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Original poster

to think its rude to be expected to take a parcel in?

102 replies

FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:44

My bil had a parcel sent to my address (birthday present for my sister)

Aibu to be annoyed at he didn't ask me first if it was ok and only told me today when it was being delivered? (I had no idea prior to this morning)

I don't mind doing a favour for people, but this was very much a case of I had no choice but to do it.

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woowoo22 · 18/03/2015 16:45

He should have mentioned but no big deal, surely.

Leeds2 · 18/03/2015 16:45

It wouldn't really bother me, but I think it would've been polite for him to ask you first.

formerbabe · 18/03/2015 16:46

Does this really bother you?! Seems a very trivial thing to care about.

MrsFlannel · 18/03/2015 16:46

It's only a parcel ffs! He's not asked you to pay his mortgage or anything! YABU.

TheMoa · 18/03/2015 16:47

It wouldn't bother me between family, it wouldn't even merit a mention.

Any heads up would only be so we'd know if it went missing/didn't arrive, so not time critical

If you are not there, you're not there.

SevenEleven · 18/03/2015 16:48

Wouldn't bother me at all.

WorraLiberty · 18/03/2015 16:48

Meh! He should have mentioned it but probably forgot.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:49

It's only a parcel ffs! He's not asked you to pay his mortgage or anything! YABU.

Calm. Down.

A simple question shouldn't invoke this level of anger.

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soverylucky · 18/03/2015 16:49

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MrsFlannel · 18/03/2015 16:50

finn I was taking the piss! No need for me to calm down...I should have added a Grin and then it wouldn't have been misunderstood.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 18/03/2015 16:51

Of course he should have asked you but it's a pretty small favour to do for someone! Does the parcel symbolically represent something else?

hmc · 18/03/2015 16:51

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest

sparing · 18/03/2015 16:52

A simple parcel shouldn't really invoke this level of huff either...

hmc · 18/03/2015 16:53

...and what a bastard he is organising a birthday present for your sister!

SoonToBeMrsB · 18/03/2015 16:53

I'd be a bit Hmm that he used my address without mentioning it beforehand but I'd still take it in.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:55

A simple parcel shouldn't really invoke this level of huff either...

Hardly. I was polite to him and haven't said anything at all.

I just think it's rude to use someones address without just simply asking beforehand, and then only telling them on the day.

So I was asking if other people would find it rude.

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FenellaFellorick · 18/03/2015 16:55

You did have a choice though. You could have said sorry but I won't be in.

It was really daft of him to just assume you'd be willing or able to stay in all day waiting for the parcel. What if you'd needed to go out? Had an appointment you couldn't cancel?

It would be worth pointing that out to him so he remembers to check in future instead of assuming you have nothing to do with your day. It's not the favour so much as the assuming, is it?

I'm a mean old cow so I'd have said oh, if only you'd asked. I am not going to be in. What on earth are you going to do...

Just to wind him up. Grin

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:55

...and what a bastard he is organising a birthday present for your sister!

^ Because that's what I said the issue was with Confused

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farewellfigure · 18/03/2015 16:56

I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

My neighbour has stuff delivered to my house without asking me first! She knows I work from home. No biggie.

BitOfFun · 18/03/2015 16:57

That would infuriate me, farewellfigure.

LaurieFairyCake · 18/03/2015 16:59

Yes it's rude. I work from home and I'd be really miffed if someone knocked I wasn't expecting and I had a client with me.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:59

My neighbour has stuff delivered to my house without asking me first! She knows I work from home. No biggie

If that's the understanding that you have (as it seems like a regular thing) then that's fine for you.

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hmc · 18/03/2015 17:02

But Finn - that's the point. He is doing a nice thing and you are getting side tracked by trivial details

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 18/03/2015 17:03

I honestly couldn't care less if this happened to me. We have a large family spread around the country/world and often send parcels this way. I can't remember anyone asking if it was okay, as it's such a non-issue.

YABU to get huffy about it. It's just a big nothing. Do you get wound up by this sort of thing easily?

Kesira · 18/03/2015 17:06

Maybe he ordered it late the night before so didn't have time to let you know until now. Its the principle though I guess. Did he at least say sorry?