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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think its rude to be expected to take a parcel in?

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 16:44

My bil had a parcel sent to my address (birthday present for my sister)

Aibu to be annoyed at he didn't ask me first if it was ok and only told me today when it was being delivered? (I had no idea prior to this morning)

I don't mind doing a favour for people, but this was very much a case of I had no choice but to do it.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:06

He is doing a nice thing and you are getting side tracked by trivial details

Hmm

I don't care if he was buying a present for his wife/mother/dog.

It doesn't make the fact he used my address and didn't check if it was ok any different.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:08

Maybe he ordered it late the night before so didn't have time to let you know until now. Its the principle though I guess. Did he at least say sorry?

I don't think it was, and her birthday is not until first week in April so he wouldn't need next day delivery.

And no he didn't say sorry.

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hmc · 18/03/2015 17:08

I don't think anyone can help you Finn - your have terminal clench syndrome Sad

CumberCookie · 18/03/2015 17:09

I would've thought he could have asked too, its a little rude.
However surely he isn't expecting you to go to the post office if it can't be delivered? He just didn't want he wife to see whatever it is.

JeanneTheRabidFeminist · 18/03/2015 17:10

Yes, it'd piss me off. I think it depends on your family set-up - I'd be irritated because waiting in all morning for a parcel is something I'd prefer to plan. If it were part of my family's regular habits, or if he had good reason to know I'd be in all day, that might be different.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:10

Do you get wound up by this sort of thing easily?

Oh go away with your dime store psychology.

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Only1scoop · 18/03/2015 17:11

Yabu

To be honest I'd find it a total non issue.

He is family

xiaozhu · 18/03/2015 17:11

Depends what it is. If it's a sofa then errr no that's not on! But if a small parcel then what's the big deal?

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:12

However surely he isn't expecting you to go to the post office if it can't be delivered?

I don't think it would go to the post office. It was sent by DHL and they needed a signature, so I'm assuming if I'd missed it, then it would be re-delivered or I would have to go to their nearest depo?

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 18/03/2015 17:15

Another case of:

OP: AIBU?
Everyone else: Yes
OP: No I'm not!

Really wouldn't bother me at all. I wouldn't wait in for it, it would be his problem if I wasn't there, but if I'm in then no big deal whatsoever.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 18/03/2015 17:15

Expecting you to have to go to the depot to pick it up would be more out of order imo - I'd be cross if it came to that.

N0RMABATES · 18/03/2015 17:19

If my SIL did that it would be absolutely fine because she is family. If the NDN did it then...not so much.

Llareggub · 18/03/2015 17:19

Why would you be so wound up by the use of your address though? That's kind of the whole point of the mail delivery system.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:20

OP: AIBU?
Everyone else: Yes
OP: No I'm not!

Everyone? You clearly cannot read.

I haven't said I disagree with answers. I answered that someone replied in an extremely angry way and someone else seemed to try and make it that I was annoyed my sister's husband had bought her a birthday present Confused

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FirstWeTakeManhattan · 18/03/2015 17:20

Oh go away with your dime store psychology.

How bloody rude.

I was asking you a genuine question.

Don't bloody ask AIBU if you can't bear to hear that you are.

Go back to seething over a parcel being delivered ffs.

SanityClause · 18/03/2015 17:21

It would have been polite for him to tell you, I suppose.

But it really doesn't warrant a thread.

Perhaps you could mention to him that it might be a good idea for him to let you know, if he does it in future, so you can look out for the parcel.

This really is a mountain out of a molehill, though.

WhingeyMinge · 18/03/2015 17:21

Yabu

Plus, why ask for people's opinions if you're gonna disagree with every one of them?

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:21

Why would you be so wound up by the use of your address though? That's kind of the whole point of the mail delivery system.

Thanks for explaining the mail delivery system to me. I had no idea until this point.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:22

But it really doesn't warrant a thread.

Do you own MN? Do all threads have to go through you for approval?

I see threads all the time that I think are pointless. I'm not bitchy or nasty enough to say that though.

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FinnHuckleBerry · 18/03/2015 17:23

Plus, why ask for people's opinions if you're gonna disagree with every one of them?

Why because I corrected someone who was trying to make it seemed like I had an issue with my sisters husband buying her a birthday present?

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LaurieFairyCake · 18/03/2015 17:24

Everything warrants a thread.

From discharge to decathlons - everything is Mumsnet

WingsofNylon · 18/03/2015 17:24

YABU It isn't rude at all. Also, it is a bit much to call it a favour. All you had to do was answer your front door. or not answer if you really didn't want to.

WhingeyMinge · 18/03/2015 17:25

I think you just want to make an argument (with everyone).
You're awfully angry Hmm

Fugacity · 18/03/2015 17:25

It wouldn't bother me. I'd be happy to be helpful.

xiaozhu · 18/03/2015 17:25

Wow Finn, you really aren't covering yourself with glory here...