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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think its rude to be expected to take a parcel in?

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:44

My bil had a parcel sent to my address (birthday present for my sister)

Aibu to be annoyed at he didn't ask me first if it was ok and only told me today when it was being delivered? (I had no idea prior to this morning)

I don't mind doing a favour for people, but this was very much a case of I had no choice but to do it.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:25

Ok IABU. If I was sending a parcel to someones house I personally would check that it was ok with them if I had never sent a parcel there before.

Obviously I should never have started this thread without the approval from the MN mafia and I shouldn't feel it was rude.

On a side note I haven't said a single thing to him and I have taken the parcel in.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:26

Wow Finn, you really aren't covering yourself with glory here...

I could not care less about what you think.

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JeanneTheRabidFeminist · 18/03/2015 17:27

Oh, come on, people, you're winding her up for the sake of it now, and it's nasty.

Not everyone has free time to sit in for a parcel. And not everyone is rude enough to do what you suggest, wings, and deliberately not answer the door when they know there's something coming.

WhingeyMinge · 18/03/2015 17:27

I think you need to take a chill pill

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:28

You're awfully angry

Oooh Classic MN.

I'm sat here laughing at 90% of the replies. You guys are hilarious and so predictable.

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WhingeyMinge · 18/03/2015 17:29

Classic MN? I haven't been on here long, a few weeks maybe, and I've posted 2 threads... My opinions are my own

NotOnMyWatchOhNo · 18/03/2015 17:29

You clearly do get easily wound up, just sayin

Only1scoop · 18/03/2015 17:29

Watch out Op

You might get glitter bombed Wink

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:31

You might get glitter bombed

Whats that?

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xiaozhu · 18/03/2015 17:31

Well don't ask then?

xiaozhu · 18/03/2015 17:32

Glitterbombed: Something else for you to get your blood pressure up about. I'd start panicking now Wink

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:32

Oh, come on, people, you're winding her up for the sake of it now, and it's nasty.

You're right.

Especially you Whingey

Well I'm not going to give you the reaction you all sadly crave. Enjoy your viciousness.

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Footle · 18/03/2015 17:32

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WhingeyMinge · 18/03/2015 17:39

I certainly was not being vicious, I just don't understand why you would ask for people's opinion but then bite their heads off when they give it to you

JeanneTheRabidFeminist · 18/03/2015 17:39

Not everyone's family does things the same way, though, footle. Lots of us live long distances apart, for starters. If my brother sent something to me, I'd have to pick it up and bring it to the birthday party - he's not going to travel a hundred miles to my local sorting office, I promise you!

I've no idea what the OP's situation is, but there are perfectly obvious reasons she might see this as a bit more of an imposition than you do.

Hullygully · 18/03/2015 17:39

Character is fate

slithytove · 18/03/2015 17:41

Look...

Would anyone like a creme egg?

LineRunner · 18/03/2015 17:42

Personally I wouldn't do what your BiL did without checking first purely for practical reasons, i.e. will the person actually be home to accept it. Not a lot of use otherwise. And yes I would say thanks.

However if BiL did it to me I wouldn't mind at all. I'd be happy to be helping out.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 18/03/2015 17:42

I suspect you're in a no win position here OP. I think if you'd posted that you'd ordered a present for your DH and had it delivered to your BIL's to keep it a surprise but hadn't bothered/remembered to tell him until the day it was being delivered you'd then be told YWBU to do that.

He should have asked you beforehand if only so you could have told him if the day didn't suit you because you would have been out or something. If it had been me then there's a good chance I would have been out and if missing it had meant me going to a depot then that wouldn't have happened because I don't drive and we don't have one that's local afaik.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 18/03/2015 17:45

'You clearly cannot read' Grin.

I just read that!

PiggyPlumPie · 18/03/2015 17:45

I would expect to be asked first , family or otherwise.

IAmNotAPrincessIAmAKahleesi · 18/03/2015 17:46

YANBU

I would never send a parcel to someone else's house without asking them first, it's not a huge deal but it does seem a bit rude to me

Awadebumbo · 18/03/2015 17:48

OP it might be irritating but no big deal really. I would see this as more absent minded than rude. But then again maybe my family dynamic is different we don't mind helping each other out a minor inconvenience for a family would be no biggie for us.

EeekEeekEeekEeek · 18/03/2015 17:53

'AIBU' is a question.

Perhaps we need a topic called 'IANBU', for those who are certain and would just like some people to agree with them so they could have a good kvetch about it.

BackforGood · 18/03/2015 17:55

Perhaps you should go away, have a cuppa or whatever relaxes you, then come and read this thread again objectively.

Honestly, you've asked if YABU to be angry over something that 99% of posters have said wouldn't bother them at all.
You've then been extremely snippy and downright rude to several posters, then you are trying to say that this is 'typical MN' and make out that people are in some way picking on you.

To make a 'typical MN' comment, presumably you aren't new to MN, so you know people will say what they think in AIBU, yet you aren't prepared to be told that you are - so why ask here ? Confused