to feel that when DH buys me flowers ...

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...that he should arrange them in a vase for me as well?

DH just brought home flowers for me tonight in advance of Mum's Day. Don't get me wrong, I love getting flowers but somehow it feels almost like DH is handing me a chore instead of a present. I hate flower arranging. He sat down, smiling, all proud of himself for remembering, while I had to find a vase, fill it with water, find the scissors to add the flower food, trim the stems, stuff them in the vase, find somewhere to put it, and clear up all the leaves/stems/plastic detritus. Does anyone else feel this way?

You sound absurdly spoilt and demanding. ...I am struggling to believe this is real....

My husband said he didn't buy me flowers for my first MD due to our financial situation (I'm on mat leave and until today, we have not cut back on buying anything), I would have loved flowers and will now be carefully watching what he buys himself until I'm back at work. ?? He has bought me a card though.

Aquapak is the way to go when buying cut flowers.

The flowers are wrapped in cellophane, from the bottom up. This means that the stalks can be sitting in water. They are often then put in a decorative 'bag' so that they sit easily.

Gives a few days grace, means the hostess doesn't have to run around finding a vase on the spot. Ideal.

Blimey, you do know even getting flowers is the nicest thing? 2mins to vase them up surely is nothing?? Don't faff about to 'arrange' just plonk in and separate a little, they come in an arranged 'shape' that sets them off anyway so no need to mess with it. Then enjoy.

YANBU, I hate getting flowers for this reason. My work sent me a big bouquet of flowers just after my twins were born and while the thought was nice, it was just another job really.

YABU. You can't stick them in a vase?

Na I'm with you OP. Then it's not just the initial faff and looking for the sharpest sissors, it's carrying on the faff every few days to keep them fresh for as long as possible.

Oh my god, this thread has made me laugh so much this morning - I think I may be slightly unhinged.

OP - find a vase for this lot

I'm the same OP, so you're not alone!

I note there's a couple of posters who, despite the stridency of many responses on this thread, have been brave enough to say that they've been there - post natally and during depression.

Now as this is AIBU, perhaps the OP did just want to post and run. But if it was a misplaced genuine thread, OP I hope you're OK.

Omg, I completely agree with you!!! I've said that to my DH, and now, he always puts them in a vase as well! Don't expect any sympathy, though. When I've mentioned this to my friends, they all say I'm completely unreasonable. I'm very glad to have found a sympathetic soul in you!

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TheFlying - I love getting flowers too, but when DD2 was born someone sent us 100 tulips!

Now they were lovely and I do love tulips but finding enough receptacles for 100 tulips did take quite a while, we used every vase we own plus a few pint glasses, then trimming the stems of 100 flowers and arranging them - I felt afterwards I could make a pretty good florist! It was the first domestic task I'd done for a week that didn't involve wiping up poo or trying to feed a grumpy baby, so I quite enjoyed it, though.

I'm stunned by this thread. Are you all in on a joke I don't know about?

People actually begrudge others spending time and money on flowers because they have to be arsed to put them in a vase?

I hope you get your wishes and no one bothers to buy you flowers again.

Must be lovely to have someone buy you flowers

I think I'd feel the same as the OP if anyone ever bought flowers for me (I'm male, so they don't as a rule). That's why my wife's Mother's Day flowers are in a vase on the breakfast table, ready for her to see when she finishes her lie-in!

Op YANBU. Flowers are a job for dh.

This sounds bonkers (unless underlying depression etc, in which case totally understandable).

I buy myself flowers every 2-3 weeks, they look amazing in my house and really make me feel at home. Smell great and so colourful. Takes 2 mins. If there's a job that takes less than 5 mins, just do it! So much angst.

Also if your flowers are all the same, cut all the stems at once, one cut down., one cut up, ie a c shape, then they will naturally be different heights when you shove them in your vase. Put the cellophane in the sink, cut and strip leaves over cellophane then shove all in the bin and any stray bits will be in the sink.

It is easy people.

*v shape

I also hate sorting flowers out. And I hate them dying slowly. But DH knows this and there won't be any flowers downstairs waiting for me.

Scrambled egg and a coffee in bed is my perfect idea of a Mothers Day gift [gets on with finish in breakfast]

I am so shocked at all of the unreasonable and ungrateful women on mn. Have you nothing else to worry about. 'Dh bought me flowers but didn't put them in a vase' . I'm going to start showing my dh these posts to show him how lucky he is

Oh FFS. YABU and very ungrateful!!!