AIBU or was this mum deeply unpleasant and really quite weird?

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

When I collected DS from nursery just now, there was a large car parked directly in front of the door. It's a very small car park, so because of where this car was, it was also blocking the exit and halfway in the 'best' parking space (i.e. the one closest the door, which people usually go for first).

If it had been a one-off, I would have let it go. But both DH and I have noted that this same woman has parked similarly inconsiderately on a number of occasions. A couple of weeks ago, she parked blocking the entrance when the car park was actually empty, so I had to park on the road in the middle of a huge puddle.

When I got out of my car, she was already driving off so I just sort of frowned in her general direction. DH and I had talked before about asking nursery staff to have a polite word with her, so I decided to say something. As I was talking to the staff member, I heard this shouting outside and this woman came storming back over and shouted at me:

"No, I saw you giving me a filthy look, if you've got something to say you can say it to my face!"

I started to explain, and she shouted me down and said (again quite aggressively) that she hadn't bothered to park properly because she thought she would be the last one there.

I said that actually, her parking had caused problems in the past as well. She then leaned in towards me and shouted

"EXCUSE ME! MY SISTER IN LAW IS RIDDLED WITH CANCER SO PUT THAT IN PERSPECTIVE!"

Then she walked off.

I swear, this is absolutely true. I'm not missing anything out. The conversation literally went from: "Er, well, actually..." to "CANCER!"

How on earth do I deal with this woman next time I see her?

I think if someone gave me a creme egg I would think it was an insult as they are horrible this year! They have already reduced the price in Wilkos!

I will be looking closely at anyone stocking up on creme eggs as they may well be a mumsnetter on a mission to placate someone!

Isn't there a mumsnet Easter egg icon we could repurpose?

[easter]

Sounds like she's forgotten her medication! I've had run ins with people like that,she thinks she's the centre of the universe. The nursery should be dealing with her unpleasant behaviour.

Don't worry about it, these kind of people exist everywhere.

My DS's nursery had one. She used to give you filthy looks if you were asking the staff about your child because it meant she had to wait an extra minute to pick her child up. She even barged me out of the way going through the door once to get there first. She also parked in plainly stupid places in the car park, drove at people expecting them to just get out of her way and never ever locked the entrance gate that I saw. Self centred and thought the world revolved around her and her child. Luckily I haven't come across one at his school yet.

Maybe the cream egg was a bad idea

I should have said Pom bears

it's takes your breath away when people are so suddenly angry OP. Glad you are OK.

I hereby confess that I was the bad parker but wasn't the shouter once: several years ago now but I'll remember it always with shame. SP, not long moved into our own place with 2 young DDs in the back of the car, squabbling, fighting and crying. I was tired and a bit emotional.
Filled up at a strange petrol station and when I went in to pay, leaving kids in car, it turned out to have a M+S food section in there, so I looked round.
A few moments (could have been minutes) later a deranged lunatic was screaming in my face that I was so Fing inconsiderate for leaving my car at the pump and so Fing evil and such an Fing bad mother for leaving the kids in the car. I just crumpled at her feet apologising as I went down. She didn't touch me, just the force of her breath and the spittle and her complete loathing and venom was enough to completely floor me. She stormed out and the staff picked me up and set me on my way.
Learnt my lesson though: I always pay for my fuel and return to the car as quickly as possible !

Used to have a lot of agro from people like that when I worked in a supermarket. Nasty people looking for a fight. You won't be the first person she shouted at like that, and won't be the last. Nursery prob know allllll about her because they have to deal with her on a daily basis.

Oh oh, I would be sooo proud if we could have a crème egg emoticon! Even if it wasn't my idea. I also have visions of bowling it past her, and seeing if she homes in on it and charges like the Raptors in Jurassic Park. Then I could just shut her in another room and run for it, while she worked through her issues on the crème egg.

To whoever it was asked if it was a 4x4.... yes, I was avoiding saying it in case I got accused of judging her for having one! It was a BMW 4x4, as a matter of fact.

As to the degree of dirtiness of my look.... I don't know. I do have a very bad case of bitchy resting face. I tried recreating The Look in the mirror, then tried doing a properly filthy look to see if I could possibly have done one accidentally. Then I got myself mixed up, and couldn't remember how The Look 'felt'. So now I'm just confused.

Cream egg anyone?

So if someone gives me a creme egg in the near future I'll know I'm a cunt.

I find the sorts of people who bang on about parking and do passive aggressive things like frowning and face pulling and moaning to staff not to mention keeping a little family log on other peoples parking a PITA. I think she was clumsily telling you there are more important things in life than having to park near and puddle and I'm afraid I'd agree with her. You'll never be friends with this woman, she is direct and clear and you are passive aggressive, leave it well alone, without the face pulling if you can manage that.

Lobs creme egg to Salt.

Love how mad parking cunts deranged rant becomes "direct and clear". It almost becomes normal... Except it wasn't. No passive aggressive behaviour, just a plain tantrum.

Have had similar parking issues at kids daycare by stupid women (it's a niiccee city centre daycare). Last one I gave up and just parked behind her and blocked her in as she drove into a parking space I was reversing into. I had three kids to pick up and nice long chats with each room staff mwhahaha. She came back in and asked who's car was and when it would be moved - I was just on my way to child 2s room so I politely told her when I'd got all my children. She knew fine rightly what she had done and didn't say a word and just walked back out.

Thanks for this thread, it has given me much joy. I will never receive a creme egg without suspicion again.

Sounds like she's forgotten her medication!

Lauramum23 , Ii am feel long sensitive today, could you consider the groomed of those of us using medication for mental health problems before making statements that suggests that those of us who do take medication would be rude and aggressive without it please?

She's a nutter with a gob - they are the worst kind. The fact is she has no consideration for anyone else, will park where she likes until she is clamped or ticketed, and there will always be a reason why she can (allergies, someone in her family with some illness, her neighbour's dog died...).

< You could have a supply of these printed off ready for her next offence.

Right, I'm off to buy a trolley full of creme eggs.
Bugger me! I've been doing it wrong all this time when all I really needed to resolve a tricky situation was to lob a creme egg at it.

My new motto: never leave home without clean underwear and a morsel of extra sweet confectionary.

(Would a Frys chocolate cream bar be a suitable substitute in an emergency?)

Saltnpepa you sound like the kind of person who would park like that.

Talc But THAT ferret doesn't look crazed If anything, it looks quite Zen. No, that card will only confuse her and maybe even make her angry, because of the seeming contradiction between the ferret described and the ferret depicted.

I must have a bitchy resting face but my mad woman laid into me as I was telling my friend a funny story and I was laughing so my face must be really bad!

Not at all ... You're a very attractive woman with a beautiful smile and a friendly, approachable demeanour

Would you like a creme egg?