To be fed up with all the Mother's Day angst on here

[ConstanceMoan]

It's the same every flipping year!

Angst because DH/DP wants to see his mum that day. Cue lots of angry responses about how the OP is now the "matriarch" and MIL can just fuck off

Angst because nothing special has been planned for the OP.

I hate to break it to you but it's just another Sunday, we have dozens of them every year. If you need one particular day for your DH and DC to show you how much they love you then something is wrong in your home.

Yanbu! Same old, year in year out.

It's only going to get worse

Sun/Mon/Tues will be full of posts about Facebook show offs etc...

It's not about Mother's Day though is it? All special occasions/days seem to highlight the problems in peoples relationships. Many seem to think that their partners are going to change (or guess what they want/need) then there is the fall out when the disappointment arrives.

I agree. Nothing special. It's my birthday the same week and I get plenty of attention for that. We are a family that features flowers, small gifts and other tokens of appreciation for each other throughout the year.

Yanbu. It's all got too commercialised Imo. I don't want a fuss. I'm happy getting the card they've made at school. If I get flowers or chocs as well - happy days! If not well I'm more than capable of going and buying them myself.

YABU just because it does not mean anything to you, does not mean no one cares about it.

I took a long time to conceive my son and I nearly lost him. Being with him on Mother's Day, a day I grew up with it being important means a hell of a lot to me.

I have great memories of choosing a present for my mum and trying to make her breakfast in bed. We always make a effort for it.

Yanbu. Luckily I'm going away with a friend this weekend and mil lives in NZ. Dh will be at home with the dc wrapping my millions of presents

YANBU
And there will always be a few sob stories along the way to justify all the angst and belly aching about it.

So soon after Valentines day to

I'm interested to know what it is about some women, that make them go all Mumzilla on mother's day?

I don't think I've ever seen anyone go Dadzilla on Father's day.

I really can't work it out.

So hide the threads then instead of clicking on them and then moaning about it. YABU, btw.

Aye that. I want a homemade card from the little ones and a cup of tea in bed. I don't give one single fuck about what anyone else is doing/getting. They could post pictures of themselves draped with diamonds and World's Best Mum written across the sky, I honestly could not care less.

I'll send a lovely card to my mother, ring her and tell her I love her, and go for a walk in the woods with DH and DC and have a quiet and loving day.

Meh I don't make a big deal of it personally and I doubt DH will remember (Ds is only 2) since we're abroad so he won't be bombarded by adverts in shops etc. BUT for other people they like it to be a special day. Maybe they have fond memories of doing it for their mum as a kid, maybe they're particularly busy and don't get much opportunity for a special day with all of their family, maybe they do a lot at home and what a little special recognition once a year.

Christmas and Birthdays are just another day but some people like to make a big deal of them

Just because I don't care much I don't feel the need to look down on others that do.

I've just said this on another thread, but I find it very interesting that a lot of posters here complain that adults sons never see their mums and his life is revolved around his wife and then start saying that mothers of adult sons can fuck off on Mother's Day. I'll probably get flamed for this but I wonder if it's some kind of female competition thing to be top dog in a man's life as I don't see so much angst surrounding SILs and dads.

And I've seen a lot of threads on here bash people for being upset at not having their birthday acknowledged or celebrated by their partner which really surprised me, as I've always thought wanting to celebrate your birthday to be a fairly normal thing. I don't see what the difference is between a birthday and Mother's Day.

Mother's Day angst, birthday angst, Christmas angst - all just accumulated resentment and the festering fractures in a relationship being pushed clearly into the light.

It's always a sad reflection upon how poor some people's relationships are, combined with their utter inability to communicate.

YANBU !

Its such a commercialised event ! does my head in tbh...in our house valentines, mothers day, fathers day etc...they dont exist. we just dont do them. It will be a normal sunday.

I actually have a family occassion totally unrelated to mothers day to attend on Sunday. I usually work every sunday but have got the day off to attend this event. It caused a lot of grief with certain people in the workplace who feel they should have the day off (we can only allow one off at once) because its Mothers Day and they are a Mother 'Mothers shouldnt have to work on mothers day' aparently....what a load of old tripe.

My DS will probably make me something in nursery on Friday and for that i will be very grateful and im sure he will enjoy giving it to me but thats as far as it goes.

Id rather have a spontaneous bunch of flowers from DH than getting them because i sign in the shops say so....as well as the fact the stuff is at highly inflated prices

Oh God, you are sooo NBU! I always feel so sorry for the people who panic about what to get their mums because their mum is "fussy" or moans.

I was talking to someone the other day who said that they hated Mother's Day because their mum is fussy and she never knows what to get and blah blah blah.

I would hate for my DDs to feel like that . A home made card and a cup of tea in bed is ace!
I remember my mum crying when I was little because she didn't like the flowers that I got her . I had chosen them myself and was so excited to give them to her. I felt awful and I remember it every Mother's Day. I must have been about 10.

YABU to think that 'mums' on 'mumsnet' will/wont be happy with Monthers day - its a discussion board, and thats what people do

Its like saying, i dont like seeing people being unreasonable on the AIBU boards

Mothers day is not like a birthday!!! The thread was surely started about the fact that there is some angst in threads from people who want all the attention rather than it going to their mother in law. Unless you share a birthday with your mother in law that's not a good comparison!

YANBU!

It's not a big deal in my family at all. I will send my Mum a card & prezzy and may or may not get anything from my children. It may well pass by completely unrecognised by DH (he lost his own Mum over 30 years ago so it's totally not on his radar). There will be no sulking or angst whatever happens

In all other ways it will be a normal Sunday!

Its actual Mothering Sunday to do with 'mother the church' - just another christian festival hi jacked by card shops, restaurants , the internet and just about anyone who can make a few bob. Fair play to them all, but the grief it causes seems to grow bigger each year! ( not religious by the way, my mum was and hated the commercial side of this and Christmas etc)

I don't do Mother's Day, Valentines and don't get twitchy at Christmas either.

It's clearly very important to some and fair enough but the stress must be a fucking 'mare to have to contend with.