to feel that when DH buys me flowers ...

[ceeb]

...that he should arrange them in a vase for me as well?

DH just brought home flowers for me tonight in advance of Mum's Day. Don't get me wrong, I love getting flowers but somehow it feels almost like DH is handing me a chore instead of a present. I hate flower arranging. He sat down, smiling, all proud of himself for remembering, while I had to find a vase, fill it with water, find the scissors to add the flower food, trim the stems, stuff them in the vase, find somewhere to put it, and clear up all the leaves/stems/plastic detritus. Does anyone else feel this way?

wife and neighbour sitting in the front room and see the husband walk up the path to the front door holding a bunch of flowers.
Wife says "Look at that, now I will be spending the evening with my legs in the air"
Neighbour says "Why?, do you not have a vase?"

I hate the term 'scrabble around' my mum and sister use it for everyday things everyone has to do. Bloody martyrs but I do think they're both very depressed people.

carol

Old but gold Carol

Why is "depressed" and "depression" being used in place of "mardy bugger" on this thread?

I'm a woman yet aometimea I can't help but think

Women ! No pleasing them

Sometimes *

I've never given someone a present of a bunch of flowers and then put them in a vase for them......do my Mother and Mother in law hate me now? I must ask them later as I hand over the flowers.

Actually I may video their responses as I take apart the nicely arranged flowers and bung them in the first vase I find in their kitchens.

YABU. I've received flowers exactly once from my DH in the seven years I've known him. I think it was Mother's Day two years ago. Didn't get even get flowers for giving birth to his child. He's not mean, he's just not wired that way, but it still makes me feel sad and unappreciated. YABU and should be glad your DH can be bothered to buy you some lovely flowers without be chivvied along.

OP I bought myself some flowers the other day (as the supermarket had my fave ones in) and when I got home with the bags of shopping I was a bit pissed off at myself for giving me an extra job to do!

It is a bit of a faff. I especially feel that way when you're throwing a party or dinner party and someone brings flowers, I smile graciously while thinking "thanks, that's something else to fit in". But I do love flowers and it is the norm that the recipient has to faff about with the unwrapping, cutting and finding a vase.

I have occasionally had the giver say "I will sort those out for you" - when I had a newborn - and that was lovely.

TheFairyCaravan - best rant I've seen on here in ages

Question: why are people talking about "arranging" flowers? I cut the bottoms off the stems and put the in a vase in exactly the same arrangement that Tesco displayed them in. Done.

oh YANBU I am the same

so glad not just me

thought I was a right ungrateful sod

M stunned at people referring it to 'an extra job'. It's something that takes seconds and gives ( usually) a couple of weeks of pleasure.

Crikey, it takes longer to make a sandwich than to put flowers and water in a vase and check the waste away!

If dh was to buy me flowers I would be too overcome with happiness to gripe about the fact I have to arrange them

Yabu - get a grip

You do know we're talking about a bunch of flowers don't you? They're quite independent. Sparkling

Are you being serious OP?

Do you get him to run your bath and pour in any bath plus he buys you? Spoon feed you any chocolates?

Actually that sounds quite nice...

No, YABU. Come on you can't be serious?

*bath oils

facepalm

Christ on a bike!

Next he'll be running you a bath which you have to empty YOURSELF!

LTB before he does something truly heinous like make you physically sit up for a neck rub or buying you an item of jewellery you have gasp polish!

Maybe you don't have as much to do as some people, flipchart... or maybe I'm just ratty I find unwrapping them (involving scissors to cut the wrapper/rubber band), finding the sachet thingy and cutting that off, cutting the stems, finding a vase, stripping the lower stems etc. a real hassle. Maybe because in my mind it's something that should take zero time and it's actually a few minutes and then you have to wash your hands.

Also I find sometimes there are so many of those little jobs that just take five minutes, that they use up any spare time I have left over from work/childcare/cooking, washing and all the other main chores. Another little job like that landing on me can really make my heart sink.

Maybe you don't have as much to do as some people, flipchart

I'm probably similar to most people here. I work full time shifts with two kids, but come on, reach to the cupboard, get vase, put water in, go to drawer get scissors quick trim, sachet off food mixed and flowers in in more or less thesame shape that the florist arranged them. Mess in the bin. Way less than 5 mins!
For something so nice I don't see it as a chore but time out from chores for something nice.

Oh well, everyone is different I guess.

Sometimes I genuinely think there is not enough going on in someone's life. I just don't know what else to say, honestly.