is a difference.

OP- all I will add- I see you are still reading- is that you could help posters by giving all the relevant info at the start of your thread rather than drip-drip it in along 19 pages. Not everyone has the time to read 400+ posts. They go by the first one.

YAB massively unreasonable!

I cannot function without a decent breakfast. Kids need carbohydrates, slow release stuff eg porridge is great to set them up for the day.

They need the brain power to learn at school. Fruit & yoghurt sounds like diet food and not something that sets you up for the day!

Just because you don't do breakfast doesn't mean that you have to inflict that on your kids too.

Yabu to not fuel your children thoroughly if they will eat well. They haven't eaten all night, they are growing and they need to be able to concentrate at school. My dd is only 2 and a half but she would be starving and grumpy if I did this.

Have you ever thought about letting them have the apple crumble and custard for breakfast?

If you make it the night before anyway then it's not going to take any more time to serve up than fruit and yogurt, their calorie intake during the day will still be identical if you give them fruit and yogurt for dinner as a pudding (given they are going to have a supper too) and they'll have had something a bit more substantial to eat in the morning to keep them going without you feeling it's something you don't want to serve up.

Might be worth a try at any rate! It's also worth remembering that saying that to be healthy you should breakfast like a king, lunch like a queen and dine like a pauper - at the moment you're doing it the other way around.

There's lots of research around now that shows that the 'healthy' eating obsession with reducing fats in our diets is probably the reason that we are experiencing an obesity crisis now and that we'd all have been much better off if we'd stuck to having bacon and egg in the morning, and given anything deemed 'low fat' a wide berth due to all the sugars and artificial sweeteners they would have been packed with instead. It would be worth trying different things for breakfast to see what differences it makes to your dc and then you'll know (for now at any rate) what works best for them in combination with what works best for you...

Sunshine

I can't recommend overnight oats enough for a quick, filling brekkie solution. They won't smell the night before as it's just oats and milk, then the kids can add to them in the morning and, if wanted, give them a quick burst in the microwave and you don't really have to engage with the food much at all.

I sympathise, when I was younger I had digestive problems and food I lived could make me sick, I never knew what to eat from one day to the next. It's good to give the kids some autonomy, they can decide what they want and you will hopefully not be repulsed by it as much

YABVU and very odd

Breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, dinner like a pauper.

But your kids are having two dinners. WOnder they don't go to bed with indigestion, all that food crammed in before bedtime.

I find in the mornings if I have anything sweet even fruit it plays havoc with my blood sugar levels for the rest of the morning and by 10am I'm starving. If I don't eat breakfast I will feel sick.

So toast and marmite or plain porridge it is then

op I haven't read tft but quite a lot of it, i hope you are o.kay. It is not great to be so negative about yourself

Lady - I was a bit distracted with DD.

It's not so much what you've put but the way you expressed yourself that was condescending and very unpleasant to have to read.

I know what vegetarians and vegans can eat. I also know rather a lot about the British slaughter industry which drives that point of view.

I was/am very tired and very ill and maybe my posts don't flow as precisely as I'd like - but if you don't like what I've posted - don't post. No one is forcing you.

Back off thelady. While I agree this thread isn't suiitable for AIBU, it has become obvious through reading that the OP could do with more support than us all picking her breakfast choices to pieces.

It's become a conversation, not intentional drip feed.

OP, I hope you are reading and getting a bit of support and a few tips. I also hope that you have RL friends to sound off to and that your pregnancy becomes a little easier for you .

I would LOVE it if DS ate fruit and yogurt for breakfast! Your overall daily menu sounds great and so if fruit and yogurt works for the little Sunshiners who cares?? So many ultra judgemental people about food in general on MN at the moment.
I am sure they will let you know if they want a bit of toast in years to come!

*its become a conversation by an intentional drip feed

Thank you :)

This can't be real? You don't like the concept of breakfast? Odd. Your poor children.